silly question, i know. but how do you get over someone you have strong feelings for, especially when you see them alot.
2006-09-07 17:28:41 · 31 answers · asked by sunny23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe pretend that he never existed, that it was just a dream or a nightmare..
2006-09-07 17:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by Muffin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus attention elsewhere, which is hard. Try to find the things that interest you and pay attention to them. If there is something you have always wanted to do, like learn an instrument or a new skill, put some effort and time into that. Get together with people who make you feel positive about yourself. Do something to help others, volunteer in a nursing home or hospital or library-get out there and as you feed your interests, you just might meet someone new, and help someone else out at the same time. I know it hurts, and I wish you the best.
2006-09-07 17:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Janeybaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to see them at all.
Stay really busy and make plans to better yourself and your future.
Date other people because that's a great distraction and it'll help you move on, but don't use someone else because you're hurting. Meaning don't allow someone else to fall for you knowing full well that you're incapable of giving back since you still have feelings for your ex. Date casually but don't get emotionally involved until you're ready and be honest with whoever you're dating that you're not looking for anything serious and that you just got out of a relationship.
And keep reminding yourself of the ways they wronged you, made you feel bad about yourself, and of the things that you really didn't like about them that you won't have to deal with anymore.
If they didn't wrong you, then do all the other things and allow time to heal you from the break-up and to remind you that it just wasn't meant to be.
2006-09-07 17:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEARN THIS NOW... REASON, SEASON, LIFETIME.
Some people come into our lives for a reason, and upon fulfilling it we part ways. Sometimes for a season, then for one reason or another we drift apart. Lifetime...well that's the one we all wait for. There is no such thing as wasted love. And each is different. Yep, it hurts, for now. Probably will for some time too. That's normal. It means your felings were honest (or you have posession & separation issues) In the mean time, go watch the sunrise! Excercise.Go somewhere.Be you.Smile a lot (It helps). Perhaps, most of all, realize your own value, and know that you don't NEED to be madly in love to be madly in love with your life.
2006-09-07 17:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by shanikored01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a silly question.
We go through stages of grief just need to give yourself some time.
Obviouslly the person was not your right partner .
Try not to go into a new relationship to soon give yourself some breathing space.
We can learn so much about ourselves during times like this.
The right one will come along one day and you will look back on this as one of lifes experiences.
At present you cannot see it this way.
Have a kind to me day do something special for yourself.
Put on your best hat dress yourself up and away you go.
Take care!
2006-09-07 17:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a silly question. I was going through that last year. I know it hurts alot but trust me you'll live. For the time being. Try to avoid them. If you see them be nice but just keep walkin' It's goin to be hard but trust me it gets a little easier every day.
2006-09-07 17:34:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if this person dumped you, then go to some private place, close the blinds, and shut the door, then have a good cry. Don't hold it back, just let it out. That's what I did when my girlfriend cheated on me. And I felt a whole lot better after that cry.
Good Luck, and keep on searchin'!
2006-09-07 17:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid the person totally. Dont be in contact with each other.
Indulge urself in some hobbies, household work, job, friends, movies, go for a walk at the beach.
Keep Smiling and stress-free.
2006-09-07 17:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by ashlesha19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that i have learned, is to get rid of any and everything u have of theirs, if it belonged to them then give it back, if it's pics, or letters throw them away, even if u see them alot, the stuff is just memories, and trust me u will still have them, but u don't have to feel bad when u look at it.
2006-09-07 17:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by fraggle4411 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is no way - you have to change the way how you look on the person. Stop using your imagination to keep the feelings - just see someone like you see new friend or stranger.
2006-09-07 17:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
book I like is How to Survive the Loss of a Love. could get it cheap at half.com
also --changing stuff in your life: a new haircut, a new hobby, and new activity in your life.
write about what was good that you learned from that person. and also what didn't/doesn't work for you and why you need to move on. writing has helped me a lot. . .
2006-09-07 17:32:09 · answer #11 · answered by sweets 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋