the old me has gone?

Question

the last few months of my life have been hell and ive realised ive made so many mistakes and now its eating me alive.

it feels like the old me has gone and im nothing like who i was back then. all i think about is what ive done wrong and i hate myself. im scared i will never be the same, the feelings of pain are too overwelming. i dont think i want to be here anymore. how do i get through this?

Answer 1

Get a dog, dogs love you no matter what and it makes you feel good. When you come home you always get a tail wagging greeting.

Answer 2

One thing is certain, you can't go back. The past has gone and nothing can be done about it. All we have is now and a hope for a better future.
This is your starting point. I'm at the bottom, the only way is up. You have to make a conscious decision to stop making these wrong decisions, or going down the wrong path and change course.
You seem to be suffering from some kind of depression. How serious this is, is not for me to say. You need to put yourself in the hands of someone who can help you. If I were you, I would make an appointment with my doctor and explain the situation. My doctor would then advise me on the correct course of treatment I should take or maybe refer me to someone more specialised.
It's never to late to say I want to start over. Each day is a new day and each new day a new beginning. I wish you all the best and I hope that today is the start of something new and better.

Answer 3

Think positively, what ever you did and however wrong you or it was you are still here. Our building blocks in life are the mistakes we make as well the things we do right.

For most of us things that we do, to say the very least can be improved on. Our natural ability to keep these failures in our subconscious is used when we reference new activities, they guide us to make decisions based on our past.

The fact you have recognised your failures consciously is a good and positive way forward.

Embarrassment and fear are emotions that also direct us down the right path and steer us away From danger if you are feeling these in a stronger way than you did before you can take it that you are moving in the right direction to improve your life.

I would not say forget about the past but put it in perspective it is the past and it serves a purpose for the future. Move on and enjoy your self even if it means making a dynamic shift in your life style and interests - go and find some new ones it will ease the pain.

Answer 4

We all make mistakes forgive yourself!

You sound like you need a helping hand too. Your doctor can recommend a counsellor and some drugs to help.

I did this and am now fully recovered. You would be amazed if you knew how many people get depressed at one time or another

It also gives you the chance to change what you hate about your life because you have no choice if you are feeling so sad about it. Life changing stuff depression and often for the better. People change jobs and lifestyles and switch their priority's.

Answer 5

u are me, or at least in the same situation i was in for ages..i used to be the life and soul of the party and life was fun... but then after an event it all went to pot.. might sound strange but eating healthy and drinking water does give you that extra boost you need to get you back out there helps you to start thinking straight, also try kick boxing or a contact sport for not only does it release the pain inside, with every hard punch and kick you are releasing built up emotions, it gets you fit, you look better and then you feel better give it two weeks, if it don't work i will refund Ur points.. lol....also do not want the old you back she is gone start a new you, a better you, a healthy happy you remember your not alone and good luck...

Answer 6

GIRL I HEAR YA!! i haven't made too many mistakes I just wished I new then what I know now about preparing for my future. the old me was ready for anything trying to get somewhere in life.but i didnt have any encouragement around me. everything i wanted to do was positive every comment about it was negative or non- existant.i think it has to do with the people you are surrounded by, even family. you just gotta break away from negativity in all forms. it really holds you back. now i feel like i'm starting all over. but i refused to give up. you can't go anywhere because you have to be here to tell your story to the youngins when your an old lady.

Answer 7

You need to talk to someone openly and honestly about how you are feeling. Have you tried Samaritans? They are there to listen confidentially about absolutley anything that is making you feel distressed. It will help you to talk about it. It could mean you need further counselling/support from a professional but do it. Everyone makes mistakes, absolutely everyone, but not everyone feels a concsience about the consequences of their actions. That is a good start. Get some help and don't let this fester any longer. All the best.

Answer 8

First of all you have to believe you can get through which you can. Second of all forgive yourself let go of all them feelings of anger and hate, is not heathly for you to hold onto these. I myself have gone through the hell, being bullied at work, I began to blame myself for this and made my families life hell because I was angry all the time, which made things worse as I did not like the person I was becoming, I thought on how I done wrong which made me worse. A man I admired for many years give me some invaluable advice, in life we deal with so many issues and so many problems and troubles therefore you have to gain inner peace for yourself. I would like to tell you how I agained inner peace and became a better and stronger person then to old me. This is probleby going to sound silly, but it worked for me and could work for you to, the healing process has to start so this means you need to forget about your troubles and your past, what done is done you can not change it, but you can learn by it, for me I take the I dont care attitude, which you need to look in the mirror at yourself and say I dont care what has happened in the past, today is a new start I am just going to let things happen, everytime you thing about something you did wrong say I dont care, then find a hobbie or something you like doing, do not let yourself think on your mistakes dont entertain them. You need to get your confidence back to do this I listerned to a self confidence hypnosis CD, I laughted when I heard someone else used it but it is true it works, you listern to everyday for two weeks and then after that when ever you need it, it is called Self-Confidence for a positive life you can buy one at www.hypnos.info. Then I began to think differently about life, I would life a simple life I left go of my troubles and problems by saying I dont care, because I had hurt people I vowed I would not allow the same mistakes to happen again, I now do not judge people, Do not think about peoples judgements of me and just have respect for people, if people don't like me that is their problem not mine. I believe you are stronger than you think you are and you can get through this I guarantee, talk it over with someone how you are feeling, if you do not wish to talk to a family member then phone the samaritians they could give you advice, if not seek out a consellor, I believe you can do this without antidepressants, they should only be the last resort if nothing has worked. Believe in you, create a new you that very much resembles the old you but is better, and you will get through this.

Answer 9

im sorry to hear what you are going through, my partner also suffers from depression, and is currently on anti depressants, but i dnt see anti depressants as being the miracle cure, you maybe need to talk to someone like a counsellor about the underlying problems that are eating you up, as thats the cause of the depression, and anti depressants help the anxiousness and the stress but mask the underlying problems which will still be there unless you talk about it and find a way of resolving it, if you understand, i know this as my partner also sees a counsellor due to early childhood probs and more, if he didnt his problems would also still be there, counsellors help you find the right way around things and advise you how to get round obstacles eating you up, i would also say to you my motto is when your so low , you cant get any lower so things can only get better, its seems horrible now but you will get through it with help and you never know in the future you could be maybe helping someone in the same situation, keep your chin up hun, you will get there in the end with help !!!

Answer 10

well all i can say is the age old line, we learn from our mistakes. pick yourself up off the floor, visit a dr for antidepressants and a chat, and move on, you can improve your feelings it will take time though, i had an episode in my life where i felt just like that you do now, did not think i could carry on, i struggled on and came out ok, i am not totally the old me more a wiser one.i was lucky i had a very good friend who listened.

Answer 11

Take the Homeopathic Remedy AURUM MET 30 or 200 in 30 potency thrice a day and in 200 just once a day and report back with your progress fter three days. You will be just fine. It is totally Non Addictive and has no side effects and causes no complications.
Take Care and God Bless you