my 7 year old help me please!?

Question

this year my 7 year old has been going though a lot. he is seeing his father that he has been around full time till a year ago like once a week. a child who was student of the month last year is getting in trouble everyday in school to where i took him to his pediatrican. well he seems to think my son has bi polar and add and a mood disorder and he has my son on clonidine(sp), ritilan, and depakote and suggests that i take hiom to the hospital to be evaluated. i am not sure what to do.i do think my son may have ADD because he does have difficulty being still and concentrating, but i feel him not seeing his dad is eti\ating at him and he is taking it out on me? i am also bipolar and i was just diagnosed 3 months ago and i dnt want my son to become dependant on meds...any advice would be appreciated.........

sorry for the typos

Answer 1

How can you ignore the obvious and listen to this modern day quack? The kid is acting out because he misses having his Dad around; not because he has one of these modern day imaginary child mental disorders!!! Get his Father back in the picture; the two of you sit down with him and talk the situation out until he understands it and is not threatened by it in any way; at least til he knows he can come to you when he's bothered by it and he'll be OK. I swear to God, I feel like smacking these doctors who are in bed with the drug companies; anytime a kid starts acting up these days, it's time for Lobotomy in a Bottle!

Think about it!!!! Before his Dad moved out, he was an honor student; no difficulty concentrating on anything. Dad moves out, spends less time, BOOM! Different kid! Then you take him to one of these witch doctors who puts him on drugs. The drugs don't solve the problem, they perpetuate it! Get your boy off those drugs; get his Dad back in the picture and do it NOW before it's too late.

Answer 2

7 is pretty young for a bipolar diagnosis. Sounds like this doc has a lot of psycho-babble explanations for what might be just a kid hurting a lot. I'd check in with a different doc, maybe a child psychologist rather than a pediatrician, for a second opinion. Wherever you take him to be evaluated, I'd be sure they know that this all started around the same time as his father left.

I'd worry about all those meds for a child so young.

ADD is possible, but does he concentrate on things he's interested in, or not on anything? It's not real unusual for a kid that age, especially a boy, to have trouble sitting still and concentrating. Possibly he's just distracted over the breakup of the family, which can be pretty tough on a kid. I don't mean that to sound judgemental of you - you've got a lot on your plate too, and sometimes parents have to go their separate ways, is best for everyone in the long run

If all this acting out started around the time you and his father split up, I'd guess it's probably a lot more likely his behavior is related to that than that he suddenly came down with all these other ills.

Are you and his dad on decent enough terms that you can sit down and talk about this, and try to find ways to ease your son's unhappiness?

Good luck and God bless..

Answer 3

I dont see why you should have to take him to the hospital... But if hes getting himself in trouble a lot at school, then hes being self-destructive... He may not mean to be hurting himself, but he is hurting his future... Your job as the mother is to step in, you are definitely doing the right thing. There are so many parents out there that really dont care... But as a mother, you also have to trust your instincts.. I wouldnt trust his pediatrician on this... The fact that he has him on 3 different medications at 7 years of age, is ridiculous.. He is overmedicating, when in fact he probably doesnt need any medication, but rather maybe just some therapy...

Also as a patient, or a patients mother in this situation, its your job to ask any questions you might have... Any concerns... Tell him, yeah I think he might have a touch of ADD, but he doesnt need to be on 3 different medications... He's not a nutcase, can we just try therapy first??? And make sure he knows about the situation at home... Your probably right, that is whats causing the problems, esp. if he was really close to him. Also ask instead of being evaluated at a hospital (which can be very intiminating to a child, as well as a lot more expensive, plus you wont even be seeing the same psycholgist each time, more then likely), so ask if you can have him evaluated by a psycholgist of your choice... Maybe ask the school for recommendations... And instead of trying to find a label for him, this therapist should be more interested in him as a person, and how he can be helped, and in fact he really shouldnt be on meds in the beginning, unless he is hurting himself in any physical way (not just by getting bad grades)... Ok, anyways, I hope this helped...

Answer 4

ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) has become an "easy way out "for the education and medical profession to "dump" responsibility off the parent and school for a child's behavior.

If you are truly bipolar, I have no doubt your son is experiencing difficulty at home and school. You are responsible for the care, well-being, and nurturing of your child.

Ask your physician for a support group for families who have someone diagnosed as bipolar. Encourage your son's father to accompany you and your son to these support group meetings.

Don't allow your son's mental health to deteriorate

Answer 5

You know your son better then any doctor in this world. You must know that divorce takes a toll on the children. Explain to him that it is not his fault for the breaking up in the marriage. Do not put him on those drugs they will make him like a zombie. I think all boys have lots of energy and when going through a hard time they tend to lose focus. Have him see a specialist that does not give out meds. Good luck and please do not have the doctors put him on those meds.

Answer 6

question. did your divorce end in good terms or are you still at the stage of (if i see him in a dark alley his mine). If it ended ok ask your ex if he can take a day off and all of you go out somewhere to have fun. Let your child see that his world has just changed a little but both parents love him. By the way as good intentions as his pediatrician might have, he is not a shrink. Take your kid off the meds until you have an evaluation done. part of my job is to take down the side affects. and i have heard horrible stories of those drugs.

Answer 7

its funny how in today's society we label everything that goes wrong. if someone acts different we give them a pill. your son is 7 most 7 year old boys are inattentive and fidgety. kids have emotions too. try talking to him as opposed to drugging him. does anyone ever consider the adverse affects of medicating a 7 year old. what a way to live.

Answer 8

Counciling ... the Doc who wrote the scripts for the meds should be able to get you and your son in a support group for folks in the same boat.......it helps to speak with other prople with similar troubles....... Good Luck.

Answer 9

Doctors are so quick to throw children on meds....Kids need discipline, not meds. My god lady, put a hand on that butt every once in awhile, and the problem will be solved. Learn to raise your kid!

Get him off the freakin' meds....

Answer 10

father means SECURITY, SELF IDENTITY, motivator, abilty to succeed. boyish play, rough it out , mateship

mother means creativity, sensitivity, caring, love & warm.

your son at 7 is developing, he miss his dad in more ways than just physical. put aside your differences for your son sake.

remember help him now, coz on your last days, family is what u gonna miss.