anounced her separation to her workmates, yet is going to a wedding with her new boyfriend?
I know that some of my workmates will 'gossip' about the matter, seeing as how I got married to the other guy while employed there.
Should I say something in advance, or should I just show up with new beau (who, btw, is 30 years my senior)?
Help!
2006-09-08 00:11:14 · 16 answers · asked by bye bye! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Those same workmates will "gossip" anyway. Live your life and don't worry about what they think. Who knows what skeletons are in their closets? Right? And the age thing? If it doesn't bother you, then it shouldn't bother them. Do they pay your bills? No.......so hold your head high and have fun. Good Luck
2006-09-08 00:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by chattykatty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that there will be plenty of your co-workers there, I would say something in advance. That way you can avoid the bulk of the gossip at the wedding itself. You'll have to put up with it one way or another, but a wedding is not the place for it. Your new guy shouldn't have to listen to it either.
Just mention while on a break that you and your husband are separated and have started divorce proceedings. While it's not any of their business, you shouldn't shock them with the news on a day when the main topic of conversation should be something else, i.e. the bride and groom.
You also need to let the bride and groom know that you are bringing a guest, and not your husband if you haven't told them yet. They have a right to know who you are bringing to their wedding.
As for the age difference, there is no way to hide that. There is no way to make narrow minded people accept it, all you can do is ignore the talk and live your life.
2006-09-09 12:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry what others think or say about you. This is your life not theirs. They don't have the full picture of the marriage and probably won't understand but why care.
You should do what makes you happy not what makes others happy.
Myself I would take the new boyfriend without any warning to others.
I have been separated for many years now. Still people have their comments on how I should go back to my husband. Give me a break. They have no clue what kind of relationship we had behind closed doors. Yes people judge me when I have a boyfriend. I don't care what these other people think. What matters to me is what makes me happy.
We will be starting our divorce soon mainly cuz he has a girlfriend that he fell in love with and they are talking about marriage. We kept our legal marriage for insurance purposes. That is no longer needed so now it's time for our divorce. Most people don't know that is the reason we stayed together legaly yet in separte homes.
Anyhow, don't worry what others think or what they say. I wouldn't say a word I would just show up. Then again that is me and I really don't give a rats a** what others think.
Good luck
2006-09-08 07:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show up and really give them something to talk about. I was say, if they are talking about me, then they are leaving someone else alone. Honey, you don't have to tell them anything. They are your co-workers, not guardians. You have every right to go to the wedding and have a date. I think it's great you are getting out and have met a man that you are interested in. Doesn't matter the age difference.
My best friend, Cathy married a man that is 26 years older than her. It's just amazing to see the two of them. He has made her so happy, and I am frankly jealous of her. He showers her with attention, and treats her like she's his world. They hold hands, and from what I understand from Cathy, age is not hindering him in the bedroom either. She is so happy and the smile has left her face yet. And it's been over a year now...still honeymooning..
So, you just go and have a wonderful time. And if the gossip club wants to talk, then give them something to talk about. If you don't they will just proably make up something! Have a blast, and I wish you well. It's great!
God bless us all.......................
2006-09-08 10:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could just pretend he's ur father :) no, im so kidding sorry! its really none of their business. but if ur worried about the gossip id probably let ur workmates know that uve been separated for a while but havent felt ready to tell them or whatver, and that ur are seeing someone new. so long as ur happy who cares what others think really, but having said that i probably would tell them first because if i was u i wouldnt want them to think u were doing something sneaky on the side!
2006-09-08 07:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on! You know the answer to your own question. Sure they are going to say something. Maybe not all your coworkers, but a majority will. Why take a boyfriend to a wedding when you are about to get divorced from your husband. It doesn't make sense to me. Good Luck! and God Bless
2006-09-08 07:16:11 · answer #6 · answered by dempseyville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask your self "am i crazy? "to go to a wedding with your new boyfriend that your co workers know your Ex-husband. if you say no. Go to the wedding
Next Question Is your Ex husband Nut? if no. Go to the wedding. can you handle the gossip when you go back to work? If yes, go to the wedding. If you say no to any one of them then do not go, simple as that....
2006-09-08 07:26:58 · answer #7 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you need to learn to keep your private life separate from your professional life. It's really not their business. I would go to the wedding alone if it was with all my coworkers. Or take a girlfriend.
2006-09-08 07:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Starr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as has already been said, people will gossip, regardless of whether you have told anyone or not. It would be polite to tell the bride so that they can cater for the right amount of people, but I don't see why you should have to tell anyone else.
2006-09-08 08:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you have to saqy something in the first place, unless you wanted to cause gossip, and you wanted everyone to broadcast your business, its none of thei business, but now that you have mentioned something they'll wonder when they'll see you with your new beau. good luck getting out of this one
2006-09-08 07:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋