My bf said to me seriously, that I would never say anything to upset him. I can tell that he really like me, and I feel loved when he's with me.
But he uses these words...like "you're extreemly hot" "Let me f**k you" and deeply kisses me in public, touching my butt...
Which sometimes makes me feel like I'm treated as a piece of meat. ...or is it a cultural difference? (I'm asian 27, he's english 31)
Would it confuse him if I said that it hurts my feelings for being said...? I really like him, other than this bit...makes me feel like crying sometimes.
2006-09-07 23:53:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hello sis;this does not really make me feel he does not like you; but sincerely u have to tell him know by using the word "it makes u feel like crying" then am sure with the soft spot he has for u he wll change. cos anything that will make u cry he will not do it if he likes u but i think he does; may be if u cry one day and if asked what is wrong with you; u can tell him he will feeel sooo bad; Good luck
2006-09-08 00:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by segsky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pls speak
Asians have this habit of thinking if something is said will the other feel hurt. That is not true.
True love or friendship does not have a sorry or thanks in its dictionary so feel free and talk to him if he is not treating you as a piece of Meat then he will stop doing things what you dont like.
2006-09-08 07:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Loviingly_Yours 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All men are like that. Some guys act to be very nice with you(more in Asia) and other ones are direct enough, though shameless. But know it that guys treat women like that.
You are feeling like this because of a cultural difference, I m sure.
2006-09-08 07:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Luck 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how it feels when someone treats you like an object of meat. To stop this habbit of your bf...jst behave the opp. way you behaved till date. You also touch him and kiss him hard in public, you also run your nails on chest and press his buttocks in public....he will sooner or later ask you the reason for behaving this way and at that time you can explain how you feel and ask him to stop doing this to you......Initially he will enjoy but later he will also feel the way you do now.....So be strong and react smartly....
2006-09-08 06:57:52 · answer #4 · answered by h p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. Maybe it is cultural difference, and everyone is brought up differently. If he doesn't make you feel better, then just forget about it. He needs to respect you for who you are and treat you the way you should be treated.
Cheer up. =)
2006-09-08 06:57:59 · answer #5 · answered by gummy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the things that you feel when he does those things to you. even if he is your boyfriend, he should know the limitations. like being so PDA.
he must be kissing you privately so that you will appreciate it more. right? i know that it's odd but the things that he is doing to you is not still about loving... it's lust...
he is not respecting you already... tell him that those things are not good so he should eventually stop.
if he will got mad, just give him a space that his anger will subside...
go on you can do it....
be honest!!!
2006-09-08 07:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by carendawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am african, and in my culture, that aint allowed. maybe nicely tell him to watch his words, u know, instead of saying FU CK he culd say "baby lets make love"... and in public, tell him bout your culture, let him not touch yo but any how coz i think i can feel like a slut... Just talk to him n i hope he understands.
2006-09-08 07:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds hot
2006-09-08 07:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think you only dislike his actions when he does all that in public, otherwise you like his duing all those.and as a person you also like him
There is nothing wrong in that if you tell him politely that he should do all that in public and its ok occasioally when you two are alone you can understand his feelings , he should also understand urs.
2006-09-08 07:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by soofi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk. Tell him if he doesn't respect how you feel. Get rid of this guy!
2006-09-08 07:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by wil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋