SERIOUS COMPLICATED GlRL PROBLEM HELP?

Question

I am 14 and the girI I like is one grade lower.I was just informed the girl I like likes another guy and he likes her back. The guy, i dont know anything about, as in if he goes to this school or not ect.I still want to be friends with the girl. She knows I like her and that I wanted to be friends.I am so shy.If I go up and try to talk to her I just cant do it. Also she is always in a group of friends and I can never talk to her.I need a conversation starter, and i need to know how to talk to her when she with her friends and how to DEFEAT SHYNESS. PLZ HELP

Answer 1

Dude, here is a plan for you.

First, on the general problem of shyness, try to play some kind of competitive sport... get in shape and exercise. Achieve academically.

More specifically, when you see your lovely friend, try this:

situation A: she is with her friends.

Do NOT walk up and talk directly to her... especially if she is
the most popular one. If you know one of her friends, wave hello,
and SMILE, maybe say "hi" - to her friend - then walk by, SMILING.

Situation B: she is alone, let's say at her locker.
Walk by, and SMILE. Suppose she's standing there fiddling with her locker. You could toss off a casual remark about whatever SHE is paying attention to... e.g. " those combination locks are great, eh? ". Then SMILE.. and keep walking by.

If there's nothing obviously on her mind, option B is this:
compliment her choice of clothing (not her general loveliness). Make it sincere but very casual, like "hm. nice jacket!". Then SMILE, and keep walking.

Don't ask her any questions, or start talking about anything that would be awkward for either of you. Just echo what she's possibly thinking.. then SMILE.

If she starts talking, you could stop briefly. But don't stand facing her... stand sorta beside her, you both looking in the same direction. Don't stay long... just say "well, see you later" after a minute -and get going.

The beauty of this plan is you don't have to DO anything. You don't have to SAY anything. You just have to SMILE... and avoid doing awkward things, which you want to avoid anyway!

Good luck! You're the kind of guy that lots of girls would love to meet- THEY're just a little too shy....

Answer 2

First just find a girl and become friends with her, not your "significant other" just another one of your classmates. Talk to her for a while. This should become a confidence booster. When you feel your ready, hit it large! But if don't want to wait, there is always instant messaging. This way you really don't have to worry about messing up in front of her. Hope it works out for the best.

Answer 3

Walk by and say, "Hi" to them all one day and keep walking. Do it the next day too. Do it again the next day and this time add, "How's it going?" Continue adding more phrases each day and eventually you'll have to stop to talk to them.

Answer 4

"Excuse me, could I talk to you over here for a second.

Hi my name is (Fill in the Blank) and I was wondering if you would go out with me to go see (Fill in the Blank) this (Fill in the Date)."

Worry about the friends later.

Answer 5

well, u ned to get sum balls and realize she is a girl and she is nervous too, but since u are MORE obvious with urself she feels like she has the upper hand . . . next time u see her TRY oh try to play it cool and relax . . .

Answer 6

why do u keep asking this question?? uve asked it like 4 times already!

Answer 7

first, when walking by her and her friends.. why not just say hello, or sup? however yall say it now and walk on.. if she wants to talk to you then she will

Answer 8

defeat/shyness? no.
but why bother in such circumstances.

Answer 9

well im just like you... all i can say is just relax and be yourself but be nice.. you don't have to please her.. good luck...

Answer 10

get her hp no.