Basically, I am flying to Michigan tomorrow to see my ex-girlfriend. I am flying with my current girlfriend, who happens to be my ex's best friend. So here is my predicament: how do I spend time with my girlfriend (who I only get to see on weekends: I'm in college, she's a senior in HS) but at the same time, respect my ex and honor her birthday (the reason I am flying)?
Now, understand, my ex and I are on friendly terms. As a matter of fact, the only reason we originally broke-up was because she moved 1000 miles away. I spent the next week and half hanging with her best friend, who had become my second best friend who was a girl. And then we just realized we were right for each other. So, we've been going for 3 weeks. And at first, my ex felt betrayed and hurt, but she has kinda gotten over it. I still think it hurts her though because she hasn't found someone to replace me yet. But yeah, how can I love my girlfriend without disrespecting my ex? Is it possible?
2006-09-07 19:08:44 · 17 answers · asked by Jackson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well whatever you do, when you're making out with your new girl and your old one calls you a jerk, don't assume that it's because she still has feelings for you and wants a threesome. That won't work... trust me.
2006-09-07 19:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what your ex is going to feel odd no matter what she says. It seems that you guys are very mature and capable of handling much more than normal people. But I would proceed with caution and play it by ear. The worst thing would be to have your ex have a bad birthday. Maybe you should sit this one out and just let your girlfriend go alone so that the two friends can have some time together without you reminding your ex of what happened? After all your new girlfriend is the friend. She is the one who really should be celebrating the birthday with her friend. Consider bailing out of this trip. Seriously.
2006-09-07 19:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're walking into a hornet's nest! Neither girl will be satisfied, no matter what you do, with how the time will be spent on this trip.
Your best bet:
Hang out with your girlfriend, show her affection while the ex is around. (hold her hand, not like make out or anything)
But, be friendly to your ex. Be happy to see her, and be there for the parties and stuff. But, don't be around her 24/7 on the trip, especially if alcohol will be involved! The more face time you have between the two of them, the higher likelihood of woman drama.
In the future.....don't poop where you eat. (don't date within the same circle of friends!)
2006-09-07 19:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everybody's okay with the situation, why make an issue out of it. Try explaining to your current g/f that you would like to spend some time with your ex alone in case she's uncomfortable or whatever. If everyone agrees to this then proceed. If not, go from there & work out a reasonable compromise
2006-09-07 19:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol....sounds like you and I have a little thing called DRAMA in common. There is no right answer. The x knows the deal so she will obviously understand that you are with the other girl etc etc...just don't go overboard with the kisses and hugs in front of her that would just be tacky. WOW!! that would suck...just be glad that I am not the x because you may fly up here but you would be limping back~
2006-09-07 19:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is very tricky territory. Normally this situation would be a MAJOR NO NO. You are asking for trouble here. Honestly, I dont know if there is going to be any easy way around this. Just be open and honest with both of them I guess, be careful not to rub it in to your ex that you are not only with someone else but that someone else was her supposed best friend who betrayed her. Tread very carefully and good luck!
2006-09-07 19:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible if all three of u are willing to make it happen. As long as ur secure with who u love and she is as well, and the ex dosn't get any mixed signals from u this weekend u should come thru unscaved. Communication is the key. Good luck!
2006-09-07 19:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one, make sure you are never alone with her. If you make that mistake, you may have no girlfriend.
You must prove to your now girlfriend that you two are friends only. So have fun, do mention the fact that you used to date, and go home like you would any other friend.
If you make it a big deal, it will become one.
2006-09-07 19:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by whatwouldyodado2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wan u to b frenz w ur ex. treat her like any other gal, show more attention to ur current. pay attention to ur ex onli when singin bday song, dinner or speakin.
u three nid to hang out together to get rid of tis awkwardness. bring ur gf to shop for a present for ur ex. it wouldnt b tough as both of u noe her well.
P.S u nid to tell ur current gal tt u might feel a little awkward n hope she understands. explain if u hav to, make up w her like a kiss or a hug if u hav to or even buy her flowers.
gd luck n take care.
2006-09-07 20:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in tricky territory. But you better realize that even if you're ex says she's ok with it, she's not. She's hurting inside. Personally I wouldn't wanna see my ex with my best friend. If I was in you're shoes I don't know that I would do what you're doing--it's insensitive and kinda rubbing salt in her wounds.
2006-09-07 20:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by ScorpioBeauty09 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋