I got sick of my ex talking about other girls. He knows I am still very much in love with him. So I decided that I would sign off of AIM for a month. Just so I could get some time away from talking to him. Just kinda be all alone. I told him I was just gonna go for the night. If I would have told him the truth he would tell me I am not a good friend because I wasnt listening to his problems with other girls. So I didnt tell him. Do you think I did the right thing? He missed me last week when I went on vacation. So do you think he will miss me for this month? Do you think he might think something bad happened to me, since I wont be on for a month? Do you think he is gonna be mad when he finds out?
2006-09-07 17:33:11 · 17 answers · asked by an14341991 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, that's about...4 questions, plus the Am I horrible question...five questions in one! Away we go...
"Do you think I did the right thing?" I think you did the right thing. He's your ex, so you're really not obligated to always listen to him complain. You have your own feelings, and you're not required to have them hurt in the spirit of "being a good friend".
"Do you think he'll miss me for this month?" I think he'll miss you at first. It sounds like he uses you for an outlet for his frustrations with other women, and we all need an outlet sometimes. I think he'll find another one if you're not available.
"Do you think he'll think something bad happened to me?" It's possible. If he sends you an e-mail, or calls, or something like that, he might actually be concerned for your welfare. But I wouldn't count on that.
"Do you think he's going to be mad?" Do you really care? First, decide which is more important: your feelings or his. Second, if he's mad at you for having feelings and not wanting to hear about him and other women, then he's the bad friend, not you.
So to answer the first question last, no. You're not horrible. You're a human being and you have feelings. Nothing to be ashamed of.
2006-09-07 17:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you're a horrible person . Does he even know that you're still in love with him? Sometimes abscence makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe he will realize what a catch that you are & he really screwed up. If he doesn't realize that then he's not worth your time & energy.
To me he seems like he cares more for himself than he does you.
Maybe this month will get him to thinking & you guys can a hve a heart to heart. If he doesn't want to listen to you then completely break it off with him.
2006-09-08 00:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by motherfourchildren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you his ex if you still love him. Be bold tell him you don't want to hear him talk about other girls.
If he missed you while you were gone obviously there is something between you two. Either be friends or be lovers. Nothing more. You have to decide
2006-09-08 00:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by kay S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you enjoy being his friend but would rather not talk about the girls in his life. You must still have feelings for him if you still get mad over him talking about other girls. He might want to make you jealous and knows it is pushing your buttons.
2006-09-08 00:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, say it with me... CO-DE-PEN-DEN-CY
Symptoms:
Codependent people have a greater tendency to become involved in relationships with people who are unreliable, emotionally unavailable, or needy. Codependents try to control a relationship without directly identifying and addressing their own needs or desires on their own. This invariably means that they set themselves up for continued unfulfillment. Codependents always feel that they are acting in another person's best interest, making it difficult for them to see the controlling nature of their own behavior.
Symptoms of codependence are controlling behavior, distrust, perfectionism, avoidance of feelings, intimacy problems, caretaking behavior, hypervigilance or physical illness related to stress. Codependence is often accompanied by depression, as the codependent person succumbs to feelings of extreme frustration or sadness over his or her inability to make changes in the other person's (or persons') life.
Sign off of AIM forever, or be invisible to him. It is the only healthy choice left for you at this point.
2006-09-08 00:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,he will be mad no you are not being horrible,you are hurt an uspet that the guy you love doesn't love you back and is sending mixed signals.Move on forget about mr.inconsiderate jerk.
2006-09-08 00:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as painful as it may be, you need to put your ex in the past. it is not possible for ex's to be friends. whether you like it or not he is going to go out w/ other girls and that alone as you already know is to akward. move on and stop worring about what he thinks.
2006-09-08 00:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by Peanuts 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ivan the Horrible is cryin cause you stole the title!
2006-09-08 00:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you still like him. By the way why did you two break up?
2006-09-08 00:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by team_eon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your ex and you dont like him talking about other girls, then its time for you to move on hun
2006-09-08 00:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Lisa♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋