I am Fr.John Peter, planning to start a home for the destitute women in India. What is your suggestion to me?

Question

We are plannig to register a Charitable Trust to help the people (especially women and children) in need. We would give more importance to community based programmes, paying special attention to Human Rights.

Answer 1

John I am expressing my view. I believe in serving the needy than serving the God. There are too many destitutes in India who are severly prone to neglection. A thought of lending a helping hand is appreciable. I admire the path of Mother Theresa.

There are many such efforts in India who took a part of the society like slum children, homeless women, oldage home or orphanage homes. So I think you have already picked up your part. I see your limiting factors are community and cause of destitute. The scaling of the society is deciding factor for Trust's activities and functions.

There should be guiding principles to help you make decisions in each of the situation. I would like to make reference of a Quote from Gandhi in this " Try to remember the poorest of the Poor you have seen. And judge how this decision is going to benefit him". The team who you call "We" should be driven by service motive and not profit motive. They should all abide by these guiding principles. Service motive is not just lending out some funds. But how many of you can touch a homeless, sick and unclean person lying on street to die. If the thought itself is below dignity better not to proceed ahead. I know every one has an answer " we can hire people who can do all that for us ". What difference does it make between the neglection they are prone and the care from the people you pay instead of compassion. It requires great levels of compassion to care for such people. How much of it does your "We" have?.

There should be motivation and inspiration each time you face obstacles. It deserves a lot of strength and determination. An inspiration can be from the person who dedicated whole life for a simillar job in an appreciable way. The motivation is the need of the needy.

The Trust gathers trust when proves its legitamacy and delivers the restored citizens back to the society. which inturn is the crucial factor to attract funding for the Trust and growth.

Adressing the needs of the needy is a very crucial factor. There are many kinds of problems physical, psychological, social, family. All these problems root cause lie with the neglection they are prone to. This was the factor that Mother Theresa has tried to address all her life.

Forming a trust with a big bang with good facilities good infrastructure is like what appears to me. If I were to do something like this I would first bring in one destitute to my home serve him till he feels he can join the stream of society. Assess my own compassion, mould my own self to serve better. This will make me symbolic to the people who would like to join me in this effort. Every other person who joins will be serving atleast one person. This is how it can turn in to a Charitable trust.

John I have been a bit emotional writing this because I have let a homeless sick woman on a street to die on pretext that some one will take care of her untill i saw a muncipality Van picking up her dead body. Even seeing her in the immobile state I could just grieve but not help her what was holding me back you know the lack of enough compassion. These are a sort of feelings that I feel for myselves whenever I think of charity and service don't take it personally.

Answer 2

Go to India first and learn a little bit about their culture and try not to bring your Western Christian biases with you. My experiences with NGOs are all mostly negative. Do-gooders almost always screw things up in "impoverished countries" because of the complete lack of local understanding and the arrogant attitudes. To do good in another persons country you need to see what that person considers good. I know this sounds obvious but I can't even begin to relate the idiocy and harm caused by NGOs, religious groups, and other "benevolent" groups that I personally seen in SE Asia.

Answer 3

Dear Father. John Peter,
Please start your charitable organisation in Kashmir where I heard that there are several thousands of widows who had lost their husbands in the ongoing war between Indian army and the Pakistan Terrorists. Please bring in much of the wealth from Vatican to help these countless muslim women in Kashmir, for them to learn a trade like tailoring,handicraft and embroidery and for them to live a dignified life and for them to sustain their family, their children. Create a great Sale of the Products of these pitiable widows and bring all the rich of the World to buy these things and generate money so that this kind of work can be started by you throughout India.
The Second Priority Place where you should start The Home for destitute Women is Varanasi,Kasi,etc where I read that several thousand Hindu women (widows and women left by their husbands) live in the temple buildings around these places begging to make a living and their misery is horrible.
The third place where you should start the Centre is in the infamous Red light area of Mumbai( ex bombay) where your centre can rehabilitate these poor women, many of them brought into this flesh trade without their knowledge by their crooked relatives who tell these teen and their poor Parents that their girls can find a decent job in the houses Of the Wealthy in Bombay and then they sell these girls for just Rs 10,000(220$) to 50,000($1100) to the Brothel Owners. It was heart rending to read reports of thousands of innocent young girls from Nepal brought into this trade by scoundrels who had promised them good jobs.

Answer 4

if you are really interested in helping them, then try to give them an oppurtinuty to earn and serve during the time they live in that. they will feel good and also will feel the proud and also you and your helping society will not have to worry about any expnses
regards,
vikas kumar

Answer 5

If you do so ,,,, You are really GREAT.........
I would really appriaciate you coz people of the present generation are very stuborn. They just think only about them & not bothered of anyone else.

Answer 6

Come up with a new scam Brother.

Answer 7

are you 4 real if so keep your pecker in your pants those women have been through enough

Answer 8

if what you are saying is true, then give them the means (i.e. job training) so that they can contribute positively to their society...

Answer 9

reasently a fraud bishop found un the same way in tamil nadu

Answer 10

You can get help at NGOsIndia.com.