We've been together 5 years. We are gettingn married and buying a house at the same time/. First should we do it seperately?? Is it okay to do it together? My fiance says lets do it together, even though our home needs a few cosmetic updates. Then on our 1 year anniversary do it again and show off all the new updates in our home, what do you think?? When should we do it?
2006-09-07 18:31:46 · 15 answers · asked by Chicago's 1st Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you should do it seperatley. Your celebration of marriage should be in and of itself just a time for people to celebrate your union. Have your housewarming when you fix things up and want to show off. Not only that, but you will get double the gifts if you do it seperatley.
2006-09-07 18:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't try to do everything at one time! In other words, I don't want you to take any celebration away from your marriage/wedding.
I'm not trying to get costly here but there is nothing wrong with having a house warming party. Your TRUE friends will be happy for you. Are you thinking that people will say, "damn, now they're getting married so they want another gift"? If that's what you're thinking, then don't. Nowadays people are giving more $ than gifts.
We purchased our home a year b4 we got married and since we didn't have a house warming...we asked for Home Depot gifts cards! (which are great by the way)
Like I said don't lump everything together like that. When you celebrate your marriage on your day...let that be all you're celebrating on that particular day. Celebrate your Love !!
I wish you the best of Luck.
(i'm still trying to get this house in order) :)
2006-09-08 01:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to have just a wedding celebration soon, and then an anniversary party next year (at the anniversary party, people can check out the finished house-- no need to specifically announce that fact, though).
I think if you had all 3 events within the space of one year, even in combo-style, that is going to be totally annoying to people and it'll look like you two just CAN'T get enough attention.
Contrary to the above answers, neither a wedding, nor a housewarming party, nor an anniversary requires that a gift be given! People only gift at those events if they really feel they WANT to.
2006-09-08 01:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it separtely. If your house is is okay for guests just invite the people that you would invite in a year or two family and close friends. It is a little tacky to go overboard. in my opinion get married settle in and when you have enough to give an open house party --invite them over for a small house warming.
If you have someone that can host it on your behalf it will be that much more charming.
2006-09-08 01:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by d4debs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're thinking of having a low-key party to celebrate your marriage some time after a small wedding, then I think you can combine them.
I wouldn't be happy if I had to go to a housewarming party one weekend and a wedding party the next, and have to bring gifts to both.
However, you only get ONE housewarming party. If you want to have a party in a year to show off, that's okay. But you can't call it a housewarming and you don't get gifts.
2006-09-08 09:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not miss etiquette but I say do it together then have a one year anniversary party to see the new updates....
2006-09-08 01:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by cinderbell2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend who is getting married and just purchased a condo. They held separate parties for each occasion.
2006-09-08 01:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that having a single party is a fine idea. Go for it!
2006-09-08 01:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its fine to do it together. if u do it separtely but close together i'd let ppl know u don't expect presents twice (if u dont) cos otherwise that mine seem funny. good luck with it all. being married is great :)
2006-09-08 01:34:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have the celebration together and have fun!!! Congratulations on your upcoming marriage and new home!
2006-09-08 01:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by LasVegasMomma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋