Im 18 and i told my parents that i wanted to move to a city in another country (my country) where i have an aunt that will have me in her house, but my mom dosen't understand that i want to go on my own, it's not like i don't like my family but i just feel that i want to go alone now. Still my mom dosen't understand no matter how hard i try to tell her this, she says that she will only pay my plane ticket if i acept to go to live with her in an apartament in another city (not the one i wanted), and my dad who agreed with her, last night got up and sayd '' It's my money, my choice''. I don't know what to do, i really don't want to go to that city, plus as i said i wanted to go alone, Im i wrong to feel like this? What should i do? (sorry for grammatic errors im not good at english)
2006-09-07 21:52:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you should get your own money and go on your own dont expect your parents to not want things done their way if they are paying
2006-09-07 21:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have the money to call your own shots or make your own decisions as to where to go, and such, then you should either earn the money to leave or tell your dad it is a loan. It seems like to me he still will not want you to go, so you must ask your aunt maybe to loan you the money and then get a job to pay her back. You are old enough, they are just worried about you. You are old enough, but yet you maybe not be mature enough in the world. You may be gullible and get yourself in trouble. There are people just looking for young girls like you, to kidnap and such. So, that is their concern, and I would be the same. Parents are always more concerned about the girl going out on her own at a tender age. Would you consider going to live where your mother wanted you to go at first, and then go out on your own. They are only worried about you, and I would be too. Don't be hard on your parents, be close where you can let them help you if you need it, then go on out on your own. It is your choice, but I do not know how mature you are and how you would do on your own in regard to strangers taking up with you.
2006-09-07 22:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 11:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there comes a time in life when you have to go on your own, it might be easier to have a parent with you helping, but if you are sure you won't need any help (which I doubt) then go. Promise you will call mom and dad and keep that promise tell her it is only temporary, even if you are not sure it will be temporary. You need space and there is nothing wrong with that, but of course try to be as nice as possible when you leave.
2006-09-07 21:56:39 · answer #4 · answered by jsbrads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its being an adult wanting to strike it on your own, your mother needs to realize that you are not a baby anymore and that you need your freedom, its very hard for mothers to give up their children, my three are old enough that i told my ex that they would move on sooner or later, she wants it later, i told her that it is best that they go on their own sooner the better, but that doesnt mean that she wont help if needed.
2006-09-07 21:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by paki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO. Always be there for family. But, GO. Move until you need to settle, and GO.
Fair winds and following seas.
2006-09-07 22:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Ylyssa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy your own ticket and go where you like. You're old enough to do that now.
Good luck to you :)
2006-09-07 21:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong to feel like this. it sounds like ur parents are having separation issues.
2006-09-07 22:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by rock_lover69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you are old enough to leave. you will be looked after well at your aunts.
2006-09-07 21:54:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋