ok i know that jesus is very real! he has talked to me before (in my spirit) but i have backslidden twice and it is very easy for me to go back but i dont want to cause i get worser and worser i just want what god has for me! then the church where the lord called me to, the pastor wont mentor me at all and i end up either leaving or separating myself from them eventhough im still there, in my mind i think i should go to a church where someone will mentor me and not be afraid to tell me the truth even if i dont want to hear it! help! what should i do! I was with him for at least 6 in a half years and he never mentored me!
2006-09-07 16:49:27 · 31 answers · asked by DUSTY 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
First of all, please dont listen to the non believers or the people writing stupid crap just to get points. No, not all churches will tell you the same thing. My suggestion is to pray and pray and pray about it. I have the exact same dilemma. But nobody can give me an answer on what to do except God. Stay strong in the Lord. He needs you to do that. God Bless.
2006-09-07 16:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Raquel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that we are to be followers of Christ not of men. I find it curious that you only mention the pastor as a potential mentor. Are there no other men in the congregation who could mentor you? Is your congregation one that is centered around the pastor? If there are no others or if this is the pastors church instead of Christ's church, then it may be that you should find a new church. You should be aware that your faith will not grow to it's full potential from sitting in a pew. You must serve others and allow the Holy Spirit to go to work. Also, I cannot give a complete answer with out knowing if you have been properly baptized. If you have not been, then you cannot expect to have the Holy Spirit.
I'll pray for you. Email if you like.
2006-09-07 17:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by unicorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say what you should do... not knowing your pastor's side of the story too. He may just be really busy. You may be demanding more of his time than he has to give to just one person. I don't know... but your "real" mentoring should be in a Sunday School class of your peers. Also you could find a older man in your church who you respect as a Christian and ask him questions about your faith. Surely to goodness there is somebody in that church who has a heart for mentoring others. You don't have to rely only on your pastor's advice. That's my "real Christian" answer.... and my good deed for the day.
2006-09-07 17:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by atheist_2_u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are tempted, we will always given a way out, because He is faithful to us. 1 Cor 10:13
However, how faithful are we to Him when we are tempted? That is the question you need to be able to answer. It is quite possible the reason you have not been given a mentor is because God is just waiting to see if you will just have faith in Him, and not in a mentor? Because spiritual growth, a personal relationship with Him is not about being mentored by another person...it is about being mentored by almighty God Himself through His Word. And the only way to get that mentorship is to delve so deep into His Word, you never want to leave His side again.
Don;t think church and other people are your source of growth in the Lord; that is an illusion and a deception the church can give unfortunately. God is in you! God is in His Word! Seek Him through His Word to discover where He is in you...through His Holy Spirit. Pray. Work. Have faith. And belief will soon lighten the doorstep of your heart.
I hope for the best for you in your journey! Enjoy it with Him! Seek it with Him, not a church or others...but only Him!
2006-09-07 16:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bible Trekker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are attending a church with only 1 member who can mentor others, then you are going to the wrong place!
There should be other believers there that are older and wiser than you (unless you are over 95). Join a church Bible study, and make some friends, and learn who the "mature" people are. Get to know a few of them well, and then you may enter into a mentoring-style relationship with one or more of them.
The "pastor" is not there to mentor everybody in the church, and he certainly shouldn't try. That kind of attitude leads to "minister burn out".
"In a multitude of counselors there is wisdom." Proverbs
2006-09-07 16:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't getting fed spiritually you should ask God to lead you to a different church. A church that has a "small group" program would be wonderful. A "small group" allows you to get into a closer relationship with a few people from your church who are there to support you and help you. Pastors should be available to help you and assist you with your walk with the Lord. But remember, pastors usually have many people that they minister to. If you are involved with a small group, there will be other Christians besides the pastor who will help you when you are struggling with your issues. Perhaps if you tell the "community" here on Yahoo Answers what part of the country you are from, we could recommend a good church.
2006-09-07 16:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by Gwen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God likes when you go to church on Sunday to hear his words being spoken and to comunicate with like-minded people.
But, Jesus came to Earth to be your mentor and promised the Holy Spirit would be there to mentor you in his absence. Your focus is in the wrong place. No man can save you or tell you what only the Holy Spirit knows you need to hear. "Seek (God, The Truth, Salvation) and you SHALL find" Don't seek a man to save your soul. It won't happen. God sacrificed his son on the cross only to make your personal relationship with him possible again. He wants a PERSONAL relationship with you THAT badly!!! He wants to be your mentor. Don't try to put a man in the middle. Can you more clearly understand why now? I can absolutely see your misdirected focus is stopping your spiritual growth. Make time to talk to God. Make time to listen. Stop searching for a mentor to replace him. ACT on what you hear and progress. Nothing will bring you closer to God than acting out your faith. Doing things that only make sense if you believe. Ask HIM for help where you're weak. You'll get it for sure. Things move slower when you're weak and need a little help. But... they move...
2006-09-07 17:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a church that fits your specific needs. It is not a Pastor job to mentor whoever 'feels' they need mentoring. A Pastor has far more responsibilities than that. You need to attend a church that is big enough to have Deacons. One of them could possibly mentor you. Good luck in your quest. God Bless.
2006-09-07 17:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not totally backslidden, you just felt bad that this Pastor failed to notice your desire to be mentored. You have a genuine desire to be help in your walk with the Lord. Pray which church to go- one that welcomes you as a friend and a brother in the Lord.
2006-09-07 16:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by emator 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A pastor is but a mere mortal, after all. Some of them are impure....some are indeed sinners who make laymen look like angels.
There is NO shame in seeking another pastor who will mentor you. Whether this is because you just 'don't click' with your current pastor or because he has sinned by refusing to mentor you will be judge by the Lord.
2006-09-07 16:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋