A question about virginity?

Question

For the girls who are saving themselves for marriage, how important is it to you that your future husband be a virgin?

For guys, how impotant is it to you that your future wife be a virgin?

What is the right age for (You) to be married?

Do guys think about marriage as much as girls "seem" to? Do you fantacize about it, and plan your marriage in your head?

Thanks in advance for your answers, I've read so much here, I'm very curious to see what you think. :)

Answer 1

Guys may not fantasize about marriage like women do, I don't know too many guys that have planned out their marriage ceremony years before they got married.

To answer your first question, virgin or no virgin, men and women who are getting married should only be doing so if they truly love each other. If they are truly in love, whether she is a virgin wouldn't matter to him.

That being said, there are plenty of women out that wished they saved themselves for marriage, not solely for the reason of saving themselves for their husband but for all of the negative effects of having sex too young. And there are many negative effects.

Answer 2

Hi Kari. Very deep questions. Hope I can be of help with my simple little answers. I think sex is just a very natural part of human life, so I never thought that as a woman I had to save or protect anything any more than a man did. The question for me is not when I use my body, but how, why and with whom. If it is an adult relationship that is loving and mutual, then I see no wrong in sharing myself with someone who will share with me. Like most women, I think about marriage. I dream of having a home and family of my own. But I also dream of what I can do in my life so it isn't all about just getting married. Too many women have done that and regretted it. To be someones partner for life, I need to be as strong, independent and intelligent as I can be. I don't care if the man is a virgin. I care much more about his character, compassion and commitment. Thanks for asking. I hope you will always respect yourself, Kari, and do what you think is right.

Answer 3

God's perfect plan for our lives is that we remain virgins until you get married. I think the majority of men would love for their wives to be virgins till the 'Day' although some guys prefer experience. I think it is one the greatest gifts to give your husband and follow God's plan. It is rare and if you are still one, save yourself for marriage.

Right age to get married: I think you need to be at least 20 although it is the maturity that matters. Marriage involves a lot of compromise, trust and sometimes sacrifice to be successfull which entails a high degree of maturity. It is something not to be rushed into.

Answer 4

I'm saving myself for marriage and as much as I would like my future husband to be a virgin I know I could forgive him if he had made a mistake

The right age for me to be married is when i get asked by the right guy

Answer 5

If my future wife is a virgin, it would be a BONUS. I would prefer a virgin gf tobe my wife rather than the non-virgin one. These days, with AIDS preying the human race, its better to choose a "clean" / virgin wife.

Right age.... for a woman, probably before 30 y/o. It is also important to have her forst child before 30 y/o. It is related to woman's biological clock and also a higher risk of having a down syndrom child if a woman has pregnancy >30 y/o.

Answer 6

I'm 38 and this is going to be the second time I'm married. Yes I fantisize about it. The first time was a mistake so dont rush. Didnt fantisize about that one at all.. It just happened so fast. I wasnt a virgin when I got married, Sometimes I wish I was and in some ways its nice to see the package you are getting.

Answer 7

I think being a virgin at marriage is, while still often practices, foolish. Men and women alike need to know the physical aspect of love BEFORE they marry someone, because it is a very important part of a relationship. Sure, a relationship isn't all about sex, but marrying a man without ever being with one in bed is a setup for trouble. The woman won't know if she's being treated well or poorly, and if she's being treated badly, she won't know what to do about it.
In short, being a loose woman isn't attractive, but having experience and confidence, and knowing what you like is attractive, and a smart way to ensure a long lasting marriage.

Answer 8

I Don't Mind If My Partner Is Not A Virgin
We Are Now In A Different Era
Soo I Don't Actually Care
As Long As He Is Not Sick
Right Age To Be Married For Me Is Maybe 26

Answer 9

for me, i think it is just a plus if my wife were to be a virgin cos i dun thnk many gals are virgins nowadays, even the quiet and innocent looking ones.

there is no right age to be married for me cos if u think u r ready then u most already are

not all guys think much about marriage just as not all gals think alot about marriage. i sometimes fantasize about marriage but it doesnt get the better of me, i stick with reality.

Answer 10

My wife has to be a virgin because I would not want to think about her past. and besides that I can not accept a woman having sex with another man especially if she is going to be the mother of my child.

I think marriage age is 28.

I do not think guys are even thinking about marriage....