my first love was at 17 and ending after 5 years. Even i meet many guys but i still contrast them to my first guy (I know i shouldn't do that but it comes up immidiately)
2006-09-07 19:16:48 · 16 answers · asked by kit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, Ive been here before. Its not easy but it can be done. You just have to stop and think to yourself, if I keep thinking and comparing like this than I will miss out on the chance to see this guy for the unique individual that he is, and I may miss out on a chance for real happiness. Other than that, just take it one day at a time, and dont forget to pamper yourself as well.
2006-09-07 19:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. they say "first love never dies" but come to think of it, first love do dies but the memory of having it and the feeling you shared with that special someone that I can say...."will never die". It's ok to think of your first love because there are lots of good memories you shared with that person. You learned a lot from that relationship either good or bad. It helped you become the person you are now but its not good to compare all the guys you meet with your first love. You met him for a reason, what you must realize is that your need has been met, your desired fulfilled, his work is done. The prayer you sent up have been answered and now it is time to move on... You should enjoy what comes in your life. If you are trapped in the shadow of your first love, you might miss a lot of great things that comes in your life. The person you meet now might be the love of your life but you're too busy comparing them with the qualities that your first love have . I believe there's a reason why the 5 year relationship with your first love had ended. ..YOu might never know what will happen next.. The guy you will meet now may not be your first love but he might be the "love of your life" and thats the love you should embrace... So move on, the best way to overcome your past love is to accept, learned from it, and move on so when your new love comes your way, you're prepared to embrace it.
2006-09-07 20:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweetcookies710 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I've done that too...but while falling for a new guy, it slowly went away and I learned to accept the way the new guy is. Just kind of need to accept the past and focus on the present. Ain't nothing gonna be the same again.
2006-09-07 19:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes up, tell yourself that you're going to miss out on finding out how great this new guy is and you could me missing out on meeting the new love of your life that will be the new standard. Why have a standard that is based on a failed relationship? Your standards are too low. Think big! You deserve better!
2006-09-07 19:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have not gotten over the first yet. try closure. check him out once again and have lunch with him carefully seeing to it that all you want is closure and not for you to fall for him again. you must have had good reasons to decide to break up 5 years ago. you might even be surprised that you don't feel that same way towards him anymore. after seeing him again, say your goodbyes and let go.
2006-09-07 19:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by marisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try talking with a counselor or a psychologist, Its nothing to be ashamed of and its private and confidential, You should do this because you need to move away from that to be successful in the future. I wish you well
2006-09-07 19:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the saaaammmeee thing, i guess if there is no way things will work out for you and you former, the important thing to remember is that you both have changed and that because of that things would never be the same...it's hard get in touch w/ who u are now, not who you were w/ him and eventually...life has a funny way of working out
2006-09-07 19:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by los ollie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it could be several things....you could be in loved in him, he is a great in bed, he threats you better the everybody else, or as they say first love is the most important one
2006-09-07 19:19:44 · answer #8 · answered by Danijel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're first love was the wrong love. you're not open to love, you have an expectation of what it should be. look within, love and be loved.
2006-09-07 19:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
really live up the the furture and stop thinking of him
2006-09-07 19:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by happypeach28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋