by a boy of the same age.. and same school. And its too late for an abortion..
2006-09-07 21:39:44 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Many people would think of giving up the newborn child for adoption because they give excuses like 'the mother is too young to be a responsible mother...' They don't realise that a 15 year old teenager will one day grow up, constantly haunted by the fact that she has a child somewhere else in this world. She'd never be able to reconcile with the fact that she was once forced to give up her child because her parents think she's brought embarrassment upon the family.
If I have a 15 year old daughter and she got pregnant, of course I would be equally sad and worried. But this is one of the trying moments of a person's life that makes it necessary to accept things as they are. Understand that things can't be undone and I'll need to pray for extra strength to help a traumatized 15 year old and an unborn child through this difficult period.
But I will also have to highlight the consequences to my daughter. She'll never have the same social life ever again as her peers. She needs to come to terms with the fact that the boy who got her pregnant may not necessarily marry her eventually. And she'll need to be extra careful when she finds a life partner later on in life. Will this new guy accept her child? Even if he does, will his family accept the child? She may even need to start work earlier than her peers because she's got a child to take care of. There will be a lot of trials that she will have to go through and I will need to remind her constantly that she must resist the temptation of venting her anger on the innocent child.
2006-09-07 22:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont freak out, because your daughter will need your support - remember shes probably more freaked out and scared by this than you are.
Abortions are probably possible (I'm not sure, because they're illegal here, a system i agree with, but thats a debate for another day), but theres also the option of adoption, or even keeping the baby. A lot depends on the guy, and whether he is willing to stick around.
My cousin was in the same situation- she had a baby at 15, but she is now at uni studying to become a nurse, and he has started school and is doing really well.
Just remember this isnt the end of the world. Hope it all works out.
2006-09-08 04:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by clairelouise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter now needs a lot of understanding and support, especially from her family members. Now is not the time to start pointing fingers and blaming each other for the mistake. It will not help at all.
I am sure she's now in a trauma and without support, she will be stressed. I am not sure how well she can cope with stress, but you should not take the risk of leaving her to cope with the pregnancy by herself.
As they are both only 15 years old, it is likely that they are at a loss as to what to do.
2006-09-08 05:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of mother are you? Don't you know or at least show more love & concerns for yr child?why must things happened in the worst possible way only you realised its too late.My Goodness,she's only 15 yr old ! And you meant to tell everyone you dont even suspect or see any adnormal behaviour or symptoms in yr daughter? Pls get a support group to ask for help immediately.
2006-09-09 01:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her and support her. I have thought of this so many times. I fell pregnant when I was 18 and my parents went off the wall and refused to speak to me other than to tell me to have an abortion. I would not. They came around eventually but not before scarring me emotionally. I do not speak to my mother any more or my step father. What kind of relationship do you want with her? A good one? Do you love her? Then support her no matter what she wants to do.
2006-09-08 05:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be supportive of her. Help her out an dget her through school. Don't do everything for her, but she will need to be a kid too. After all you are the parent and pregnant or not at 15 you are still responsible for her.
2006-09-08 11:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by miz piz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing she must be scared to death and just emotionally shaken to the core...I'd first tell her we love her. Let her know she has support and a home with us. Ask her what she wants to do...adoption or keep her child. Listen to her. Talk about options. We would help her raise her baby till she finished school. I'm sure there's more but those are the most important that pop into my mind right now.
2006-09-08 04:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is the case, you can speak to the guys parent and see how to resolve this mess. if there is no ideal solution, then I thi k you have to report to the police coz even your daughter give birth to the child, she still need to fill in the particulars of the father in the BC. The worst case is that your daughter is considered as minor under the law
2006-09-08 06:52:30 · answer #8 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best I can do is give her my entire support and love regardless of what happened and to guide her throughout her new way of live and responsibilities.And by the way I do have a 14 years old daughter,and it is on my mind these kind of situation
2006-09-08 04:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by algoba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the best of it. They made a huge mistake and now they have to pay for it. She will have to keep the baby when he/she is born and raise him/her. Make sure that the "father" does his share in the upbringing of the child. She is going to need all the support from you and her family and friends
Under no cicumstances must you reject her or the child.
Good luck and God bless
2006-09-08 05:01:44 · answer #10 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋