how do you deal with the stress and sadness of a military relationship? he is in the coast guard and stationed away. the stress isnt from anything he is doing wrong but just missing him and the lack of communication. i wonder if he is ok day to day how. any tips for a long distance military relationship?
2006-09-07 20:23:28 · 8 answers · asked by theskyispink v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being a military spouse is tough ... but its something you work through and just do. Things that helped me when my husband was deployed was the following:
Communicate when we could .. this could be a simple call. Treasure those moments when you get them.
Blogging ... Yahoo 360 or MySpace to one another - we would leave each other enduring love notes, poems or communicate when we are feeling really sad and what we were needing at that moment.
Support from friends and family ... if you are near other military spouses - go out and see them. FRG leaders are great to, Military events .. also Yahoo Groups have military spouses support groups online, same with MySpace.
Find ways to keep busy .. start a hobby .. some actually take the time to further their education, go back to school, further their career.
Either way always keep open communication, honesty, trust and it does work out. If you need anything - feel free to contact me. Contact information is my profile.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-07 20:28:35 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, i can't vouch for this personally, but my roommate (and best friend)'s boyfriend just went away for army training.
They CONSTANTLY send letters. I mean, once a day. So, she is always hearing from him, even if it's just small chitchat like what he ate that day and so on...it's the point that tey're communicationg that counts.
It was hard at first for them because he wasn't allowed to use the phone (but he would sneak in a few calls every once and a while). Then, after a couple of weeks, he could call on sundays. that made things ALOT easier for them.
now...he comes back next month, and she is ecstatic to see him. they made it through ok, and i'm so happy for her.
Just try not to worry too much about how he is doing (because one thought leads to another...you know). And just be supportive of him. Be strong and try not to let him know too much that it's really, really stressful. I mean, let him know you miss him, but don't discourage him.
And visit as often as you can. the plane tickets are worth it.
good luck to you both. :)
2006-09-07 20:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is rough...but you'll get through it if your love is strong...how to deal with it...it's all you...how you can handle it...missing your man is hard already and not hearing his voice is worse...I feel for your situation because I going through that too...my man is in the navy..but we have email and phone privileges...thank god that helps...you just need to be busy...if you don't have anything to do go for a walk or run...take a class or two...he's missing you as well and stressing out too...but for me what I do is keep myself busy and just except the day's I don't hear from him and know that he's okay and he'll connect with me when he can...I just look foward till I hear his voice...and not so much on missing him...it's hard. Take Care and God Bless You and your guy.
2006-09-07 20:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by dod civi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're FAR better than me, because even though a man protecting his country is sexy, I cannot do it myself. But I DO respect our good troops.
2006-09-07 20:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know a girl who joined the army because of it
2006-09-07 20:26:39 · answer #5 · answered by apolloandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience and understanding, communication helps also, email and letter writing
2006-09-07 20:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by paki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
diazepam, get some
2006-09-07 20:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by horn dog 88 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
shoot stuff.
2006-09-07 20:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by nobudE 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋