My fiance has been gone since February and I'm absolutely losing my mind at this point. We can't really talk that much on the phone, for obvious reasons, but a span of 14 days without knowing and I was going crazy! We've spent about 95% of our relationship apart and of course being away (distance) is no fun, but not knowing is worse...
2006-09-07 19:14:02 · 20 answers · asked by littlerandiheather 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
It's not really that I'm sitting around...it's my mind and it's vivid imagination
2006-09-07 19:19:37 · update #1
He's worth waiting for...it's not that...it's that I worry about him...I don't sleep at night anymore...
2006-09-07 19:34:39 · update #2
I'm not leaving him...I'm just worried about him...we're getting married next year. I'm not questioning myself or my commitment to him...I just want to know how others deal with the worrying.
2006-09-07 19:45:14 · update #3
I know what I would do if I was him - being away from you all this time:
Make a journal or a video each day about any little thing...If you're able to make it into a dvd and send it to him, it'll make his day. You'll have something to do to make him happy, and he'll have a little bit from home that will make his day!
There are also organizations for military wives and husbands - support groups - that meet to do a variety of things - I'd suggest attending one soon.
Don't give up on him...stay strong...stay focused! He'll be home before you know it, and just think of all the wonderful times you have ahead of you.
God Bless you and him for serving our country!!!
2006-09-07 19:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been on the other side of this...my husband and I were both in the military and the first half of ouy marriage he was away on missions, the second half the roles reversed and it was me on the road all the time, plus we had two young boys as well. One thing I did while away was keep a journal that was written to him and the boys, that way even if it was a while between phone calls or emails he'd get all the details of what I had been up to or what I was feeling during my time away.
The best thing you can do is to continue to love and support him. That will keep the both of you going strong. You may want to find a group of women like yourself to chat with, or even get involved in a new activity to help pass the time. I wish you all the best. I too and "out the door" again for another stint away from home and my family.
May HE, bless and keep the both of you.
2006-09-08 05:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by sercycla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list when he does come back what you like to do even go together, chat w/friends, you can always talk to him by writing your feelings and thought down so when he has time he will know how and what your were thinking when he was gone.
Also go have some fun with some friends have a friend come over to stay with ya never to old to have even a sleep over...lol (Ive done that before and is still fun) If you enjoy arts and crafts do something like that...Even here on the computer can make time go by fast...
So many others I could list bottom line try to keep busy...Sorry your missing your man it can be a pain!
2006-09-07 19:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Build a BAD-*** myspace page
2. Get a pet adn teach it tricks, tak eit for walks, etc
3. Re-arrange your home
4. Re-decorate your home/paint a few walls,etc
5. Write him letters
6. Get a cookbook adn try cooking new things. Think about what thigns you will cook fo rthe two of you when he gets home.
7. Buy some sexy lingerie that you can surprise him with.
8. Detail your car
9. Get an extra job adn save up some money
10. Make a list of places you wan tto visit and try to do them all.
11. Learn to sew (I did and now I am making a quilt out of blue jeans)
12. Work out and get a hot new body!!
13. Keep a journal to help you get out the negative feelings so when he calls you aren't so negative to him about not talking/sadness,etc Try to keep your conversatiosn POSITIVE-it is hard for him too!
14 You and your best friend have a "Movie Night" once a week. My friend and I had "Sunday Funday" adn just bummed around her house every Sunday! Her husband even joined in! All of our friends knew we were there and woudl stop bye and bum with us!!
15. Visit with your elderly relatives-you never know when they will be gone.
2006-09-08 00:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of your lines shows you cant stay away from him..anymore!
" I'm absolutely losing my mind at this point. and I was going crazy! ...I don't sleep at night anymore...
You have two optins left.
1. Have control on your mind and try Meditation...I am sure this will help you throughout your life...
2. Dont wait and west more time! go get married now! if you thinks you cannot control yourself!
Let me know which option do you prefer.
2006-09-07 20:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sash1548 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a soldier in the british army for a number of years, and the only advice I can give you is spend as much time as you can with friends and family that you can talk to and that can offer you emotional support. Also you need to keep yourself as busy as you can so you are not thinking about the situation too much. It is always hard to be away from a loved one for a long period of time. take care.
2006-09-07 20:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by pauluk2w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel my husband left for Iraq in June and and has to serve 565 days (and we had just had a baby in Feburary). and I find myself bored out of my mind too.and all my family is in fl and I live in ga. what I usually do to pass time is chat with friends or family through email or phone. I do things with my beautiful baby. I joined a gym (so I can be really looking good when he does come home). and I have started to write out the plans to a buisness that I am starting. consider this as a time for you to do some thing for yourself that you always wanted to. ex..start school, run a marathon, start a buisness. just do something that really makes you happy. believe me you being happy will help him stay positive and happy in knowing that he will have a happy energetic soon to wife to look forward to coming home to. Stay positive
2006-09-07 20:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by missslovely 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are too many things to list. But the one thing you should NOT do is sit around doing nothing. All that will do is give your mind a chance to come up with all the worst case scenarios, and you will just worry yourself more.
2006-09-07 19:21:06 · answer #8 · answered by teeniey37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through IS tough. My husband been over sea's 3 times and yes the first time he left was hard but i kept myself busy with everything and anything. If you cant deal with it now, how will you deal with it when your married to him?. I know when i married my husband i also married the Corp. Keep your head up dont let this beat you down.
USMC~~WIFE
2006-09-07 20:15:10 · answer #9 · answered by LIVE ALOHA!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having good friends around is a mjor plus when it comes to staying busy. my bf is stationed away and its hard. its been almost a month since we last spoke and its killing me and everything people have told me is to wait and be patient. keep him in your thoughts and prayers and know other peopl can relate to u as well. if u find ur self thining about him alot dont think abouty how he is away think bout all the happy times you both shared and the ones u will make when he comes back...it helps.
2006-09-07 19:44:03 · answer #10 · answered by theskyispink v 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋