Recently i realise my b/f is seeing his ex lover (frm his sms to her)
and he has express his love to her in his sms..he told her he love only her,wat should i do..
2006-09-07 21:26:51 · 26 answers · asked by CRYSTAL L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should move on even though the process is going to be daunting. If you stay on with him even though he doesn't leave you, you'd spend the rest of this relationship feeling paranoid all the time. The thought of 'when he'll show affection for another girl' will drive you crazy.
And it's not fair for you to cling on further in this relationship because your boyfriend didn't sort out his emotional problems properly before he met you. Why should you constantly be living in his ex's shadow? You deserve a much better guy who will treat you as top on his priority list.
Always trust your own instincts. If you feel that your boyfriend doesn't love you anymore, move on. You must remind yourself that you are not alone even if you break up with this guy. There will always be friends and family to fall back on. And if you are religious, seek comfort in your religion.
Most importantly, you need to remind yourself that many other women have also encountered your situation and they all managed to move on and live an even more fulfilling life beyond that damaged relationship.
2006-09-07 22:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have already find out your bf is two timing, I believe you have lost your trust in him. I think you should have an answer by now. Asked yourself one simple question: " Will the relationship be the same?" Coz this is one of the most important question you should asked yourself and whether you wished to carry on woth this relationship. Normally under such circumstances, the relationship will never last long coz the trust between the couples is lost. What I think you should do is you have to learn to let go of this relationship no matter how it hurts you. You have to be brave and face all challenges that you may face in future
2006-09-08 07:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this will depend on both your true feelings. if you love him enough, why not just sit down with him and have a nice talk about it and see how he feels about the situation before coming to any conclusion? and i suggest you only take him back if, and only if you are sure you can forgive him totally and not use this incident against hin in future. otherwise, the relationship is as good as a gonner. everybody makes stupid mistakes once in awhile. sometimes we just have to learn from it and learn to give grace to whoever that hurts us. by the way, forgiving means that you no longer record the mistake, hurt or injust that has been done to you.. take care
2006-09-08 10:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by dreamy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how much you love him. Let him know you know what he have been doing and ask him what will he do. Where will the relationship between the 2 of you go? Will you get married live happily ever after or its just up to fate. I will consider other man. If its ok for him to be with another women so it is ok just to let the relationship go on with no string attached. Don't be too vunerable.
2006-09-09 06:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by MissCuriousity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend who was in love with his ex but I took him back and I was always thinking about it and I didn't trust him and at the end I cheated on him to get even...Just let him go he will make you loos a lot of time and nerves for nothing..If he did it you won't forget him, never...
2006-09-08 06:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by Crogirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your experience is common to both sexes male or female alike. The only thing I could advice to you is forgive but the trust for that person is yours to decide. Anybody can commit that mistake but what matters most is the degree of trust you give to that individual.
2006-09-08 04:34:23 · answer #6 · answered by SPED Teacher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring the issue to the table and move on. No need for you to hang around with someone who doesn't have your best interest at heart. And if he goes back with her he'll probably cheat on her so nothing lost.
2006-09-08 07:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by Starr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. If he can't commit to you now, when pressure is really light, he'll be totally useless when the future pressures of a relationship, marriage, and kids enter the picture. Don't waste your time with him.
2006-09-08 09:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on..your won't let him go. The man takes care of business. If you let him go, their is nobody to take care of your needs. You want him back, so what's the problem, forgive and forget. Move on life is to short.
2006-09-08 04:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yur BF a kick on his *** , humilate him , embarass him & do every possible thing to degrade him & make him realize that he dare not take you for a ride or play around with your feelings
2006-09-08 06:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋