It's hard to find a girl that is looking for a genuine relationship and not want to jump in bed with you after a few days of relation, Sure some people click but it doesn’t mean they should do it right away since they have so much in common. There must be girls out there that would rather build a relationship, become best friends and then leave love making to the right moment and in my understanding that should come after months of getting to know one another. People tell me what you think and how long it took you to become one with the one you are currently in love with or married too, don't get the wrong impression, I don't want personal details of your love life, I just want to know if I'm asking for to much by wanting to leave it for the right moment, that could even mean not doing it till you have fallen in love and saving it till you get married. I feel saving it till you marry would mean much more to both of us. Tell me what you think and tell me if you are my type.
Thank you
2006-09-07 17:08:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i ask to hold hands,a kiss on the cheek,and a hug.....and when she ready,we will no
2006-09-07 18:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by romance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% with what your saying. Most people don't have your perspective..let alone a guy! So I really admire your dedication and will to not want to share something so intimate right away and just with anybody. I think now days people are really taking advantage of sex and what it means. People do it just to do it, for superficial reason such as physical attraction and so fourth. When you have taken the time to really get to know and feel someone and all those feelings of love are there it is a far much better experince. When sex is explored with someone whom you have taken the time to know then it is known as useless and un-moving; Because the the only destination in that is physical climax and the concentration of the lustful feeling. Where as when your connected with someone your only destination is expressing all your desires and love and pleasing that person. Sex is a very intimate and personal act and people are loosing sight of what that really is and means. Love should be made when the time is right. Also making love is more than what a lot of people think, making love does not last for minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months. Making love is everlasting, making love is smiling at the thought of the person, falling asleep in their lap, feeling butterflies when you hear or see them etc... So if you really love somebody you will come to know that you have already made love to them mentally and through their eyes and the physical aspect of it will fall into place and needs no introduction.
"There's no need to rush sex because the acts of love are content ; Where as the acts of lust are impatient"
Damn, I should be Dr.Phil..the girl...remix style!...lol
2006-09-08 00:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by StormyRain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....let's see...I was with one guy before I met my fiance. When I was with the other guy, sex was routine...at night in the dark in bed...hmmm. Now this guy never made me feel good about myself, so naturally I hated sex. I'd avoid it as much as possible!
My fiance helped me feel good about myself...he helped me understand that it's ok to open up sexually. It took a while for my fiance and I to be together intimately, but I was so glad I waited in the relationship with him. I'm also glad that I didn't explore with my ex, because I've learned and tried so many new things with my fiance. I knew it was right when I'd look in his eyes and see comfort. I knew it was right when he made me realize I actually am beautiful...inside and out.
There are both women and men out there who want the right person...I certainly hope these great people find each other! Good luck! :)
2006-09-08 04:45:38 · answer #3 · answered by littlerandiheather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could find a man like you. All the guys I've ever met, just want to jump in bed!
I think sex should wait till marriage, personally.
2006-09-08 00:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by geskuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think waiting would be the best idea... Take it from someone who has been there... I was priorly engaged to a guy that I thought was the right one... He was my first. After a year and a half, he believed rumors over me and we broke up... I took it hard! One of the main reasons I took it so hard was because I promised myself that I'd wait... And I thought since we were engaged that it was right and it wasn't... I completely respect your decision!! Way to go... There is definately someone out there who will respect your decision...
2006-09-08 00:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and tell her how you feel. That will take the pressure off of both of you. there are women who feel the same way. But you also can not put a time line on love.
2006-09-08 00:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I met my husband, I saw or spoke with him almost daily from the first night we met. We did get personal for months. NO pressure from either side., We both knew when it was right and we got married 6 months from the night we met.
2006-09-08 00:18:19 · answer #7 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must be after shower and must be person who you feel to be your soul mate. Don't abuse someone or use physically for just have sex. You must care of somebody feelings and life.
2006-09-08 00:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing matters except that you both agree on when. Then it is the right time.
2006-09-08 00:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by malraene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're going for the wrong type of girl?
2006-09-08 00:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋