i love him and all but i think i will be rushing and i want it to be just right. what should i do?
2006-09-07 18:06:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ya I'm with you. Going way too fast. What's the rush in getting married if you're going to spend the rest of your lives together? Tell him that. This doesn't have to be a big issue. Just let him know that you're not looking to get married right away no matter how you feel about him now or a few months from now. Tell him you want to give it a good bit of time and that there's no need to rush it. Don't his ideas go unchallenged or he may pop the question and put you in a position where you choose to enter into marriage too quickly (not good) or end it with someone that you saw a good bit of potential in (also not good). In other words, just be honest with him.
2006-09-07 18:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best answer is to wait, a lot of people has already told u that, and they r right just wait, he may be hurt at frist but it,s the best and he'll see that later on in life never never rush in to something no matter what it is in life,think be for u do! i have seen a lot friend's rush in marriage and now i see them unhappy and looking a way out and u don't want that, and if the guy leaves u then he didn't love u because when u love someone really really love someone u understand them no matter how much it hurts, but yes ur right u would be rushing in something that might hurt the both of ya, spend time with this guy not just month's but a few yrs then start talking about marriage..
2006-09-07 18:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by david h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl 5 months isnt long enough to staighten your hair! In other words 5 months is too short of a time to really truly know someone but if you love him and he loves you then tell him that you need your time to get your life ready and make sure that what you want is what he wants and then you can talk about marriage.
At least that is what I had to do. Those marriages where they have only known each other for 3 months are rare but they happen but both parties are completely reasy for that commitment
2006-09-07 18:12:34 · answer #3 · answered by ask me again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you he should be willing to make this relationship work. As the subject comes up, let him know you are not yet ready and why. Be honest. You want the relationship to be right for both of you. That way you are not cutting him down, and you are showing that your reasons for not wanting to rush into this is to makes sure you and him can have the best possible future.
2006-09-07 18:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Searcher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allright here's exactly what you do. You sit him down at breakfast or out clubbing or in bed or I don't really care where. You look him right in the eyes and you tell him "I'm not ready" use english unless he speaks another language better. I'm pretty sure he'll understand, if not he can ask questions. Don't flirt about with relationship stuff. Don't be coy or hint. If it's serious enough to not blow off it's serious enough to speak your mind and not be obsessed about what your partner will think of you for being honest.
2006-09-07 18:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated my wife for 5 months, then I asked her. Talking about marriage and getting down on one knee are not the same thing :-)
If you love him, and he asks you, say yes. Most people are engaged for a year or so while they plan/prepare for a wedding. There are all kinds of relationship counseling (pre-marital), which you should both attend, those events include many couples, and are good for getting you both to really think about what you are getting into :)
Do not worry about any of this yet, at least let him pop the question first..
Good luck
2006-09-07 18:16:00 · answer #6 · answered by rocketman33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going along the correct path. 5 months is a relatively short time for a couple to start planning for marriage. Give yourselves more time to get to know each other better before taking the plunge. Marriage must only be a step to follow a couple who are in love with each other. Otherwise, it will not last long.
If your guy really loves you, he will respect your views and decision. So, if he insists, then you will know that if you give in now, you will also have to give in to his demands in future!
2006-09-07 18:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Itz OK that u two are dating. But u didn't mention ur age lady???
Anyways, talk to him, tell him that u value his feelings.
But at the moment there is nothing like marraige in ur mind, I mean not so soon. Make him understand that u are in no hurry to marry so soon..
U didn't even mention y u dont want to marry so soon.
Tell him the reason behind the delay. Explain him carefully, understand his feelings too & then u both decide.
2006-09-07 18:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry if you are not ready. This will just cause problems. I am real serious about marriage and this is something that should be thought about carefully before saying I do. Just think about it and trust your instincts
2006-09-07 20:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by dkelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you ad really truly wants to marry you (at some point) then you should be worth the wait. If he can't respect that, then he isn't respecting you. You two need to get to know each other better before the big "M."
2006-09-07 18:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋