I work 10 hours a day and he works 8. But when I get home He wants dinner. I leave before him and get home after him.
Before I leave in the AM I make sure that our kid has breakfast and he has lunch. He works in the AC and I work in 95*.
2006-09-07 18:25:41 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your husband to be civilized. Maybe he doesn't know what that is. If that is the case, good luck.
2006-09-07 18:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by sean1201 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is extremely unacceptable for him to behave this way. You work a longer day in less comfortable conditions than he does. He needs to carry his weight in the relationship, because it sure as heck doesn't sound like he's carrying it now. It isn't right for him to expect dinner when he gets home, when you've worked harder than he has. He could learn to make dinner himself, if he wants it right away. Remind him that men are indeed capable of cooking for themselves.
If you think it's possible to talk sense into him, try it. Or have someone he will actually listen to do it. If he won't, try to have him go to couples' therapy with you (maybe he would listen to a professional). This sounds like situation where an ultimatum is okay; "We have to work this out, or this marriage is going to quickly be in trouble."
I hope you can find a way to work this out with him!
2006-09-08 01:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by ChiChi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Speak softly and carry a big stick!"
Explain to him that since you come home later than him, he shouldn't expect you to be able to prepare HIS dinner at the time he needs it. If he has enough sense of responsibility within and without the house, he should know how to fix dinner for himself (and your kid, too!) while you are not yet at home.
A wife cannot be a wife, and a mother, and a partner in breadwinning and still be a domestic helper all at the same time.
That's one slob! Yes, tell him I said so! If he really wanted a family, then he should quit bossing anyone around at home.
2006-09-08 01:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him, and tell him the same thing which u have posted over here. Massage each other at night. Relax together. Go out every weekend with ur kid, have quality time with each other. And about the yelling, tell him politely, and tell it hurts. Also ask him to be on ur shoes and then yell. Make him understand.
If he doesn't listens, leave ur kid with him, when he is having a off, and u go have rest at ur Mom's place.
2006-09-08 01:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by ashlesha19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever think super glue might come in handy? Wait until he is asleep and get out the glue! I AM kidding of course! :- ) I wish I had an answer for you that would work. Men can be such jerks. . I couldn't find anything that worked with my husband until he got so sick that he couldn't yell. Good luck in finding a way to get him to stop.
2006-09-08 01:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by grandmaL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a crock pot. Put the meat and things in before you go to work. Cook it on low...by the time you get home it will be done. OR you can put it on at night and let it cook while you sleep. Getting up you will find your dinner ready for the evening meal. Put in frig. til you return home.
Tell husband you are not hard of hearing...if he would speak normally you could understand him better. See how that works, ok.
2006-09-08 01:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lore 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say it, but you can't stop him, he has to stop himself. This is a really hard spot to be in, I know.Is there any chance he'd be willing to go to counselling? I assume he'd get more angry if you simply refused to make him dinner, or argued back. What about writing him a letter, put it somewhere that when he reads it, you won't be anywhere in earshot (like in his lunch) and then he has time to really think about it before you talk to him again. Something gentle, yet firm, that you just can't handle what you're going through and you would really like things to change...etc.
2006-09-08 01:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay him no mind. Ignore it, leave for a drive with your kid. Tell him you are not cooking everynight. Or better yet cook during for the whole week on sunday. So it is easier on you.
Look at im crazy and say "why are you yelling are you crazy?"
2006-09-08 01:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by kay S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling .. yelling is not acceptable and in addition its marriage - you are both working and it should be a joint effort to run the household. Its not all your responsibility.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-08 01:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to ignore him like the kids do to us moms when we yell. Maybe if he gets no response, after a while he might try finding out why he gets no response.
Silence and no action might just show him you are not his "child" to boss around, but his equal partner.
2006-09-08 01:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that ungrateful bastard to shut the f u c k up and if he doesn't then he can start cooking his own damn meals from now on and washing his own skid marked underwear because you aren't putting up with anymore of his s h i t....You are doing more than your fair share in the marriage and he needs to smarten up and shut up.....These damn men I swear live in the stone age still and act like Fred f u c k i n' Flintstone.....don't take that crap.....withhold food, laundry and sex.....that will shut him up pretty quick.....and don't let him yell at you....all else fails grab and twist......he'll be a soprano......Good luck.....
2006-09-08 02:26:47 · answer #11 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋