my husband had an affair with a teenager, he's 37, we have 2 boys and have been together 17 years, married for 10. He is still being so guarded and secretive that I have had to conclude that they are still in touch. I have decided to leave him but it's so painful. Will you pray?
2006-09-07 19:58:34 · 35 answers · asked by good tree 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
thanks so much for all your prayers, they have already made a difference because he started to open up right afterwards. I have a great church supporting me but I believe in the power of many prayers as well as individual. Those who are not christians and are praying too, I thank you for your love, it means a lot.
2006-09-07 23:30:55 · update #1
Dear Father God, I pray for this this woman Lord. Please help her in her time of need. Be her strength, her guide, her truth. Help her to be strong for her 2 boys. Help her to come to you Lord and only to you, for wisdom. I pray for her husband. I pray that you would bring conviction to his heart and help him make right decisions. I pray that he becomes honest. What is done in the dark will be revealed in the light. In the name of Jesus, I come against you satan for causing division. Jesus, bring your peace to the home and bring comfort to the children. Lord I pray that this woman and her children open their hearts to you. and seek you Lord first for any advise. Show how great you are, reveal yourself to them. Bring restoration and unity into their home. Lord your so faithful and true. Amen. I've been there. Only God Changed us, for the good.
2006-09-07 20:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by i serve HIM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but the way God works is through human beings, so I'll pray that you will meet the right person(s) to help you. Presumably you don't attend a church? If you do, aren't there any people there whom you can trust?
I think that only you will know if you should leave him. If your trust in him has been devastated, and your husband is not opening up and asking for your forgiveness, then it appears from where I am that this is probably the correct decision.
I know how painful this is. I've experienced so much pain in my own life that I can truly understand. If you can find someone to support you, that will help, even if its just someone to e-mail. Just be careful who you choose, even Christians can have serious flaws in their character.
2006-09-07 20:31:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rude 4 U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That hurts girl i'll pray for you, thats real mean, and he won't talk, thats stink..... May the Lord bless you 17 years is a long time.... You will be O.k. though, move out you got your kids, i'd move city, i had a similar weirdo in my life thank God it was only for six years.... you can run girl, if he wont open up, take your money and flee. It is allowed according to scripture it is a shame though in the bible as well it says it is a shame when we cannot work these things out.
Remember thank God you are free now and not later, free of that emotional turmoil, sad as it is to be bruised in that manner, make the Lord your centre girl.
2006-09-07 22:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by HOPE 4 THE FUTURE: 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y E S. Absolutely. I already did and will keep doing.
Looks like your husband is going through a very difficult and dangerous period in his life. I think but the most important role at this moment, needs to be played by your part.
I think now (and maybe more than ever before) you need to be... “strengthened with all power, according to the might of his glory, for all endurance and perseverance with joy” (Col 1:11)
You need all this power and wisdom to interweave endurance and perseverance with your dignity and self-respect so as to make the best decisions for the sake of the Lord and your family (and –yes– for your husband). A Christian is the only person who can do this.
I believe that if (since) you trust the Lord, His peace will prevail because He is the Prince of peace, and He is the only one who knows how to make the two to be one. This is why He came: to destroy the woks of the one who (amongst others) divides; and I believe He will.
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Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in the strength of his might. (Eph 6:10)
ps. Just to let you know, and I’m speaking as a brother in Christ, I had noticed your answers in the “Religion & Spirituality” section since my early days in ya and since then I periodically visit your answers board, to enjoy the humble Christian Spirit in them.
2006-09-07 23:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dimitris-Greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry this happened to you. There is nothing I can say that will make you feel better, because I have not experienced this--and I think it is only those that have been there that truly understand, with this and with other very painful things. But my heart goes out to you, and I will certainly pray that everything turns out as well for you as possible, and that God helps you heal from this. Perhaps it will help just to know someone--I--care. And so do many others.
2006-09-07 20:07:33 · answer #5 · answered by annefan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for your family. I know how hard it is to yield to God when you are so badly hurt. But He is the Healer. Trust Him. I have chosen to not trust Him before, and it just makes things worse. Life is hard, but rebellion is not the answer. I love you because God loves me and you.... and your husband, and your kids, and the girl that made a bad choice like your husband did. Surround yourself with believers. I am glad you reached out here.
2006-09-07 20:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by jchristop05 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only imagine how hard this is for you! Unless the girl was 18 or 19 , it's technically statutory rape for a 37 year old man to be involved in this relationship.
I'm praying that God will grant you his wisdom and discernment in this situation and that you will have His peace. You have been through the ringer, and I'm proud of you for looking out for your children.
((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
I don't know if it's any comfort, but there are a lot of women who have been in your shoes. They have made it through this, and so will you!
2006-09-07 20:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, OF COURSE I WILL PRAY FOR YOU DAILY NOT ONLY FOR YOU BUT THAT GIRL AND YOUR FAMILY. ONLY GOD KNOWS WHY THIS TRAGEDY OCCURRED BUT KNOW THIS, THAT WHAT EVER TRIALS YOU GO THROUGH IN LIFE IS TO BRING A GREATER GOOD OUT OF IT. YES, WE SHOULD FORGIVE BUT IF YOUR HUSBAND CONTINUES TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR MARRIAGE, THEN THE BEST THING FOR YOU AND MOST IMPORTANTLY FOR YOUR CHILDREN IS TO LEAVE. HOPEFULLY YOU WILL GAIN WISDOM, PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING, AND ALL THE VIRTUES THAT COUPLES NOW A DAYS SO DESPERATELY LACK. YOU CAN EVEN EDUCATE YOUR BOYS ON THE IMPORTANCE OF A MARRIED LIFE AND HOW TO TREAT A LADY. TRUST IN THE LORD HE WILL SUSTAIN YOU ALL THE WAY.
2006-09-07 20:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by SARIH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you and a little more so for your husband. If he is with a teen you really need to report him it is against the law what he is doing.
I hope every thing turns out OK God bless you and be with u in troubled times.
2006-09-07 20:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that the Lord is faithful and true. I will pray for God's grace for you and your children. I've been in a similar situation, and my faith has been everything to me. I will pray for you.
2006-09-07 23:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋