we broke up recently. actually i broke up with him, because i didnt see any future with him. we still live together. he doesnt want me to move out, because he doesnt want me to pay rent all by myself. i tried to explain to him that we are not getting back together. how advisible is it to live with your ex? is he really just trying to help me out or is he hoping we'll make up?
2006-09-07 20:27:54 · 12 answers · asked by Mila 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wants you all to himself.. just bring another guy over and make love vary loud he will soon see your point.
........make sure to hide all guns and knives......
2006-09-07 20:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by q-fire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to see if you guys can get back together again. I would advise you to move out and move on with your life, if it's really over between you both.
As for the rent issue, if you can move out and afford your new rent, then do so. Don't take money from him, otherwise you will 'owe him', and give him the perfect excuse to butt into your life again.
If you truly need help with the rent, or a place to stay, talk to your family. Helping one another out during the tough times, that's what family is for.
Sorry to hear that your relationship is at it's end. You're not alone. It occurs frequently these days. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-07 20:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Microsoft Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're both still quite young, if that is the case living together is not going to work. Sometimes with people who are older they have gotten past the issues that will jump up in your face (not many but some) and their living arrangement is for comfort purposes mostly. If your asking the question you are not there. Make a clean break and just keep telling yourself, he is not your keeper nor are you his. Good luck but forget this silly notion about the living arrangement.
2006-09-07 20:38:10 · answer #3 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it really depends on how mature the two of your are. If you can work past your relationship problems and just be roomates, that okay. The second thing is are you two still sexual, cause that is a problem. That may lead him to think you two are still kinda together. Also if you want to start dating other people do you think it would be a great idea to bring them there. Hey this is my exbf we will together, I promise we only live. How well would that go over.
2006-09-07 20:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
One of you have to move. A clean breakup is essential in order to properly move on. It would not be a good thing to be that close into each others business and private affairs. He would be jealous and the situation can become potentially dangerous.
Please, for your own good, take this advice!
2006-09-07 20:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hold the power. Maybe you haven't made it crystal clear that it is over. If he isn't a scary guy then stay in the house. at least it'll help you out financially. it's akward nonetheless. if you bring a guyover how is he going to react and if he is going to bring a girl over how will you react? stay in the house and go month to month.
2006-09-07 20:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he still has feelings for you. He cares for you. If he did not he would not look out for you. Does he have a girlfriend? if not then he does care for you still
2006-09-07 20:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Yulissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a really bad idea to live with your ex...whats gonna happen when your ready to start dating again?
2006-09-07 20:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by darkest queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should leave.
he's not trying to help you out, he's just keeping you around so maybe someday you guys make up.
2006-09-07 20:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tartlettes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the break hun, before there is any more pain
2006-09-07 20:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nimbus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋