How do I talk sense into my friend who does coke?

Question

I have a friend who does coke a lot, he seems like he is always high. And now he is telling me he isn't interested in doing things like having sex! which worries me b/c it must be serious if an 18 year old doesn't want sex... Anyone know facts I can tell him about..maybe stats..why its not legal in the US... why we are taught we shouldn't do it? He says its not bad to do..its just like drinking or smoking weed. I need rebutles for him! please..help!!

ok i get what u people are saying..number 1 we arent close enough friends for him to care if i say our friendship or the dope b/c i know he would pick it ...number 2 i can't just send him to counseling or put him in rehab...what am i supposed to do ..trick him into going? then shove him in the door? then what? goto his house and explain to his mom what i've done? she will be like who the f are you!?

ok he wants to know why he should quit...he gets it for free (his friend is a coke dealer) all his friends do it, its not affecting his job, he says he is healthy, he already has gotten in trouble with the law before drugs and stolen so he said that drugs wont make him do that ..b/c he does it anyways...geez

Answer 1

You can't give him reasons it's illegal in the US, because it isn't. Cocaine is a Schedule II narcotic in the US, the same schedule as morphine, oxycontin, demerol, etc. Classifying it as Schedule II means that it has high potential for abuse, but can be administered by a doctor for legitimate medical uses, such as a local anesthetic for some eye, ear, and throat surgeries. For example, my grandmother's urologist uses it as a local anesthetic before he catherterizes her. The way your friend is using it is illegal, but the drug itself is no more illegal than Percocet.

Answer 2

People who are in an addiction don't see how much of a mess it is. I am an Alcoholic and was drinking half my weight in beer a week, the only thing I can relate is this. We (addicts) only stop digging when we reach our bottom,then and only then do we even begin to see that the problem exists.Find some one that has beat you friends addiction. Go to a C.D.S. meeting and talk to the person who seems to have there head together for some insight and maybe some help. Most ex-addicts are willing to help your friend to help his self but he's got to want it you can't make him he's got to want it! Be good and go with God

Answer 3

As you know there is a ton of info on the web about drug abuse and all its eventualities. Download it and give him a one-page summary of the facts that cannot be denied. Then, download and hand to him phone number and locations of all the inpatient and outpatient rehabs in his city/county. Cocaine Anonymous is listed in phone book, 411, etc. They have literature and facts to share. If he is living at home he has parents who may or may not be part of the problem. Does anyone know them well enough to ask if they notice a change in their son? Any of the rehabs/CA etc. can arrange an intervention that would involve those people closest to him - that mean the most to him, including a g.f. if he has one. Interventions bring about a breaking point where the subject has to make a life altering decision to get help or not. Interventions always start the thinking process in the subject's brain and makes it easier for him to ask for assistance.
Sounds like he may be depressed clinically prior to beginning abuse of coke. Drugs are at least self medications people grab onto for the short term relief from reality. I don't think that coke abuse inhibits sex interest - it usually frees inhibitions as I understand it, so that may be a clue that he is depressed first and a coke addict second. Diagnosis at a major hospital or clinic is needed. If his behavior moves into dangerous acts/thoughts against himself or others, one can summon the authorities via 911 and that would result in a complete psych examination - or should.
Finally, I would try to I.D. the one person in his life who is most important to him and express your concern and ask their assistance in getting through to him.
The difficulty here is that he believes that "drinking" and "smoking weed" are not "bad." In and of themselves, no, but they are crutches grabbed onto by people who have depression issues unresolved. Alcohol and drugs change the way we perceive things and as long as he is actively doing frequent abuse of substances, his brain is telling him you and the rest of you are bonkers. You can't argue with a drug or alcohol induced sense of security.

In response to your added info: No one gets it for free. He has to do something to get it and that usually means assisting the dealer in some way or servicing the dealer in a sexual way. And "all his friends" do not do the drug. People with "non-addictive personalities" (Note: Such a thing does exist) can dabble with drugs, booze, marshamallow sundaes and function. Most cannot. If one could look at his functioning at work and at home one would see the difference. His brain tells him he is okay and will continue to do so ("thanks Mr. Drug, I am okay, aren't I") until something begins to break down. It is the biggest crap shoot in the universe. Based upon his alleged statements to you he does not have a clue about the hopelessness of his situation without submitting to intervention. Don't discuss this anymore with him, he is teasing you and drawing you in to give him strength to keep telling himself he is okay. It is a con. Make your statement and do what you can to arrange an intervention and give him the info and resources and then GO! He has you in a defensive mode and that is not helpful. Good luck.

Answer 4

A person often times have to reach rock bottom before they decide to pick themselves up. You can talk to him till youre blue in the face and that probably wont change a thing. Just tell him he needs help and be there when he finally comes to you for help if you really consider yourself a friend and then distance yourself. It sounds harsh, but it's best for you. I hope this helps!

Answer 5

Take his picture. Take it a month later. Get a bank statement now and 1 month from now. Believe me that in a very short time he will feel worse physically than any guilt you could lay on him. That might not be enough to make him stop though. Good luck, he picked a nasty drug to get into, for sure.

Answer 6

get him to switch to pepsi??? no really meth is better than coke cause coke does not last and will leave him broke also it can cause heart problems and infections. however he is right that it is his choice if he wants to do coke although illegal drinking kills more people as does smoking. why is it the government is allow to tell us how to kill ouselves? coke also is bad for this countries economy. meth use to be an american made product and the money stayed here but i hear that is not so any longer.it also was the sex drug of the 70 and 80's. coke does not allow most men to keep it up long enough to have sex. unforunately regardless of our opinion it is illegal and WHEN he realizes he has a problem with that **** he will be either in jail or broke and getting money for it in a way that will embrass him or make him think less of his self. i think it is wrong for the government to tell us they have our best interest in mind when they tell us what vices are ok or when they say it is ok to so 70 miles an hour with no helmet with a bike yet stand in middle of the street and give out tickets for not wearing a seat belt. if no seat belt causes me to die that is on me if a man drops his bike and slids down the street with his brains all over i am sure that who ever runs it over or sees it is going to live with that forever. the polotics are the biggest criminals out there from bush and chenney on down. but tell your friend it is thier world and we will either die in jail or over iraq fighting their war while chenneys company charges the army $45 dollars for a 6 pack of soda. us the fools would give it to those soilders over there risking thier lifes for usa but not those who sent us over there with a lot of lies. now that they know there was no weapons there and we finished bushs vendetta with hussen why are we still there..... oh waiting for the 6'5" giant who was within 3 miles of us in the middle of the desert to come back to iraq and then we can catch him huh? yea tell your friend to stop or go to fla and have sex with bushs nieces cause they are allowed to do crack coke cause they were going into a hospital so it was not a legal matter when they got catch with it in their shoes. your friend better learn to f##k one of them cause thier dad or uncle will f%#k him if he gets caught with any god bless him and you are a real friend to reach out to help him.

Answer 7

try getting in touch with NA narcotics anonymous in your town.... ask for their advice and the addict must want to get help otherwise he isn't ready.... but that's no reason for you to not try to learn more about drug addiction.... best of luck

Answer 8

you better help your friend talking sense into him will not help...he will never listen...go get help send him to rehab or counseling fast!!!

Answer 9

No only one way "our friendship or the dope"

Answer 10

tell him to try coca cola...its a very simpler product and much more affordable..