Why do I feel so tense and nervous in social situations?

Question

Why do I feel so tense and nervous in social situations? I sit there and always think that everybody in the room or where ever I am looking at me and watching my every behavior,than I start to feel really tense and nervous,my face gets red,can barely talk,can't contcentrate at all,my mind is racing one negative though after another non stop. When people talk to me I can barely say couple words to them and than I turn ultra red and my voice becomes really high tone and my eyes get sensitive and red. Could this be some chemical imbalance in my body. How can Panic attacks just appear for no reason. My whole day goes through worrying that everybody is looking at me where ever I am. And I know that if someone will talk to me when I am feeling this way, I wont be able to respond,talk to them. Thats why I started avoiding all social situations. I am average looking guy,and Ive been told by girls that I am good looking. How do I am stop thinking that everyone is looking at me in negative way?

Answer 1

Many people feel tense and nervous when they are faced with social situations, I can assure you that you are not alone. This feeling is termed "social anxiety", and I too have a bit of it myself. If you feel that the anxiety and panic attacks are interfering in your life you may want to go to your doctor and tell them about the situation. There are alot of various medications or medication combinations they use to treat anxiety and panic attacks. now as medicine is always improving they don't carry as many side effects any more and if you are having problems the medications you can take are almost endless. I am on Paxil for my anxiety and panic attacks and I've improved 100% but as all medications they work with each person different. You're doctor will be able to provide you with more information and prescribe a medication based on your medical history and need.
Your situation does sound a lot like mine, I would avoid people at all costs and at first I kept telling myself it wasn't a problem but I could see that it was limiting my ability in life so I decided to talk to my doctor. You may want to do it because once you it can change your life.

Answer 2

Start small. Talk to a few people. Once you get a feel for it, it'll be much better. Lots of people don't like social situations - only if you actually feel physical effects, you should seek counseling. Things should improve with practice and a little self-esteem.

Answer 3

it depends how you were brought up i believe you were not able to go out and socialize with other kids when you were a kid,maybe your parents were over protective and thus causing you to have this problems when you are growing up,its not too late try to work it out,i believe you are a cute guy and what i can tell you is raise your head when you walk and put a smile on your face we need you in this social world you cant do anything if you keep on being nervous you wouldnt even pass an interview if you keep what you have now take care

Answer 4

lots of people feel this way, you're not alone! however, I have never had this problem, so I don't know what 2 suggest.

On the other hand, this makes me curious to know, why DON'T I ever get nervous around people I don't know? I am a sensitive person, hmmm... I think I sort of think of people as a neutral part of the landscape, like fences and parked cars. Or in a small room, as sort of the same as sofas and lamps, only they chatter and make noise, much like caged birds. Then I really don't care what they're thinking. Seems to work fine. Prevents me from becoming emotional at all.

Then if I have a conversation, I am not all nervous to begin with, I can relax and blurt out whatever.

Answer 5

Sounds like you have social anxiety disorder - this is a real medical term not just something made up. Check it out online under medical conditions. Panic attacks seem to come on for no apparent reason, but deep down inside yourself you have extreme anxiety that brings these attacks on. I'm not just feeding you a line, I use to have severe panic attacks and I thought I was going to die. Seek professional help - you need someone who specializes in this area. Good luck!!

Answer 6

You did a beautiful job explaining yourself in writing. It takes practice talking in large groups. Start small. You know, there is nothing wrong about being a good listener. Most people talk too much. Have you ever heard the saying, " Still waters run deep." I too had problems twenty years ago. With time, everything gets easier. I didn't take meds to get better. Join some clubs. If you are still in school, join the marching band. You can make more friends to talk to without needing to talk a lot. You will learn to play a instrument and be part of a group. You won't need to talk very much while you're practicing the music. Just remember to smile and everything will be fine. I would not start taking drugs before trying to overcome this naturally.

Answer 7

I get it too. Panic attacks. I just try to breathe in and relax. Remember no one's REALLY looking at you. If they are, maybe they're checking ya out, and that's not bad is it? ;)

Seriously... talk to a professional. Some medication might help?

Answer 8

It soundas like maybe you have mild depression. Do tear up a little? Talk to a psycologist or a church councelor and get to the root of the self asteem issue. trauma can bring on social problems, nutruition perhaps.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You have social anxiety disorder. You need to see a counselor or if you want medications, see a psychiatrist. I too suffer from this. Mine is not as severe, but I always feel like people are talking about me, looking at me, making fun of me. And when I try to talk to people, my mind goes blank. Seriously, see about seeing a counselor.