I am 25, and I havn't been with anyone since my fiance died 1 1/2 years ago...until recently. I met a guy at a bar, and hung out at his house a few nights later, then had sex. I was the one who initiated it...I basically said it had been a while, and I needed some. We hung out for about a month and a half after that, but it was only a fling, and we were both in it just for the sex. I know a **** is someone who gets around a lot, which I don't, but does this make me sound like one? Or look like one to him?
2006-09-07 18:38:17 · 27 answers · asked by Curiousmom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What ever is happening now with you is very very normal for a normal human , learn one thing , to be your own boss and never allow anyone to give or pass judgement about you . And more important is you stop seeking approval from others about your deciesions . This will make you very strong loveable confident , individual who knows how to live alone happily without disturbing others .and here , the gentleman is also enjoying your company , so there is no way he can think negatively about you . Good luck .
2006-09-07 19:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by your noon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emm.. its just b'coz you feel lonely and need someone's attention so that you won't be alone everytime.. Plus since you met this guy at the bar and makes you feel you are not lonely anymore so you will have the emotions to do whatever you have missed in this 1 1/2 yrs after your fiance died.. If you really got a feeling for him the let him know that he is not just sex for you and either than you to him.. If you don't have feeling on this guy, then why not stop acting like that and go for a holiday and meet a lots of friends so that you can find your better half rather than this problem keep occur in yourself..
2006-09-08 01:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Vt Beauty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 25 not 16, having sex is normal activity, it doesn't mean you are in love. Now if you are having sex with men that you pick up at the bar on a regular bases, then you need to stop and take a look at what is going on and change gears. You waited 1.5 years, that is enough of the celibacy, nothing wrong with what you did.
If the relationship with him goes no where, then get out of that scene and start meeting new people. I have a lot of friends who have met their life partners on e-harmonay and yahoo personals.
Enjoy and don't worry!
2006-09-08 01:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Baseball inquisitive 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a 46 yr old male and I think it sounds like you are feeling guilty for some reason. I don't see you as a b i t c h or a w h o r e just because you had a one night stand . Why is it wen men do it with lots of women they are considered studs and women on the other hand called who res. Nice to get that off my chest. Good Luck Teacher.
2006-09-08 01:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by Teacher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, you are an adult and one guy doesnt make you a slut...do that with 10 guys then thats a different story. Sometimes its just nice to feel wanted and desired especially if it has been a long time. Chaulk this up to part of your heeling experience after a tragic situation...now that your feet are wet, look for someone who can give you the whole package.
2006-09-08 01:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you really care what he thinks. You had a need and fulfilled it. We are not sluts for taking care of business. you have been through alot. If you continue to sleep with different guys without any feeling then you are a slut. Someone will come into your life and make you crazy if your mind is open to it. Let your heart lead you in the right direction.
2006-09-08 01:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by trvlnspark 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about labels. Just do your. Until your thing involves sleeping with a different guy every day of the week, don't worry. You had a fling. It's what you needed/wanted. No harm no foul.
2006-09-08 01:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you sound like a sl ut but who cares what other people think. You craved sex and got it, he seems to be cool with that so its a win-win.
Next time you have the urge just go to a bar in a different neighbourhood so you dont get a reputation.
2006-09-08 01:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think so at long as you dont make it a habbit then you are ok. Maybe it was a way of you moving on. Good Luck in your future and most of all keep your self-esteem up high, don't woorry what others think.
2006-09-08 17:43:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. one fling doesn't make you a slut--i think sometimes a fling is exactly what we want and even "need." while he might think of you that way, if he was just a fling, you don't need to worry about it!
2006-09-08 01:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by duckie3077 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋