It's sad how it all ended and in the end i'm the one who is still thinking about her. This girl had my heart and we were so close. Damn near like brother n sister but I couldn't help but to catch feelings for her. I know ladies when a girl calls u like a brother she isn't intrested but damn i can't help these feelings i had. I mean I known her for a like 3 years and i'm just standing here like WTF it's just going to end like this? Ever since she fell in love with some guy she started to change little by little. The only time I would get a call was when he did something stupid and I have to sit there and listen to her BS about her boyfriend. I wish I hadn't caught feelings but that only made the situation worse. She started calling me jealous ( i was just a lil bit) BUT that was only because she was playing some minds games with saying i like and i love u and I wanted to be with you can **** up a guys mind especially since i like the girl. How do I get over this girl and move on?
2006-09-07 18:04:14 · 20 answers · asked by Biggz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Short Term: When she calls don't answer her call, I know it will take great restraint because you want to talk to her. Remember you have to make her realize you aren't there for her convenience.
Long Term: You need to get out in the world and start dating other women, at least go in the social circle to keep occupied.
Lifetime: If she is your true friend, she will understand how she is keeping you on the chain for her convenience and realize it is unfair to you. It is somewhat selfish on her part, when she is lonely then it's your turn. Don't let that happen. She can't change her feelings, if she thinks of you as a brother, she loves you as a brother, it won't progress.
There is someone else out there that is your soul-mate, if you keep your soul attached to hers you aren't going to find that person. Let go and move on, it won't be easy but with time the pain will pass.
Good luck!
2006-09-07 18:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Baseball inquisitive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find something else to take up your time so you get your mind off this girl!!! It sucks to feel something for someone who doensn't feel the same way...for sure! But maybe she kinda took advantage of the way you felt for her...she knew what she was doing & you got hurt. You are just gonna have to move on & find someone more real about herself & more real about what kind of relationship she wants w/ you. Let her go 1st this time...you know...let her say what she wants & how she feels...and pay attention to her actions. If they go along w/ what she says, you may have something to work with. Don't let everyone know you have a soft heart...people are mean sometimes...even though it's rare to find a guy with a heart these days...I'm not saying change by any means...just protect yourself a little more before you open all the way up & give your heart to just anybody. Only a select few deserve your whole heart!
The girl that is true & real with you will be very lucky! A man with a good heart is a keeper. Good Luck!!
2006-09-07 18:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the big factor. Do not answer her calls, and be strong when you see her number show up on caller ID. Because the more you talk to her the harder it will be to get over her.
Just remember, It is hard to have relationships from other sexes. And make this a learning experience. The first time you get those feelings, maybe you should tell her, and then it will be easier to give it up or maybe she will give in....
but my friend...TIME... is the key.
2006-09-07 18:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by LM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time you stop talking about this girl and get in the game. This is "When Harry Met Sally" time. She is not your friend. She is a girl. You want to go out with that girl. You have to ask her out. So what about the boyfriend! Tell her as much. So what about the freindship! Tell her as much. Take a chance, ask her out, try and be her boyfriend and be prepared to fail if you don't give it your all. If you do give it your all and fail, so be it.
2006-09-07 18:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with your male friends - whatever "guy stuff," you do. Don't think about getting back with your girlfriend, and definitely, do NOT date anyone right now. It is too soon.
Take some to "find out who you are," that is what is important. Once you know who you are and what you want in life, the ideal female will be in your life. Be patient, there isn't any rush.
2006-09-07 18:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely find other interests, including other girls, to spend your time and attention on. Force yourself to do this. It will take your mind off of her. If you run into her (don't initiate contact) then you can mention these other interests, including the other girls who you're thinking about. Do not start talking about your relationship with her.
2006-09-07 18:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mark P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a frightening hadith of Prophet(pbuh) i don't be responsive to the precise words however the hadith is that if a Muslim see an oppression and makes a decision to no longer do something approximately it, does not condemn the acts of the oppressor by way of his coronary heart or by way of his speech have the backside point of Emaan.
2016-12-15 04:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better, time sometimes heals all things.
Think of that girl as unavailable.
Try to get out and socialize with other gals.
2006-09-07 18:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time she calls u to talk a whole lota crap about her bf's nonsense that u dun wanna hear, just tell her "hey i m not ur female friends! they should be the ones hearing this not me" and see what she says cos the truth is gals tell this kinda nonsense only to their female friends if they really wanna get over it
2006-09-07 18:12:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get a few friends and hang out to get things off your mind and some day another girl will come in ur life
2006-09-07 18:08:32 · answer #10 · answered by Maliboo562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋