what do parents 25 and under think about spanking?

Answer 1

I'm 30 but I have been a mom since I was 16 & I have always spanked my kids. Now they are 12 & 14, I still wack them on the butt sometimes to show them I'm still mom. If you can keep your cool & discipline with a couple wacks on the butt, not beat your child to death I think its fine. You should never lay a hand on your child if you are out of control mad. And then sometimes a spanking just doesnt work, timeout or something else. Every child is different.I did alittle of it all, I am the disciplinarian at my house, you have to remember that your children have to respect you & equally know that you love them at the same time. So eaqual amounts of discipline+love=well rounded child. Over 40% of the kids in juvy always got their way & were rarely disciplined, 40% were beat daily & rarely loved, the other 10% either were probably the wrong place at the wrong time & have good parents at home waiting to slap them up side the head & then give them a hug & tell them they love them.:)

Answer 2

So those who think spanking is abuse and have been spanked by there parents must lead a horrible life being abused children. Wrong. Spanking is not abuse...there is a difference between spanking and abuse. I know I"ve been through both. Those who know things because they have a bachlors degree in so and so may not have raise children. They know these things because they are taught in school. I am 26 yrs old and I have 2 well behaved children. I have spanked them after I've warned them and given them time out. And only 1 or 2 swats. So no I don't abuse my children and I don't like it when ppl say I do. That's what I think about spanking.

Answer 3

I'm 24 and I do believe in spanking. I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine, I respect both of my parents equally, and the reason why I never fell into the peer pressure and the teen pregnancy in high school is because my parents disiplined me when I was growing up. To tell you the truth my parents put fear in me. I wasn't scared of them, it was the kind of fear where you didn't want to disappoint them, the kids today have no fear, not scared of anything, and they think they are invincible. And Quin was right time outs do not always work, talking to them definetely does not work. I mean there is a difference between spanking and abuse I'm not talking about throwing them down the stairs or breaking their arm, but an occasional hit on the bottom or pop on the hand does not hurt them.

Answer 4

I'm 26 when i was a kid i did get spankings. Am I traumatized NO, do i think it is wrong NO Is it abuse NO Why do i think its not abuse. Abuse is repeated hitting, slapping, with hand or foreign object. I rarely have to spank my children and if i do i swat on the butt one time. If you are repetitively spanking then it is abuse. But other than that the stuff now a days that says you cant spank and all these kids are scared for life its not from spanking it is from being beat so to blame it on getting spanked is a lie. I turned out fine I have 2 children, married, graduated H.S, and i am going to college for Criminal Justice. So that just goes to show that the statistics are not always right. JANA

Answer 5

It depends. My personal opinion of spanking is it's reserved for criminal behavior when they're old enough to understand that what they did is wrong. Say, your 8 year old steals something from the store, or steals money out of your purse to buy something at the store. The child is old enough to know that stealing is wrong. This, in my opinion, warrents a spanking, as would similar situations in which the behavior is otherwise considered criminal.

You can't spank a 3, 4 year old and expect them to understand their behavior and why it's wrong. They're not at a level of cognitive ability yet in which they can really grasp why stealing is wrong. They don't understand property and ownership yet. At such an age, taking a favorite toy away to example how it feels to have something taken away from you is much more appropriate.

I've also been through spanking and abuse. There is a clear and definite difference. It's not a fine grey line like people think. 8 swats on the butt (one for each year of the child's age, in this example the child is 8) for stealing isn't abuse. Beating with a belt to the point welts or bruises are left, or a stick, or some other object in a fit of anger about the theft is clear cut and dried abuse.

Answer 6

Theres a line between discipline and abuse. Spanking can help in certain situations where no other form of punishment has worked. My parents spanked me and I learned my lesson not to do that particular thing again. as a parent of a toddler ive smacked her hands but i havent spanked her. i think spanking works better on older children

Answer 7

I don't think there is any harm in spanking in your children as long as you don't overdo it. My mum has spanked me many a time when I was got out of hand and I don't think it has harmed me in anyway. I am pretty sure that if she thinks I am still doing something wrong she wont hesitate to spank me. I firmly believe in the adage - Spare the rod and spoil the child. All this hype about not spanking your children in only in Western countries - and I don't think kids there have benefited from it anyway. Parents should be able to control their children and spanking is what is called for, then why not?

Answer 8

I dont think its apropriate but Im young myself, i think occasional is your call if the childs actions are extremly bad but a few of my frinds were spanked as kids and it effected them in more negative ways than positive compared to those whos parents yelled or took away privelages. If your going to i would suggest explaining to your kid(s) once everyone is settled, that you only did it because of there bad bahavior so they can comprehend the situation and not take it as you hating them. Just a suggestion. I know youll find whats right for your own kids.

Answer 9

I'm not a parent, but I don't think spanking teaches children anything... in fact it can be emotionally harmful to some children. I still remember the one and only time I was spanked when I was 2 years old for crying (not by my parents).

Oh, and F@ck you Vinny... I don't see you helping with this question

Answer 10

I think its the greatest thing on earth. Spanking and beating them to death or two different things. But I believe in spanking kids little bottoms to the fullest. Timeout doesn't always work. Timeout is used for them to rub down that red butts. Thats what I would use timeouts for. And I think it makes a child less of a whimp. (boys) you don't want a weak, cry ball football player do ya?