I really like this bloke. We have met up twice but nothing has happened between us apart from the odd kiss. He was chasing me for over a year before we met up!i have heard that he is abit of a player and loves the chase!i told him that i like him and he said he likes me too. i also told him that i heard he was a player and only after the chase. he denied this claiming its ridiculous. i know he wouldnt admit to it if it was true. im thinking i should just play it cool with this guy because i dont want to get hurt. what do you guys think?how should i play it cool?
2006-09-07 21:10:39 · 21 answers · asked by XCuteX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes play it cool and see how it is. Make your own judgement and see what happens. I do not know him or you, but what you hear from others may be right. Stay back and let time tel you.
2006-09-07 21:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am worried for you, because players almost always hurt the people they are chasing.
If you can, play it cool. If this guy is a chaser then the moment you start showing that you are falling for him, or the moment you hint that you would like to see more of him, he'll run like the wind away from you. Once they have your undivided attention, you're no longer a challenge and their job is done. The end.
The more time that goes by, the more you will know if he is a player or not. If he is, he will start getting cocky and making plans with you on his terms. He will see you when HE wants and will get in touch with you when HE wants.
The moment you feel things change, and if he starts making excuses not to see you, that is the exact moment you should GET OUT! Walk away, as it is most likely he has found someone else to chase. It will hurt, but the quicker you see the signs, the less painful it will be when you have to walk away.
If he is a chaser, and you do walk away, be aware, he will come crawling back, as the challenge to get you back has presented itself to him. Be strong, don't go back to him, because you will be stuck in this horrible rut for ages, and it will get more painful as time goes on.
For now, play it cool, keep your eye on how things develop, and you will know yourself if this relationship is destined to work.
Good luck x
2006-09-07 22:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be a little cautious - don't back off, but don't let him know how much you like him, be quite chilled about things, and don't always be available when he wants to meet up.
That said, it's a fine line between playing a bit hard to get, and him losing interest cos it looks like you're not bothered at all!
Just don't be there for him, all the time and always on his terms. But whatever you do, he may still turn out to be this player, or whatever, so a lot of it is out of your hands. As long as you feel you are being treated with respect, and don't let him walk on you, then you can just enjoy what you are having at the moment.
Have fun! x
2006-09-07 21:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with vetty, I think you should play it cool and not be too available. I can confess to being something like this guy myself and I think one of the biggest turn offs for me was knowing that the woman in question was too easy. The thrill is always in the chase.
The best advice I can give you is not to hold out completely, lead him on slowly but at the same time let him get to know the real you, so that he becomes interested in you not just as his personal game but because he is genuinely interested in you.
2006-09-07 22:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup play him at his own game - but having said that, players dont normally spend a year chasing after a girl - they tend to move on pretty quick if they dont get anywhere. Just hang in there for a bit longer, see how he is around you and maker a decision on what YOU think he is - rumours can start and never be true about a person
2006-09-07 21:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a bit of fun with it yourself. Stay cool if you have heard that he is a player. Tease him a little to show what you have to offer and could have a lot more if things moved on
2006-09-07 21:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by larraineand73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems to be that you BOTH have been playing it cool or whatever; and it's going nowwhere fast.
Re-think this: where do you see this ending up? If you're honest with yourself; perhaps you could head off in a different direction, so that you could actually end up in a real relationship with someone who is willing to share those feelings with you. good luck.
2006-09-07 21:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Bluebells21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear
good men are hard to find and he may be a player cause most of them are.. how old is he.. and does he act different with you on the phone than in person.. i dont blame you for not wanting to get hurt, and how well do you know these people that are telling you he is a player ,,,and can you believe them
2006-09-07 21:39:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By taking it easy and treating him as a friend first. You are in no hurry to be attached are you?
This will give you an opportunity to get to know him better and at the same time give you more opportunities to meet and make more friends, thus widening your circle and choice for a partner.
Take your time to choose the right one!
2006-09-07 21:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just play it cool until you know his true intentions. You don't wanna dive in head first into a pool that isn't even knee deep, ya know? Look out for number one, but don't hold yourself back forever. Tell him you wanna take it slow and if he wants to be with you he will understand.
2006-09-07 21:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Don't stop! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋