Should sex be mainly for intimacy or just for fun? What about life time celibacy, is it worth it?
2006-09-07 21:32:13 · 19 answers · asked by Annmaree 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
its a person choice. Me I dont believe in it!
2006-09-07 21:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by A_Geologist 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
The waiting for sex until being married is a form of virtuous discipline, proving the nobility of man and the sacredness of family life.
The purpose of sex is to have children for worshipping the One True God, it is not a fun, but a holy duty.
No true religions encourage celibacy; human beings were created for sacred marrige to build strong, happy and progressive families. The impure living of men in recent centuries had caused the breakening of families and sending disadvantaged children into misery leading to the misery of the society as a whole.
2006-09-07 21:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can...cool.
if you cant, or didnt...no big deal.
sure you dont want to be a sllutt, that does have terrible consequences, but if you have sex with your girlfriend who you have been with for a long time..i dont see where the problem is.
if you say God is the big deal here, ok, ...then dont do it so you wont displease God. then you are happy becuase you are making God happy.
to me its just a fun thing to do. its also fun discovering how different women react to me. i dont want to get into details but some women are way more fun than others.
by the way, i would never encourage anyone to have sex just for the sake of haveing sex. its a choice i made, but i know its a touchy subjet so i would only tell you if you wait...thats great. if you didnt then dont tear youself up
as for celibacy...i dont know...not for me.
but dont some (actually a lot ) of the religious leaders devote themselves and agree to be celibate then rape children? theres gotta be something wrong with forcing a man to be celibate if he wants to serve god. those are some of the consequences.
2006-09-07 21:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by viajero_intergalactico 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its every ones personal preference and choice. some says that sex is just for fun but if we could take a closer look on how it was being formed and originated during the Biblical times (Genesis chapter 4; and the entire book of Songs of Solomon) we can learn that sex is so plainly pure and honest expression of 2 lovers, but of course in the light of BIblical perspective we honor the command of being united first in marriage before doing so. even celebacy is a gift not every one can have, but only those who are chosen and yielded themselves for the special purpose God has called them to.
2006-09-07 21:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by candee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they're dumb enough to listen to the Bible. Life time celibacy is just stupid.
By the way, know your stats about people waiting to have sex until being married. A survey showed that the majority of high school students had sex at least once prior or during high school.
2006-09-07 21:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by MikeG 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
celibacy is not really what God intended for people. There is a reason why we are able to reproduce...
I think it's best to wait until marriage... that way there are no regrets or resentments later in life.
2006-09-07 21:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mustafa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every religion preaches that sex is chaste because u would
have seen advertisements one man one wife and sounds
safe. So it should be a relationship between husband and wife.
So that society will not get VD/AIDS. never think it is fun. Let God bless u at least u have thought of it before marriage I suppose.
2006-09-07 21:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by ketav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you are sure. I do not recommend waiting until marriage. It can be done for fun, but I have always thought that you should genuinely like the person and make it part of a relationship, even if that relationship is just friendship. I am not a fan of one night stands, quickies with strangers, doing the humpty and never talking to the woman again. That contributes to a hatred of intimacy and women suffer more in reputation. I am not saying its fair, it just is what it is.
2006-09-07 21:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by Andre T 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your sexuality is your decision - nobody else can make it for you.
All I can tell you is my own experience:
I was raised religious and DID save myself for marriage. However, sexuality is a big part of a relationship and only on my wedding night did I realise what a selfish lover my husband was going to be. And I found out that his selfishness in bed was a reflection of every aspect of his life.
A wedding night, for someone who has saved themselves, is imagined to be a life-changing experience. I cried myself to sleep. Without going into details - all he cared about was his own pleasure.
I could not have predicted how it was going to be - and now I was married to the turd.
Before our wedding night, he and I got along really well. But not having lived together and been intimate, I was blind to alot of his true personality (or lack thereof).
The sexual relationship between a man and woman reflects their relationship outside of bed to a degree. You cannot fully know the person you are marrying until you know them in bed.
Needless to say, that marriage fell apart and I am now happily married to a man who thinks of me on every level: sexually, intellectually, and emotionally.
I would say, don't sleep around, but don't deny yourself the experience because it protects you from being naive. And use protection.
2006-09-07 21:44:08 · answer #9 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a Christian and I see it this way. God created marriage, and God created sex. God declared that sex was to be performed between a husband and wife. God has declared sex to be a righteous act between a husband and a wife. I see sex as God's wedding gift to a married couple. To engage in it before marriage is to take away God's joy of giving you this wonderful gift.
2006-09-08 04:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by Guvo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to do. I know many men still want to marry a virgin. To think there is not a Spiritual side to having sex is shallow. Who knows all the implications for any individual case?
2006-09-07 21:47:18 · answer #11 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋