He is 16 years old and she is 15. My son is emotional but I am concerned with his anger. He has tried to reconcille with her several times and it doesn't work out. He looses his temper and says things like "Look how you've made me feel!" or "Why are you doing this to me?", "You can either come back to me or stop hanging around with all these other guys!".
I had to threaten him with punishment for "harrasing" his ex girlfriend on the phone tonight I heard "Why did you hang up on me?!" and not nicely. I took the phone away. A few days ago I was alerted that he may be sucidal due to a posting from him to a teen website. To me he is not sucidal, I know he is hurting! I want to help and any advice I've given not sure if helpful...Any ideas? Appreciate your time.
2006-09-07 20:06:15 · 12 answers · asked by nicegal36 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was 22 when my gf got married & it really breaks my heart that was yr. 2001...now i'm fully recovered...Here's my opinion...If your son doesn't want to listen to the things that you are saying do not force him or argue with him because he is still in pain...go to his friends and talk to them maybe he will listen to his friends...& the best part that you can do is to stick with your son show him some love and care because he is not just your son, he is also your good buddy, best friend, partner and everything let him to feel that no matter what happen you will always be there for him...and that is the time that you may speak to him and tell him that "what ever we lost, there are much better things to come"...i hope my opinion will help GOD BLESS!!!(i'm sorry ,i'm not that good in english)
2006-09-07 20:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16 and I had my first break up with a 15 year old girl not too long ago. Basically what I would say is just tell him it's her problem not his and keep it that way. Then just let him cool off and he's prolly be okay. But from the sound of it I am a very different person. I use logic to control my behavior and let emotion guide that logic to some degree. HI IM A CHEMIST! The end. I don't know what to tell you if he keeps going except that he has a problem and it's not about the girl.
2006-09-07 20:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by shindaiwa21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to tell you that when i had my first relationship i was 17 years old. I dont know about your sons problems, but i had serious ones. I was molested as a boy. My father beat me as a child. Once i escaped from his abuse i was a very ill behaved child and as a result my mother beat me. I was choked by my father. he broke bones. my mother beat me with å spaghetti strainer until it broke once. My point is, i had a gf when i was 17 for the first time. I lost 100 pounds, and i was actuålly actractice. I got a hot colombian girl, and i thought she loved me. When i realized she didnt i said these sorts of things out of jealousy. My point is, as ****** up as i was i said the same things. Im not saying ur son is the same way. Right now, im in a 11 month relationship which is stable and normal. Shes taken me out of a depressed mood and im a normal sophomore college student. So you worry, and i cant say ur son isnt in a worse position. But im saying that he can come out of it and better himself. GL ma'am. I hope you resolve everything, and he feels better. BTW, everyone has problems. EVERYONE. I've learned that. I thought i had problems getting raped and beaten. And i know i do. But ive met a lot of people with at least as bad problems as me. And ive realized that people can overcome anything, its a matter of attitude and who they are. GL miss. I hope you fix this.
2006-09-07 20:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by bob j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him his favorite dinner or take him somewhere exciting. Spend some time with him if you can. I know he's hurting and probably doesn't want to talk. Wait for him to open up to ya, if he feels pressured he won't say anything. Tell him to cool it for a while, if they get back together than great.. but if not there is always other girls. Hope this helps.
2006-09-07 20:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by PROLADY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sheesh.
ur son needs to get a grip. he's still young. it's not the end of the world after the first break up.
u shld talk to him. dun let him be alone to dwell on the matter for too long. let him know there are more to life then having a girlfren n eventually he'll find someone else. better yet, tell him to concentrate on his education!
2006-09-07 20:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its happens many times when u expect so much in ur relationship.. try to say to your child that u r very nice and honest and this girl just don't deserve him.. he should look for someone else who really cares for him.... im sure it willl do wonders .. try to take him out for lunch and dinner or any parties where he can look for other girls...
2006-09-07 20:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by rahul s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is most males dont ever learn how to express themselves emotionally and whenever and emotional problem comes up they get confused and turn to anger
i would say dont punish him just talk to him about it
good luck
2006-09-07 20:16:26 · answer #7 · answered by cowboy76360 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best cure is to meet another girl. Trust me it works. If you can get him in touch with another girl it would be great. (Make sure she is better looking than his x, or u will make things worst
2006-09-07 20:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by ogiwrgos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you son girls and like dimes ........they come a dime a dozen and there are more shinner ones out there for him to find .........another words more fish in the sea,, and if the girl doesnt want to be with him than move on...
2006-09-07 20:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by sw33t_n_sp1c3y2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him at his own let his learn by experience
2006-09-07 21:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by Rishi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋