My husband and I were both virgins at age 21 when we were married after dating two and one half years. We have never regreted saving ourselves for each other. Many people did in our day. We are 63. It is so sad that today young people just give themselves away. How much they cheat themselves from making what could be the most exciting night in their lives to just another sexual encounter.
2006-09-07 17:24:23 · 29 answers · asked by Earleen S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i agree and i intend to save myself until my wedding night to lose my virginity.
2006-09-07 17:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know if I would call it "more fun", I think it would have definately been a scary experience, as I do remeber my first time, and I was scared out of my mind. However, morally I do wish I had done things different. Now that I am older than I was, I realize the "sin" in my actions. I think that for me, having sex at 19 before I was ever married, was the beginning of long road of failed relationships and exasperations. Now that I am 29 and three children later, I can only hope that my kids learn from my mistakes and decide to save themselves for marriage. Whether it is "exciting" or not, at least they will feel more secure in their decisions.
2006-09-08 00:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by saphbaby77 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Having virginity on wedding day could be fun but of course the fun is not forever. What is more fun is the fact for 42 years, you been together as husband and wife and I hope there was no gap in between and no one came between the two of you. Congratulations!
Our changing behaviours goes so much with the changing time. As man gains wisdom, instead of having to understand the beauty of some modesties, our social behaviourist had even helped to make virginity today as laughing matter for anyone above 15.
2006-09-08 00:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. My ex and I slept together before we got married. During our honeymoon there wasn't anything exciting. Actually the night of our wedding we just fell asleep. I think we had sex 2 days later. I truly regret having sex with him beforehand.
I wish there was a way to make kids understand it all. My son is 11 and we've had talks about it. Of course I tell him that it's a sin to have premarital sex but putting religion aside, I told him that being naked and touching and the actual sex act is THE more personal thing you can do with another person. You are completely sharing yourself with them. It is a way to share your love for each other. I truly blame the media for many of our problems today. Sex is advertised everywhere. Sitcoms, movies, MTV videos, standup comedians, posters, etc. It sounds like sex is just a hobby, a thing to do when your bored. If people would wait until marriage there wouldn't be teen pregnancies, unwanted pregnancies, lots less abortions, less HIV/AIDS patients, and other diseases. 13 year old are having sex. WHY?!?!? Their bodies haven't developed, what's there to look at and do with a 13 yr old body? Can't they find other things to do together? Movies, parks, biking, swimming, etc. Then when you start having sex it's hard to stop, especially for the guy. Then he pressures her into it. I can go on about this all. I truly think that parents have to take a stand and make the media accountable for what they show us. Sex is so personal and intimate. It's the only thing that a couple can do to get that close to each other. It's a way to love each other.
2006-09-08 00:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you 100%. It is sad...I think about how many young, young women who may end up pregnant,
having babies where the Father runs and denies the child. How youth in general are ruining their lives thinking sex is so important when it is not. Children should remain kids as long as they can. I assure you I did not have sex either. I feel so strongly perhaps it is the way one is raised. or it is just this generation. Blinded by wanting to grow up too fast. I was a virgin too however my marriage didn't last due to the war. He sadly returned a drunk and affected by what he experienced.
2006-09-08 00:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lore 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's great that it worked out for you- but am I a ho bag for thinking that I'd like to take the car for a testdrive before I buy it?
I guess I'd consider it giving myself away if I'm under the impression that sex is really for the male. It's for both to equally enjoy. And it's quite possible to have an exciting wedding night even though you've already had sex with the person you've decided to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-09-08 00:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by LAS 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, many families are broken, many children suffer bitterly for the separation of their parents, because many people nowadays ignore the sacredness of marriage.
Humanity need very much a proper education to restore them to their divine destiny, at least to be responsible about their lives, and especially about their innocent and helpless chidren.
2006-09-08 00:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes absolutely true. its te best of all the feelings and emotions. my husband and i saved ourselves till our marraige and we are glad we did that. and this sep 12th we are celebrating our 2nd marraige anniversary. my husband is 31 and i'm gonna be 25 this year, and we are very glad about our chocies in life.
its actually sad for young girls who are still in school who are either victims of false promises or sexual abuse. my heart goes out to those victims, who become unwed mothers and are not accepted by the family or society, and end up leaving school and working low wage jobs. its really disheartening to see such girls, who could be the next Governer, doctor, engineer or law official see that way. may God bless them and protect them in all ways.
peace to all.
2006-09-08 00:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by marissa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad my fiancee and I didn't wait. I have a few friends, not many, who waited till they were married and it caused problems. Knowing that you are sexually compatible with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is a good thing! It just depends on the person. Although I don't consider myself a slut, I never cared much for my virginity. I do care who I give myself to!
2006-09-08 00:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by spacedchic00 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is a most precious gift. Once you give it away, you can't take it back. It should be saved for marriage for both the man and the woman.
2006-09-08 00:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by country nana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I get Married next Saturday the 16th. My husband to be and i have been together for 5 yrs. Neither one of us have had sex and its a great feeling to know that it will be special for the two of us.
2006-09-08 00:29:06 · answer #11 · answered by Bug 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋