This is probably going to sound stupid but i just want some advice. A friend of mine and myself lost some contact over the past year we started talking again about two weeks ago. She is going through a rough time right now she was just seperated from her husband. She called me cause she needed some help with watching her children. She suggested we catch up and have movie night at her house. Two weeks has passed and i have not heard from her. I phoned her yesterday and left a message just telling her i was just saying hello and if she needed help with anything to call and also if she still wanted a movie night. I have not heard back from her about that yet and im wondering if i should call again in a few days or just let it go and wait to see if she calls me. It almost seems like she just calls if she needs something. any advice appreciated
2006-09-07 18:07:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
let it go. If and when she needs you...she'll call.
2006-09-07 18:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by redneckgardendiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound stupid, it sounds like a typical human situation. It must have been great re-connecting with your friend after a long hiatus. Too bad she is going through a rough time right now.
Fortunately, she had you to bless her life for a short time and offer some much needed help with the kids. As a friend and working as a servant of God, you have probably given her much more than you thought! Your small favor may have blessed her and the children in many ways.
Since she is going through a difficult time, it may be wise to approach her carefully and with compassion. This quiet spell may have been time spent sorting out issues with her husband. She may have been overwhelmed with organizing her family's future, which comes as a higher priority than having a recreational night.
I would certainly keep in contact by phone, but keep it casual as you have been already. This way she knows that you care about her and are still interested in her friendship, without looking for anything more.
God bless you for being there at a time of need!
2006-09-08 01:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needed a shoulder to cry on so she contacted u for that reason only. I think the "movie night" was a front to get u to talk to her and get her through her tough time. Basically I think she used u but only time will tell. I would not call her anymore. If she is for real about starting the friendship back up she'll call u. If she doesn't don't worry about it. Let it go and move on. Next time she needs something don't be so quick to come to her rescue. She should get the point.
2006-09-08 02:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by gyrlundone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a situation like that, I would worry more that something bad has happened to her. Just call and say, "just checking in with you to see if you are OK." If you know a neighbor or a relative of hers, you might call them, say the same thing: I am just trying to check in with Sally, I called the other day, and she did not call back and I am a little worried about that. I know she is busy, have her leave me a voice mail telling me she is OK
And if nobody calls back, then assume she found help elsewhere, or is too busy.
2006-09-08 03:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's genuinely going through a bad patch, it could be possible that she is in no mood to face the external world. she might be having mood swings.
either that, or something worse might have happened and she'd rather cope with it herself (sometimes our pride might get in the way).
i feel you should give her another chance, and leave a message for her that you understand, and you'll always be around for her.
then leave her alone to sort out her issues.
if possible, you might want to swing by from a distance to make sure she is at least safe.
in the event you do find out she only calls when she needs you, and doesnt treat you with respect, you have done your part as a friend and deserves a pat on the back.
take good care.
2006-09-08 01:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by ash 7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what i would do is give her a couple of days because she is probably just having problems right now with the separation of her husband and if she has kids it ain't easy being a single mom but just give it a couple of day then call her if you cant get her i would go try to see her maybe she does need help but she don't want to bother you with her problems
2006-09-08 01:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by jessica_right2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may sound stupidER
don't think this, but, when someone i know and love or have a relationship with is gone or doesn't respond to calls or mail for a while, i as well as many other people, will assume the worse: something has happened to them
that's self-explanatory.
call her back just to check on her
she may be on vacation
if u live close by her, stop by and knock on her door to see if she's alright
i'm no expert in this, but i t may help
2006-09-08 01:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by papa'll kick ur ass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is busy. You said it has been a hectic time for her. Don't jump to conclusions. Give her sometime. If she calls she calls, if not its not the end of the world. Don't get yourself in a frenzy over spilled milk. Good luck to you.
2006-09-08 01:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by Groovie_Galore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i think you just wait for her calls. and i know she will call you if she needs a help,dont worry too much,i know that fellings. If you are worrying too much,check her once again or you can phone her one more time,if she didnt ans. or call back better go to her house.
2006-09-08 01:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by cutie gurl23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be a little conflicted in her marriage. Let her rough patch in life runs its course if you are there and supportive then you will be there when she is ready to continue on with life.
2006-09-08 03:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by the_fun_lovin_criminal_187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot's of bad things happen during break-ups. If you are concerned about her, try again to contact her.... try as often as you like. But don't let lack of response bring you down. If you are not concerned about her, let it go.
2006-09-08 01:15:24 · answer #11 · answered by jchristop05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋