If suppose, theres a girl who's very nice with me, but her charater , past life was not descent one, she had been with many men..
what should I do? Should I marry her?
2006-09-07 21:46:27 · 19 answers · asked by dinesh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...You all friends, please see below, everyone is giving reasonable & logical answer...which one is best? what would be optimum solution? pls suggest!
2006-09-07 21:57:38 · update #1
all are giving reasonable but different answer..
2006-09-07 21:58:14 · update #2
What is most important to you? If you love her, and you can see that she is a good person (now) does it really matter that she has a past? Is she honest with you? Was she the one who told you she had been with many men? If so, doesn't she deserve credit, doesn't that give you the impression that she has changed, or at least wants to, to be with you. If you can't come to terms with the fact that she has a past, then you shouldn't marry her. If you love her, accept her as she is, and be happy.
2006-09-07 21:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many people have you been with?Dont judge her.She was probly just searching for love and got all twisted along the way ,Make sure your both clean from STDS and talk to her.Its not so important that she has been with alot of a men as could she be faithful to any of them?Would she be faithful to you.Find out why her past relationships ended but ask very gently.If she says oh I just got bored too many times thats a bad sign ,However maybe those men were jerks and could not see her for the special person she is.Bottom line do you love her? Does she love you?thats the most important thing.You should only marry her if you want to be with her and sleep with her.Also never throw the past in her face the past is the past.Best wishes
2006-09-08 05:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u try to discover that is she in love with u n is she sincere with u right now...i give u a trick for that....just for some days u try to make her feel that u r bored of her and u pretend to be tired of her...then stop calling her stop sending her sms.....n then with the consultataion of ur any of the faithfull n decent n beliveable friend or family member u try the gril over him....if becuase of ur rude behaviour she wud be again inrested in any other guy then u can understand that she is still not sincere with u but if she refuses to talk to someone else n wud not be intrested in any one else ...then i means that she has true feelings for u..then forget everything n just be with her...but u need a very faithful person for all this drama......may be it is not for the rest of life but through this u will be able to realize her feelings about ...n it will help u understand about her present contrary to the past.....
2006-09-08 07:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by stranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya you can see if you wish but before marriage. Once you desided to marry her then never see her past character. You should except her in the condition in which she is. Also never ask about her past after future or try to search from any other source. All this will disturb your married life
2006-09-08 06:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by narendra k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you should not marry her since you don't love her .After all its ur life and u should decide.Even if she 'll be honest with u in coming years u will always doubt her character as you have doubted now and probably look after some reason to abuse her .
You should marry someone who loves you and in that case you will not ask about her past life
2006-09-08 04:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by riya k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your own question. You said her PAST LIFE. If you trust and believe in your heart that the character she displays with you is her real character than forget the past, people make mistakes, but love looks past those things and sees the truth. Trust your heart I hope it guides you to the arms of your love. Best of luck, Monique
2006-09-08 04:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by moniiluv17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mistake is not with her but you.
If your mind think that you need not bother about past (completely) you can go ahead.
But If your mind think that It is not possible to ignore past
Get rid of her.
If you are in between ..... You will suffer
Relationship is Gambling ? There is no Life time Guarantee
2006-09-08 06:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by mannan_malar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you should....lots of people change when they get married they know they have someone they love and that they've found that special person. theress no need to want to even care about the past. i've changed very much since i've married my husband. went from wild child to mature. hope you make a good choice.
2006-09-08 04:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by smoochy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whn u r dicided u marry her tht indicates u must hv been wid her since tym n u knw her well so past doesnt matter at all cz things r nt wht they seem smtym n thy jst eatup the r/l
n if u've nt knwn her tht long don marry her so soon its ur life so give it sm tym n think properly
2006-09-08 05:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by Nini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing all the facts you have choosen to marry her. So go ahead and forget the past.
2006-09-08 04:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋