But you don't. You've been together for a month, and now you hear this. You don't want to hurt her, and still want to be with her. She wouldn't lie about this.
2006-09-07 21:35:05 · 11 answers · asked by Alex TG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dun say anything...i just kiss her
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2006-09-07 21:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Prem K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's a woman, she thinks she loves you. She's already thinking of the wedding rehearsal.
You're a man, you don't love her, but you want to be with her. You're looking for a f**K buddy.
If you have any real feelings for her, tell her the truth and move on. She's looking for a relationship, you're looking for a convenient friendship.
If you tell her now that you don't love her but that you want to be with her. She'd ask, but how long do you want to be with me for? Then you'd reply, I dunno, for as long as it's still fun, Then she'd reply SO you have no real intentions towards me.. you're simply digging a deeper hole.
She may have started out with the intention of having fun and just exploring, but now that she's fallen in love with you. The game has changed. If you don't feel the same way, cut both your losses and stay friends.
You don't want to hurt her? Not telling her the truth and leading her on with the 'hope that you would one day fall in love with her', and then behaving as if you do love her, and then suddenly deciding that it's all too hard for you and you want out.. is ultimately going to hurt her 10 times more.
Be a man.
2006-09-08 00:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by JoseK 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's probably mistaken infatuation with love. Just tell her the truth about your feelings and that love needs to be developed. Explain that both of you need to get to know each other better, so that you can accept each other's differences in behaviour and views.
You are being logical
2006-09-07 22:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let her make sure she LOVES you. Maybe she LIKES you, and you must like her too, otherwise you wouldn't want to be with her. And why call her your 'girlfriend' if you don't love her after all? Make up your mind, man, if you don't love her, just let her go. Don't take advantage of her. Don't ruin her future! Either you're a man, or a mouse. Which will it be?
2006-09-07 21:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Likki888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you do not feel love for her then you should not lie to her. Explain that it is going to take more time for you to say the "L" word. Tell her if you are fond of her and enjoy her company. Tell her if you think she is beautiful and special women love to hear sweet talk, but if you do not love her do not say it, and if she persists in wanting you to say "I LOVE YOU", but you cannot say it truthfully explain this to her, and ask her to please give you more time, if that is what you need.
I do not think you should be pressured into saying anything that you do not really feel! Ask her to please be patient with you and if that does not work, then maybe she is not the right girl for you!
Good luck, I don't think you should rush things if you do not truly feel them in your heart.
2006-09-07 21:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by ruthie_msw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with her and with your self. Other wise you are only going to hurt her more in the end and your self as well.Let her know how you feel about her. If you don't love her but like her and care for her and still want to be with her maybe you could try to tell her things are moving a bit to fast for you.
2006-09-07 21:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. That you want to be with her and that you really like her. But also tell her that you care about her but you feel like it's too soon for you to figure out how you feel, so that's why you won't tell her you love her. To soften the blow, tell her the things about her that you really like about her. Whatever it is you say, be honest about it because she deserves to know where you stand.
2006-09-07 21:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her it is nice to hear someone tell you they love you but you are not ready to commit or getting marry and there is no hard feelings, make it short and straight- forward and move on other subject.
2006-09-07 21:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to give you some more time to sort out your inner feelings for her
2006-09-07 21:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by trishul60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hit it and run
2006-09-07 21:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋