is it right to still grieve after twenty years for your mother?

Answer 1

not unless it is ruining your life cos you can't get over it...

Answer 2

Do not look back. We all lose our loved ones one day or the other. Life must go on.. and life comprises of death which is the ultimate. After a person passes away, we do not grieve but try to stay contend that we were fortunate to have that person amidst us and be happy at all times, living by those fond memories that the person has left behind. Mothers are fathers are no different and we must cherish their memories the most. This is a very good question and answering this has opened my own heart and i am remembering fondly my (late) parents. Thank you!!

Answer 3

as per the scriptures.... a dead person will have be reborn either as a human being, animal or as sentient beings within 21 days of his/her death. People still give away alms in the name of the death and they go on performing annual rites in their memory.

Well, you can remember all those good and fond memories of your mother but do not grieve over the past. She is gone and no more. It will make you worse. So the best thing is not to grieve for her for nothing can bring her back... It's already 25 years and you should have got over having lost her by now.... Please do not grieve. Make your life meaningful and make it happy

Answer 4

It is perfectly normal for you to still miss your mother. There is nothing wrong with missing someone who has died... and nothing wrong even crying at times about it. The only time it is a problem is if it affects your daily life to the extent that you can do nothing else. If you are grieving (wearing black and walking around depressed), then I think you maybe need some therapy.

I am not an "expert"... but I have lost my mother and I am a Nurse... and I know what is normal and what isn't.

Answer 5

Of course it isn't about 'right' or 'wrong' to grieve for someone for a very long time... everyone's different, we're not textbook cases or human subjects!
I'm sure you're not the only one who's in this situation.. the more important question is, are you grieving so much that it consumes your life? Takes over? Is it ruining your day-to-day life? It's ok to be sad, just try and seek help (ie counselling) if it will help the situation?

Answer 6

It is right to grieve for as long as u feel its right to grieve! u will probably think of her on ur deathbed. i dunno what kinda relationship u had with her but even if it was non existent, u would still grieve her loss. If u feel it is disrupting ur life n u wanna change this then seek professional help from a counsellor or similar. If u r just wondering if u r abnormal, then stop wondering cuz grief is more personal n varied than personal choice of religion and can NOT be dictated by others.

Answer 7

My mom has been deceased 20 yrs. this yr. I was 13 when she took her own life. I still miss her and think of her, but I have my own family now and grieving that many years is very draining on a person. You just have to remember the good times and put the grief behind you.

Answer 8

Is it grieving or do you miss her, my mother has been gone for over 13yrs now and I still miss being around her, sometimes I cry, and other times I want to talk to my siblings about how much I miss her. I still cry. So its not about right or wrong, I believe it is still ok to miss her, but if it is consuming you where you are getting depress, I believe you should seek help.

Answer 9

It depends on what you mean. If your meaning, getting sentimental on her birthday, Mothers' day or the anniversary of her death, yes that's okay. You should never forget your mother and what she meant to you. It's wonderful to think on and talk about memories of her. But this is all okay as long as you are still able to lead a healthy productive life, which, I'm sure you are since it has been 20 years. I lost my mother 22 years ago, and I still get teary eyed when I look at pictures or think of things about her. I get especially teary eyed when I look at my own children who will never know the privilege of knowing such a remarkable woman. Best of Luck to you.

Answer 10

You obviously have unresolved issues with your relationship with your mother. After 20 years, you should have been able to move on. I suggest that you go to counseling and not waste 20 more years on this. I was a hospice nurse and I deatl with this issues along with death and dying. I am speaking professionally.......go get some help!!!

Answer 11

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