i kinda want to get to know this other guy here at college, but i cant break up with my boyfriend of 3 years just to take that risk. he loves me so much, and i cant hurt him that much. is it wrong to just wait it out and sort out my feelings and kinda hang out with this other guy too?
2006-09-07 18:52:13 · 13 answers · asked by sugar56 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't have your cake and eat it to.. If you are not wanting to continue your long distance relationship then you need to end it. Be honest with him .. needless to say how would you feel if you were the one that was being respectful, honest and not cheating = only to find out your boyfriend of 3 years was out hanging around with another girl?
Long distance relationship are hard that is granted .. they take a lot of work. But if you are willing to take the steps through it - then they do work (I married my husband after going through a long distance relationship for 2 yrs plus and then a 1 yr deployment). But it takes complete trust, commitment, honesty, the ability to communicate and loving one another.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-07 18:56:23 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have dated long distance. Now, I wasn't necessarily with her, however, I didn't date anyone else. My choice. Now, you said he loves so much but you didn't say how you feel for him. Losing feelings??? Listen, I know it must not be easy for you but you need to tell your bf you need some time away and explore other relationships. Let him know what level you are on with your relationship with him. Being honest sucks but its the best policy. Not to mention Karma will come back. Dn't hang with the other guy until you settle thing with your bf. Your conscience will help you here. Just follow it. Ask the question others I am sure will say: "how would you feel if you were the one at home and he is in college? Good luck. Be good to the good guy!
2006-09-07 19:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationship is very difficult to maintain. If you plan to hang out with this guy, then there may be a possibility that you will fall for him. In my opinion, I think it is wrong. It's okay to stay as friends, but you must set your limits with this guy, because if you go overboard, it is considered cheating. And yeah, do you think it's worth giving up your commited 3 year long relationship for this guy you want to know more about? Think things through and... hopefully you and your boyfriend will be together as soon as possible. Because in this world, there are so few guys who are that loving, caring, and commited.
2006-09-07 19:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by *a∙e∙r∙i∙t∙h* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is: do you still love your boyfriend?
if yes, then what's the problem? hanging out with another guy doesn't entail that you are a two-timer unless you have another intention. besides, having a boyfriend doesn't stop your right to socialize, meet people and make friends.
if no, then again what's the problem? there is no point in going on with a relationship which is only one-sided. you have to be honest to your boyfriend and of course to yourself.
think about this: long distance relationship almost always doesn't work.
2006-09-07 19:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by enigmaticenegue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about how important your boyfreind of 3 years is to you. Do you want a future with him? How much does he meant to you? If you love him, and you want to be with him, dont' hang around wiht this other guy. He will only tempt you and you will end up cheating on your boyfriend. Then your future will be ruined. If you don't want to be with your boyfreind, then you need to make that clear to him before you hang around with this other guy. Make a decision, and make it now. For real. It's not fair for you to linger back and forth. It's not fair to either of these guys. Its just plain selfish to do so.
2006-09-07 19:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Green Tea Happy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young- you don't want to regret passing anything up. Tell your bf that you want to take a break and see how he feels about it. If you love him and can't bear hurting him, then stay with him and avoid temptation. Hard decision to make - good luck!
2006-09-07 18:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥michele♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't hurt him.
Stick to my policy that saying One Love At A Time.
It is always the best policy.
2006-09-07 18:58:28 · answer #7 · answered by Roddick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PFT U BETTER NOT CHEAT YOU DONT WANT TO HURT HIM? IS THAT ALL YOU ARE CONCERNED ABOUT? WHAT ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT LISTEN DON'T PLAY WITH HIM EITHER BREAK IT OFF OR BREAK IT OFF WITH THE OTHER GUY. IF YOU REALLY CARED ABOUT YOUR CURRENT BF YOU WOULD NOT POST THIS QUESTION, IS APPARENT YOU DON'T CARE AND WANT TO BE SINGLE TO LOOK ELSEWHERE SO, MAKE UP YOUR MIND DON'T BE A CHEATER!
2006-09-07 19:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dispirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling i am going through the same thing... a cup of coffee would not hurt the relationship...think about it i am pertty sure that your bf has done the same...just dont let it go too far
2006-09-07 18:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by "Chanel-o" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't go there. Either break up with the LDR or don't even SEE the other guy.
2006-09-07 18:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋