I just started dating a cops daughter. Were both 18 and she lives with her parents. Her dad doesn't seem to like the fact that she is dating anybody let alone me, My question is how do I prove that I'm not a bad guy. He is very over protective and wont even let her go to my house. I don't want her to get into trouble by lying to her dad but what other choice do i have. I really like this girl. We have been friends for a year but her father never met me
2006-09-07 23:40:58 · 9 answers · asked by Chogie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have met a couple times the past few days just never for the year I've known her. And about her dad being a cop hes over protective because of some of the things he has to deal with
2006-09-07 23:48:18 · update #1
No matter if he's a cop or not first thing he is a father and you are going to have to earn his trust it will take time.
2006-09-07 23:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what are you waiting for? You've been dating his daughter for a year and you haven't met the family yet? No wonder he doesn't like you. I wouldn't like you either. (Or is it that you've known her for a year and you just started dating? How long have you been dating?)
By not presenting yourself to him in an upfront way it makes it look like you have something to hide or you and she are doing something shameful and you haven't got the guts to face him.
If you are actually interested in a long-term relationship with this girl then insist that she introduce you to her dad and mom.
Don't come into the house looking like a stoner or a biker. Don't wear any of those pants that are falling off your rear. Wear normal fitting clothes and look normal. Talk about your job or your plans for college. Say things that will make him think that you are actually thinking about the future and what you are going to do with it.
It would be best if she doesn't wear a low cut blouse so you won't even be tempted to look at her cleavage. He knows the reality of the way people behave but it would be best if you do nothing to make him think that you can't wait to get her in the sack.
And why on earth would he want his daughter to go to your house? Are you thinking straight? I wouldn't want her to go to her boyfriend's house either. This is really inappropriate so make it clear that all your dates will be somewhere besides YOUR PLACE.
2006-09-07 23:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing you can do is just show your a genuine nice guy who wants to take care of his daughter and not screw around. I'm afraid the only way it's going to work is if you give it time and try to get to know her parents, normally the mum is easier to talk to than the dad and she will then be able to talk the dad around.
Trust me us dads are very protective of our little girls!!
2006-09-07 23:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are starting on a bad note here, pal, to even think about lying to her father!! What is the matter with you???? If you cannot go with the plan here, I suggest that you find a girl who will fit your needs. I praise the father for being involved.....more parents should be! I think he is making a good call with you..........I would not trust you either.
2006-09-07 23:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Country_girl you are dead right
To add on
Fathers are protective and they love their daugther more than themself. They always want her to pick on the best boy in town,
What you are doing is right earn yourself his trust and everything will fall in place dont over do anything even if you go to the point of frusturation which you will have to face and most important do not show any dis respect for him even when you are talking to your friends or to your GF
Best of luck
2006-09-07 23:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things take time. You know though, you and she could get involved in the community somehow. Volunteer somewhere helping out. Ask him, together, what he might suggest. That is a win, win situation!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-07 23:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by kirby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess just give it sometime,be a responsible person first earn a decent living and when you thinking you are ready to take this relationship any firther,go ahead and meet her dad and let him get to know you!!good luck!!
2006-09-07 23:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slow w/ the girl and get to know her Dad a little. Let him warm up to you!
2006-09-07 23:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
adult men are weird and wonderful. that that they had likely say no because they are scared in the adventure that they broke up with you that your dad would damage them. that's stupid, HE ENFORCES THE regulation, HE would not spoil IT!!!!!
2016-11-06 21:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by derival 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋