There's a girl that I have known for almost a year now. I didn't really get a good chance to get to know her well until January of this year... we went out to lunch one day, and she SAYS she's interested in going out with me again. However, every time I try to set something up, it always seems to fall apart. I'm trying to be fair to her here without being overly-optimistic. My line of thinking is that if it was important to her that we go out again, she'd be doing more to make that happen. BUT, at the same time, I've always heard about how girls like to feel like a guy is "fighting for them" which makes me wonder if she's not seeing how much I want to go out with her.... so I was wondering what your thoughts are as to why she's behaving like this.
2006-09-07 18:03:20 · 14 answers · asked by Matt B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get over it and move on...gosh..be a man...
2006-09-07 18:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sexxssay? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I'm not sure of what the circumstances are exactly (just know what little you've told us) so I'm really curious how it is that your plans with her keep falling apart? Maybe it really is just a weird time in her life. A busy time in her life. If she says she wants to hang out with you more than she probably means it as 'most' girls know better than to lead a guy on if they're not interested. As far as her playing these games with you... I doubt she's doing it, but I will atleast say that there are plenty of people who really live and die by these imaginary games that really don't mean $hit. So... just keep trying to arrange something. If it falls apart one or two more times, just forget it. Let her get in contact with you if she wants to do something.
2006-09-08 01:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd agree that if she wants to go out again, she would try a little harder to make it happen. However, she could be busy and it's just a hard time right now.
I'm in the same situation, only with a guy. And as far as I know, the typical guy doesn't want a girl that's too pushy. It's difficult, but as long as you make it perfectly clear that you want to see her again then the problem should resolve itself.
2006-09-08 01:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you answered your own question yeah if a girl really wants to go out with a guy she will without a doubt make herself available even if its an our IMing each other online at a scheduled time. Why dont you try asking her tell her you dont want to waste her time or yours and maybe you will have your answer. But tell her your very interested in her but you dont want to be the last one to know that shes not interested.
2006-09-08 01:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by ask me again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say age is nothing but a number, I disagree. Sometimes age really matters when it comes to dealing with relationship issues. Girls that want to feel like a guy is fighting for them, are girls. Period. Women, on the other hand, know that it takes two to tango. If she really wants to be with you, you shouldn't be the only one making the effort.
2006-09-08 01:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by xxGlamROCK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just ask her, girls want the guy fight for them but not that they don't show any interest at all, and just keep you on reserve, perhaps, the best thing is if you had enough time together just to see what she wants.
I have a suggestion, next time that you ask her out and something happens , tell her to call you when she has time, and tell her that you ain't going to call anymore because you think that she is not interested.
2006-09-08 01:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by santa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out with women who play games, no matter how slight. Her kind just shows they love their own feelings more than how their actions hurt yours, and that they're not willing to meet halfway. Next?
2006-09-08 01:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if girls try to "play games" with you, it's not worth it. It sounds in some ways that she may be trying to slowly let you go. Just forget about her, find someone better.
2006-09-08 01:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you mean she's playing hard to get? If this woman really wanted to go out with you, she would accept your invitation.
Sorry but I think she's just not that into you. Find someone who is.
2006-09-08 01:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not ask women to answer this. They will tell you something that isnt true to keep you and all other men in bondage. If a chick is being aloof with you, be more aloof.
When she tries to set something up, flake once and then go out with her, but be there late. And be calm and not trying so hard.
You may message me for further advice.
2006-09-08 01:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by andyfox1979 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That's what you call self-preservation. Women now are into this. And i strongly agree! It's either guys struggle and persevere or get lost.
2006-09-08 01:27:07 · answer #11 · answered by mctorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋