I've been dating a guy for about 3 months and I really like him. The problem is I hate his work schedule. I am a corporate woman so I work 9-5pm Monday thru Friday but he is a blue collar guy who works 12-9pm and only off on Tuesdays and Wednesdays. I've always dated men who had the same work schedule or very similar schedule to me so this is a new challenge for me.
I didn't mind at first but now it is really starting to effect me, my feelings towards him and my thoughts about the future with him. All of my social activites are done in the evenings and on weekends and he can't do them because he works. This is putting a damper on our relationship because I can't be with him. Also by the time he gets off from his job through the week, it's too late to go on a date so I am getting very frustrated with our relationship.
He can't change his schedule and I can't change mine. I'm thinking about ending this because I feel neglected. Can this type of relationship work and if so how?
2006-09-07 17:03:38 · 12 answers · asked by chocolatebabycakes 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It can work if you want it to bad enough, but from what I read you have already made up your mind.
If 2 people want to be together there isn't much that can stop them. They always find a way to make it work. If you want to stay in it for the long haul then talk with him. If he feels the same then he might go find another job.
2006-09-07 17:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can work -I am a blue collar-and very proud of it-my wife is white collar and I am very proud of her .Don't think that just because a person didn't attend collage that they are uneducated -in fact you kind of sound like the one that needs to learn a thing or two! A degree is a great thing but its not the end of the world-if the guy treats you good and is making you happy then why would you even ask if it would work-a lot of people w/ degrees aren't as special as they think they are so get over yourself and give the guy a break before he wises up a figures out that your so shallow and finds himself a "stupid" girl!!
2016-03-27 02:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it won't work only because you are questioning ending it. My husband is an over the road trucker and I see him 2 days every 2-3 weeks. I love him more than anything I ever dreamt of. I'd rather spend a little time with him till he retires than to not have him in my life. It will only work if you truly love him and can't picture you life without him. I feel lonely a lot but he is doing this for us and our new home.
2006-09-07 17:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a rather selfish thing to say, I think if you really want to make this relationship work, you will learn to accept the difference in hours, I know many couples that have completly different schedules and they are very happy... You should be able to value and appreciate the time you do get to spend together alot more than couples that see each other every waking minute
2006-09-07 17:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by channille 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not end the relatioship bc of schedules! It is so hard to find someone.
It seems that you could still have weekend dates. You could go out to breakfast or go on a walk and go to the farmer's market. There are lots of things to do on weekend mornings before noon. Also it is sometimes nice to have late night dates on weekends if you liek to go dancing or see a midnight movie!
On the days he has off, maybe he could meet you for lunch!
And you could certianly go out on Tues and Wed nights.
I think it will be fun bc you will have to be creative and not just regular old dates. You also could probably go looking for good deals like late night happy hours and such.
good luck!
2006-09-07 17:11:15 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello..........(blue collar shift work here).........
so I can SPEAK from experience........it makes for a very tough relationship.............(why else am I at home on Yahoo)... lol....:(
All I can tell ya is...............I would be willing to change jobs, or even move, if I found the right person, because work is necessary and I will most likely always do that....but finding the right person to spend your life with is rare and well worth making career changes for..........to say the least.
2006-09-07 17:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
It won't work out. You don't want it enough. End it now before you hurt one another over something this petty.
And don't think that I am being hard on you. You spelled it out fine and I believe this is a big enough problem to keep in the way of you ever being happy with this guy. Move on.
2006-09-07 17:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by LORD Z 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My relationship is this--he is blue collar, works 7-4. I am white collar, work noon-8. We can breathe. It's awesome. Plus he makes dinner. lol.
2006-09-07 17:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him, it can definately work. You never knowwhat the future could hold. Maybe a different schedule for him or something.
2006-09-07 17:06:44 · answer #9 · answered by misti c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like Miranda and Steve from Sex and the City. watch it may be it will help
2006-09-07 17:06:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋