About your girl friend's story of ex-boyfriend?
My bf seems to be open with his past relationship, but I haven't really talked about mine at all. Just once, because of the circumstance...
He doesn't bring up the subject from him self, but very curious when the subject emerge.
I thought most guys hate listening to his sweet heart's past...?
2006-09-07 21:39:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone needs to know about their partner's past because the past links to the future. We just have to be sincere.
I have a friend whose ex-bf shunned her and when she moved on, she told her new guy what went on in her past relationship. Some months later, her ex came back putting on quarrels with her guy for stealing his girl. Her guy was able to settle the dispute because he had already heard of him before time. Till today, the girl and her guy are still together in love.
So, you must communicate with your partner about your past, present and future. If he loves you, he wouldn't care about your past, instead, he would help to avoid mistakes in future.
2006-09-07 22:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by genipabu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriends pasts rarely bother me but there are good reasons for asking. If a girl doesn't know how many partners she's had that's a good signal to run a mile, it's not so much the number as long as you know the number! Then there's the other bit where the male ego likes to know what kinds of experiences you've had so he can top them and be the best you've had!
2006-09-08 05:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Majority of men in this world are completely self-absorbed and selfish, that's why no-one can find mr. right but end up settling down with someone they don't love in fear of being alone. But If you get fed up of hearing these things about his Ex(s) just tell him, but don't have an argument, just say to him to move on and you've got me now, i can be a million times better for you than she ever was. Also, try not to show you are annoyed or frustrated, but let him know.
2006-09-08 05:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by $@Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it never hurts to be honest about your past, it can be good to discuss it because everybody copes with things in different ways and everybody has a different way of coping. If you each have a different coping mechanism for the same problem then together you have two ways of dealing with it. So life experience and the discussion of it can of course strenthen your relationship.
I think it can be very bad to dwell on past experiences when they are not relevant to your present or prevent you from progressing in the future.
Your partners past as you get older is something that you accept and attempt to understand. mainly because as you get older *everybody* has a past, so you have that in common and can empathise more with the experiences of other people.
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2006-09-08 05:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, we want to know. We are so used to having to divulge everything in our past because we are guilty until proven innocent. We think you'd want to also tell of your past because allegedly women are more open about their feelings, but surprisingly none of you seem to want to or think you should have to. Why is that?
2006-09-08 05:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do want to know because they find out more about you. They also feel like there's a competition and like they have to impress you more then your past boyfriends.
2006-09-08 04:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by Alex TG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate it, but i need to know. now let me clarify. i need to know what you done and with how many people that it. extra detail will just get yourself in trouble. like this one girl who told me she loved giving head. know how the hell would you know you like doing it unless ... aha and gross. know if we're intimate a few time and then you say "i like giving you (know i underline the word YOU) head" that different that's....nice. or another one said "my ex had a huge..." know you see here girls no guy wants to hear that ****. and if he does he just might be gay. anyways there is saying to much so recap i.e. "i had 5 partners and i slept with 3, head with 2, and hj with 1 guy." that it not the taste nor locations you now what i mean. lets say you tell him i did it at the beach.(by the way i girl told me that so this is not bull****) you he will ask you to go to the beach. OK good luck. (i need to find some normal girls)
2006-09-08 04:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Orselo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd rather not know...I just let the past be, it has helped create the one I love and it is what makes her who she is. What she went though is in the past, not now and not in the future.
2006-09-08 04:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Don't stop! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gf is so honest that she even told me the guy who dealt with her virginity. I always became sad but after a time I feel that she told me coz she finished everything with them. Am ok with that. I believe to hide your ex-s, you must be having something fishy to to hide. Be open.
2006-09-08 05:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by akady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just want to know you.
Me, it just depends on the mood. Sometimes I'm curious and sometimes I can't stand to hear about it.
2006-09-08 04:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋