i met a girl at a party and we started dating the next week. then a month later she moved in. then like a week after that we were talking about marrage. now 11 months into the relationship i want out. shes a nice girl and all but i just dont love her. i dont know if i ever did or not but i know i dont anymore. ive been thinking that maybee if she moved out it would give me space again and it will be fine. but when i brought it up to her she cried cause i was kicking her out of her home. now i feel like im stuck with her and as time passes by the less i love her and the more i want her out. please can someone tell me what to do. just let it pass or go ahead and do what i want and kick her out?
2006-09-08 00:09:43 · 16 answers · asked by yakamita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you share an apartment, or is this a home you own, she owns with you?......It could be or not be complicated. If it's an apartment, give her your portion of the rent for the upcoming month, tell her she can keep 1/2 of the deposit and find a new place to live. Be gentle and kind, this is obviously hurting her. If you own the house then you can just ask her to move out and tell her you will give her a month to find a new place. If you both own the house, then you will either have to buy her out or sell
to her.
2006-09-08 02:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by bluejasmine3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Sit down with her and explain how you really feel. Stress the fact that it's not about her or anything she did wrong, but that it's part of who you are, that you need your space.
2. Ask her for suggestions and actions that would be acceptable to both of you.
3. If all else fails, Tell her you are going to stay with a friend for a month, and you hope that she takes the month to find another place and move out.
Stick to the truth, no matter how hurtful you think it is, it's never as hurtful as if you pretend feelings you don't have.
2006-09-08 00:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by JoseK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, that you don't love her anymore and that she should find someone else, but tell her in a gentil way, after all maybe she still loves you.
If you tell her there's a good chance that she will want to move out, if not she will find a place of her own sooner or later. You can't just throw someone you loved out, you have to be gentil when you brake the news.
2006-09-08 00:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Faust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a really hard situation your in and unfortunately I dont think it's a rare occurance. Just be honest with her again. And follow the others post advice if she won't go you go.. if you stay it will just build resentment anyway. The last guy i broke up with I made a list of pros and cons about the relationship and honestly went over it with him. It seemed to help some. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-08 00:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by dakittenizcozmic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go ahead and kick her out. Regardless what you do, she's going to be hurt. Just try to explain to her that you don't think its working for you right now and you need some space. You understand it's her home too, but you don't want to lead her on anymore until you know what you want. And please don't do the whole "its not you, its me" speech. I personally hate it. Just stay calm and don't get angry with her. She will undoubtably be upset (wouldn't you?). Either way, it needs to be done cuz if she stays, you'll just begin to resent her. Then it'll just get much uglier after that. Good luck to ya.
2006-09-08 00:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, I know wht u r talking bout. My language mayt sound a bit harsh to u but tht truth is if she stays long enough two lives will b ruiened urs n hers.
B strong & try to bring as much frnds of urs as u can. It should be sufficient to enoy her. Keep repeating this act.
Try & ask any of ur gurl frnds to help u out wid this. Make her as jelous. Let her know, she dont hav any space neither in ur heart nor at ur place.
2006-09-08 00:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by traveler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way, she is going to cry...she loves you.
But what is better, to drag her feelings on and on like this? If you ever loved her at some point, it is less cruel to cut it off NOW and allow her to find someone that can love her.
Sounds like she's ready for a serious L/T relationship. Help her see that you aren't and that she deserves to pursue her happiness.
2006-09-08 00:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by bye bye! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with her and help to move out. Next time realize what it's all about -- infactuation and don't move ahead so fast. You two hardly knew each other, so this is a lesson learned.
2006-09-08 00:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her straight its over your only going to hurt her more by pretending tell her you feel you both moved to fast and you need space just be honest with her good luck choose your words carefully but they have to come from you be honest all the best
2006-09-08 00:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by angel 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though this might hurt her you need to tell her and be firm about it. Tell her how you feel and that you believe that this is the best thing.....
If that does not work, be blunt and tell her she has to leave end of story.
2006-09-08 00:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋