My boyfriend has a female friend, he talks to her all the time. I looked at his phone bill he has known her for 5 months (that's when the numbers showed up). He calls her as early as 5 and 6am, they talk througout the day(he calls her througout the day). I've even seen that he calls her at 2:00am when he says that he is sleep. I have talked to her, and she says that nothing is going on and she says she has a boyfriend. Can males and females be that close of friends? I thought I was his friend, he should be calling me all the time. Should I believe this?
2006-09-07 20:05:05 · 20 answers · asked by Ebony_23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's talking to her around the clock
that's more than just friends, especially if he's lying about it
2006-09-07 20:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by viking_transplant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, something fishy is going on. No, you should not believe all of what he says about them being close friends. It would be odd if they are just friends calling each other so early and late on a regular basis. I do belive that men and women can be friends. No matter here, your boyfriend is not being thoughtful of you. That's the bottom line. If you feel he is decietful go with your intuition no matter what. Your heart is right.
I'm sure that this woman he has been calling is being questioned by her boyfriend too! He'd be crazy not to notice she is on the phone all hours of day and night to her friend that is a guy. Don't trust this situation you are in. I hope you find someone worthy of your time, love and true friendship.
2006-09-07 20:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by nicegal36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say YES!
Sometimes there isn't any going on. I'm friends with a guy and we talk all the time every single day and there's nothing going on. He calls me in the mornings and late nights also. We are just very close close friends with an understanding that we are free to date whoever we want but we'll always have our close friednship no matter who comes and goes.
Now this is not always the case so still be careful and maybe sit him down and tell him that this makes u uneasy. If he gets all defensive. I'll bet there's something more to this "friendship".
2006-09-07 20:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by gyrlundone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. Some of my best friends are men and we talk all the time with nothing fishy going on. However, some men like to have other options, if you get my meaning. Maybe you should arrainge a dinner out for the three of you and really observe how they interact. It may give you a chance to develope a new friend also.
2006-09-07 20:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah but not that close! I have 2 best friends that are male and yes, at times we do talk throughout the day or even in the middle of the night.....but not EVERYday! Heck no! Maybe 1 a week or 1 a month, depends on what's going on in our lives at the time......watch your front hunny! That doesn't sound too str8
2006-09-07 20:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have taken a full turn from believing platonic relationships are possible, there was a time I would say quit worrying...but now ....
He finds her interesting, and some of it between a man and a woman has to do with sex. So without creating a tantrum, I would find out what he finds interesting about her and see if i have that to give or walk out now! This is a very cynical view, but the most realistic!
2006-09-07 20:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by 40andgoing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there.. i understand how u feel. im kinda having a similar problem too. but its a bit different s this girl that my boy is talking to lives somewhere really far from where we are. of course i got paranoid at first. am still going thru it. but i never confronted him s i dont want this to be the cause of a fight. at first it was just a "friendly" email then there's the messenger now im afraid that it might go on to another level which is his cellphone. if u ask them obviously they will deny it. but u know what,if ur bf really loves u and want your relationship to work,he wouldnt do anything to hurt u or sabotage your relationship. give it a little time,n if it still goes on,sit down with ur bf n talk to him nicely. not in a way like ur attacking him but tell him that ur worried. tho this may sound bad,it all depends on how much u trust ur bf. if he still denies it n wanna continue being close to a girl in such way, it all comes down to u whether u can accept it or not. if u cant n he still wont compramise,im sorry to say but u know wat to do!
2006-09-07 20:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_lil_diana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends maybe, but it is likely that there is something more going on. I have some girl friends that i am really close with and it really pissed off my ex. But on the other hand i would not be consantly calling and getting called by them or else it would only be natural that my girl would suspect something. I would say just observe him (and her) when you all are hanging out together. If something is going on you will see sooner or later.
2006-09-07 20:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by aintlovegrand78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wont if i were u! How can a man talk to antoher woman for so many time n so long time? Nt forgetting he still hv u around, if he need to talk or any advise....he can always go to u, rig?
I suggest u talk to him ...is either he stop all the "nonsense" he is doing or u move on.....u deserve a better guy tat treat u a better way nt like him, he is taking u as "transparent" tat y he is nt talking to u...n rather spend "time" with other woman talking on the phone!
2006-09-07 20:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds very very suss.,
I have a boyfriend. I also have male friends. But I dont call them more than 3 or 4 times a week. and I especially dont speak to them a few times a day.
It sounds as though if he isnt cheating on you with her, than he is definetly interested in her. How many times does he call you a day? if he is speaking to her more than you. Than I think its time you walked away.
And if he is lieing to you about how many times hes talking to her, than definetly leave
2006-09-07 20:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant a guy and a girl be close friends and not be doing it?I have alot of female friends and havent ever once hit on any of them.If your b/friend and the girl are talking and still have all their clothes on then stop trying to make something of it
2006-09-08 14:39:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋