i feel like im inlove with this person...i know him for almost a year now...just for work and now were in the relationship that so confusing....his always in my mind...but the problem is i dont know if he feel the same for me...he said he cares for me and he said we gonna have a good time...but im not sure coz i am afraid...
that i be hurt again...pls.help
2006-09-07 18:12:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if u feel like ur in love.....be afraid to not establish that and find out if he feels likewise......that's as bad or worse than being hurt byh the truth(not knowing, and allowing mind to play games).
2006-09-07 18:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that annoying feeling of being hurts truly does suck but it can only make you stronger and more wise to the next person you decide to open your heart to. I didnt believe in love at first I thought is was just for the movies and not for me until I actually did fall in love and found the one true thing missing from my life. My best friend always says if you want to know then ask, I say put it in a game ike truth or dare just between you two. the truth will come out eventually.
2006-09-08 01:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by ask me again 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow... see if he is as interested in you as you are... if not.. then you will be hurt.
don't jump into anything. To know someone for a year doesn't mean you take things slow...it's not the same as starting to get involved.
Sounds like you genuinely are interested.. and its natural that you don't want to get hurt. I hate to say it... but if you are to fall in love with the guy.... you will get hurt... even if he falls for you too.... you will get hurt. Love is not easy... it hurts! That's what they call it falling... but sometimes... the hurt is totally worth it!
The way I see it... it's like jumping into a pool. There you are... vulneralbe in your bathingsuit... and you don't just jump in. You go to the pool... and dip your big toe! Than.. maybe your foot... not so sure.. the other foot.... you think about it... and then you jump...
Take your time... date a little... don't get too serious quickly... get a feel of the water... and then you will know if he is really worth the plunge!
Yes, I believe in love.. I don't have a choice.. I lived it! All of you who say no... just haven't experienced it. Once you live it... you don't have a choice but to know it exist (kind of like getting an orgasm.... once you have one for the first time... you're like... oh that's whats everyone was talking about.... gimme more! love is a drug)
2006-09-08 01:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Socrate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do believe in love but not true love, it only lasts for awhile but u can always make it work by building a friendship so that once love wears off there is always friendship to keep this relationship between the 2 of u working...fyi, if he is desperate for u at the start then probably he will lose interest in u fast and u'd be hurt again so ask urself that
2006-09-08 01:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ain't love grand. Yeah I believe in it been there done that, The outcome is not always great. From what you write you are not in love. If afraid double up with someone you trust until you do feel safe and remeber just cuz you think your safe does not mean you are.
2006-09-08 01:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to love is to be fearless. the only way to be fearless is to not let fear get in the way. SO see how hte trealtionship progresses and who knows he might feel just as deeply as you do. Just relax and go with the flow and hopefully it will all work out. And if it doesn't you just pull yourself together and look for that spexcial someone somewhere else
2006-09-08 01:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by david k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he feels about you, ask where the relationship is going. You need to have this talk with him to see if you're both on the same page. Relationships aren't a one way street.
But anyway, I do believe in love. It's what I live for, it's what I desire most in life...
2006-09-08 01:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL YES I DO BELIEVE IN LOVE AND LOVE IS THE GREATEST GIFT GOD HAS EVER GIVEN TO MAN KIND. YOU WILL KNOW IF YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THIS PERSON B/C LIKE YOU SAID , HE NEVER LEAVES YOUR THOUGHTS AND JUST BY THE FEELINGS YOU HAVE FOR HIM WILL TELL YOU THIS IN ITS SELF. SURE HE SAYS HE CARES FOR YOU AND YOUR GOING TO HAVE A GOOD TIME BUT HAT CAN MEAN ALLOT OF DIFFERENT THINGS THERE. I THINK IF HE HAD THE SAME FEELINGS FOR YOU AND LOVED YOU HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO TELL YOU THIS OPENLY AND NOT THINK TWICE ABOUT IT. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-08 01:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weak people believe in Love, in reality Love does not exist, you might be fond of someone but after a short while you will forget all about them and like someone else.
why do you think most marriages end up in divorce?????
2006-09-08 01:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by froggy010101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally believe in being inlove.....I also believe in honesty....
tell him you love him, If he doesnt love you, it is best to know now. Do you want to be with someone who doesnt love you/???
Do you want to be a good time/????
Then that is up to you!!! Being scared is normal, being hurt really is not fun either...but it is part of falling in love, especially if tthe other doesnt love you.... if he doesnt, it is best to know before you get tooo hooked on him.
good luck.....
2006-09-08 01:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by LM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋