I'm 20 years old, and I've never had a serious boyfriend. I'm the only one of my friends that is still single, and it's very frustrating. I'm nice, and I don't drink, smoke or use drugs. I'm very friendly, but I don't go many places where people typically meet men (bars, clubs, etc) because I don't want someone who drinks regularly like that. I'm getting really impatient being alone all the time. Can anyone give me suggestions to find a nice, decent guy?
2006-09-07 17:14:02 · 26 answers · asked by nkygirl04 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you have a lot going on for you! I know this is going to sound like "don't think of pink elephants" but don't think of a boyfriend! Focus on yourself, discover your hobbies and interests and expand on what your talents are. If you are in school, study hard and attend school functions---to make friends! You don't want to find a guy at a club or a bar anyway, so it doesn't matter if you go there or not. Just don't think about it and I guarantee that's when you will find a partner. Also don't make yourself out to be "looking" people perceive it as "desperate" (unfortunately) and there's always something to be said about the thrill of the chase. Enjoy your 20's, they don't last long and remember that many of the people you see in relationships that appear happy may not be nowhere near as happy as you are right now, whether you believe it or not! Good luck!
2006-09-07 17:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by DesertRain 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give up on looking for guys and actually really do that. I know that sounds wierd but I think a guy gets scared when a girl looks like she is looking for a boyfriend. I bet when you actually start to give up they will come your way. Do not just jump at the first guy that comes along I say go out with as many as you can and get to know them. I am not saying have sex with them I am saying be friends with as many as you can. Act like you are not much into them and they will start to come around.
2006-09-07 17:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we're out there... some of us are taken (such as myself) but the rest don't go to bars, clubs either. Go to parks, try looking around at school. Don't be slutty, show class and you will attract the right kind of guy. Don't settle for the first guy that comes your way just because you're lonely. Stay strong. You will find eachother.
2006-09-07 17:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by itslate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out sometimes!!! With ur friends.
Not all guys that go to that kind of places are drinkers
Some are just looking for fun or happy times.
Or if u really dont like going to such places like bars etc.,
try some other place to meet people.
2006-09-07 17:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by KAREN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be annoying for you, but your mom is only protecting you and does not want anything to happen to you. Age difference does not matter she will always assume a guy is to old for you because you are her daughter. And yes your mom may have met your father the same time you met yours and your mom probably made some mistakes that she just does not want repeated to you. Just listen to her because in the end if something does happen to you, you will feel bad for not listening and you will regret the outcome.
2016-03-17 10:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a boyfriend then you are not going to find him staring at your computer screen like you are doing right now, go to the park, walk your dog, and if you dont have one then get one or borrow one and take the pooch to the dog park, go bike riding, go to a book store, the point i am trying to get across is go out and do some activities, sitting at home and pouting is not going to get you a boyfriend
2006-09-07 17:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go to Church they have programs for you to socialize in. Otherwise, there are gyms and dance studios to meet people at. I am thinking you need to find something you like and find a guy who likes that too. Shared interests cut the ice.
2006-09-07 17:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best place to find a guy is at church if your religous. If not join a gym or some kind of activity where you can meet a man. Good luck! :)
2006-09-07 17:16:56 · answer #8 · answered by PinkHighHeels 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tough one.ya gotta get yourself out there...some of the best connections are friends of friends.as birds of a feather flock together.so your friends are likely to have other friends that share your interests. ask around. maybe join a dating service.
I do know this, love will find you when you least expect it!
2006-09-07 17:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by buxombeauty_1962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw sweetie if youre 20 you will have plenty of opportunity to meet guys in college. Class is the best way to get to know each other. I speak from experience ! good luck
2006-09-07 17:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋