I have to prepare them for school admissions and though they are very intelligent with all the activity that a school might ask them to perform, they tend to clam up and not speak when they see a new person. And being twins and always having each other for company, they do not socialise with other kids. I Try taking them to play areas where other kids play, and they just stand on one side and refuse to participate.
2006-09-07 17:53:52 · 10 answers · asked by earthling 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I'm a twin as well. What my mom did, was she stuck around for a few minutes until my sister and I were pre-occupied with other kids, then buggered off. ^_^
The strange thing is. We had straight A's until grade 5...that was the first year we were not in the same classroom.
2006-09-07 17:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for three-year-olds to be uncomfortable talking with strangers.
Even when it comes to playing with other children, its normal that they aren't "into that" yet. Four or so is when children start to want to play with other children. I don't think it has anything to do with their being twins (yet anyway). For three-year-olds the world is pretty much still their own mother, family and home and yard. After four or so they start wanting to expand their world.
They may not need any particular help right now. Just see what goes on over the next year or so. If they get to be five and still have no interest in other children they'll then be old enough for you to talk with them and tell them some news things they can be doing in order to make some new little friends.
2006-09-07 19:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. This is very typical for children this age. They start to feel the emotion of anxiety and stress because they are aware that you can leave them, but you still exist. Before this age, their brains are not aware of this. They think that if they cannot see something, that it no longer exists. So...they are realizing that starting school means time away from you and the home (their common ground and comfort zone) and so their response is nervousness. All you can really do to help them, is constant reassurence. The worst thing you could do is not comfort them when they are feeling uncertain. With this, I understand that sometimes kids just won't give up, and when it's time for you to go, they refuse. At that point, you do just have to tell them you love, you will see them at such and such a time, kiss them, and say bye. They will be delighted to see you at the end of the day, and eventually look forward to school and their new friends. You'll see. Keep taking them to the playgrounds...they will start to integrate themselves.
2006-09-07 18:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Amy J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several sets of twins in our family.....all boys. I see this in the twins in our family, I was so glad when I was told that they will not allow twins in the same class room, my sisters and sister-in-laws were very upset about this. I think it all worked out for the better. They became more independent because of it. One set is 13 years old and I think that they are still too close, when socializing with other kids (at their house) they still in up together away from their friends.
2006-09-07 18:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twins usually have a hard time socializing with other kids. Try a support group that is local for support because there are things that can be done, I just don't know any. Sorry but good luck to you and your twins.
2006-09-07 17:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by LNZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a survival mechanism children develop around the ages 1-3 to protect themselves. They will eventually out grow it. All you have to do is take them to school, explain to them why they are there and why you have to leave. And even if they cry ( which they most likely will) just leave.They will eventually get used to it and become more enthusiastic about going to school. It just takes time.
2006-09-07 18:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by LayLay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that they have some different interests...so take them separately to do the things that they like to do..for example...if sally likes animals take her to the zoo or animal shelter/store...if billy likes dinosaurs take him to a dinosaur museum. If they are around kids that share the same interests then it will be easier to make friends.
2006-09-11 09:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try maybe having them tell jokes or something infront of the parents or relatives they know like they are speaking in public... or have relatives drill them with questions about shapes or adding colors or something to see if they respond.... it worked for mine but I don't have twins...
2006-09-07 17:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok, they're shy. sometimes i go and ask a random kid if he want to play with my kids. Your kids dont want you to but thats how you make friends.
2006-09-07 17:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Kasra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, they'll open up to others when they're ready.
2006-09-07 17:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋