it seems like all i hear is how so many women get treated like crap by their bfs but yet when they have the chance to be with the nice guy they dont take it
also i dated this girl a couple of months who i treated way better than her ex but yet she broke up with me to be with her ex and when i started payin less attention to her and treating her worse she called more and more
so please someone tell me y so many women choose the ***hole over the nice guy because i cant figure it out
2006-09-07 16:27:49 · 24 answers · asked by cowboy76360 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i got news for ya ladies the ***hole aint gonna change cause u aint gonna be the first one he has hurt and u wont be the last
2006-09-07 16:35:32 · update #1
i say all of us nice guys should get together and go out and beat the living **** out of the ***holes.....in case u havent figure out i just recently had someone im in love with choose the ***hole over me so im alittle argry not at her but at someone myself maybe
2006-09-07 16:39:14 · update #2
nice guys r not always push overs either sometimes their more of a bad*** than the ***hole its just that the nice guys feel they dont need to prove that they can take anyone anywhere and all that crap (atleast thats the way i feel)
2006-09-07 16:41:38 · update #3
This is my own thought and I am not into psychiatry, I read somewhere that woman pick the bad guys because they have very low self esteem about themselves. Another thing is they don't know how to handle happiness, the only time they can be happy is when they are miserable. I know that don't make to much sense, but that is how their mind works. Just my thoughts.
2006-09-07 16:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want both. The nice guy with a bad boy streak. Someone to keep 'em on their toes. Keep the spark alive. It's no fun when the relationship becomes stragnent. So we want a nice guy who'll take care of us, and listen to us, and provide for us...but it is kind of nice if he stands up for us when someone's in our face, or he carries groceries in for us, or he actually knows what he's doing in the sack. But as for ur ex...she just wants what she can't have. If she really wanted her ex, she wouldn't be after u. If she really wanted u, she wouldn't be after her ex. Plus...a woman likes it when she gets together with an ***, and turns him into a nice guy. It's like we had a purpose, and we fullfilled it. When we turn him into a nice guy, then we'll try to get a bit of that *** behavior back. We just want something to do. That's why when women have kids...they'd just wish their husband would grow up. But when they're single....it's not such a problem.
2006-09-07 23:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men who grew up around b*tchy women tend to prefer them over decent women. So believe it or not, this goes both ways. Some of the best guys I've ever met - decent, kind, etc., are completely in love with women who've continously treated them like crap. They get turned on by that.
It's in a lot of people's nature (male and female) to continue to want what they can't have - in this case, the love of a woman who doesn't really want them but keeps them around because they're safe, they always make them feel wanted and good about themselves, and until someone who she thinks is better comes along. It's like keeping the guy on a string - you pull him in when you need him. In your case, she wanted you because you ignored her and didn't want her anymore.
Just make sure that you're the nice guy who's not the pushover or doormat. Make that perfectly clear so that girls respect you. Girls tend to confuse that. They also think that as*holes are more interesting, which you can prove them wrong.
At any rate, I think that most women who like difficult men grew up around emotionally unavailable men, so it's like they think this guy, who's just like the men she grew up with/without, will love her and therefore it'll somehow heal them from that part of their past. But eventually, at some point in adulthood and after a lot of pain, they learn that you can't change them, and really, really appreciate any good men that might come into their lives.
And never, ever let a girl disrespect you. Girls who do that will get turned on by the fact that you didn't let them get away with it, and once you ignore them, will want you more. When you're confident, don't pay them much attention, and they know you're a great guy who doesn't want them, it'll attract them. Do yourself a favor and find some nice girls who can appreciate who you are and don't need all that drama. Don't overlook THEM.
2006-09-07 23:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Purple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was discussing this the other night with someone. We think it's the excitement 'bad' boys generate. Also, some people, guys included want what they can't have. But, in the end, nice guys win. Nobody wants to be treated badly for long.
2006-09-07 23:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have wondered this for a long time. I have friends who go out with guys that r bad for them when i know they can do better. Maybe they r the ones with low self esteem and they need the sorry once to make there selfs fell better. Best of luck!
2006-09-07 23:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat19582002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman wants a guy that they can walk over, and mice guys tend to be those people. We want someone who is strong and we want to feel protected and if the guy is nice all the time then he comes off as a push over, and thats not attractive...
2006-09-07 23:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of those women had dominating males in their lives growing up and just feel more comfortable around that. It will take some therapy for a woman who feels like that to learn to accept herself first and think she is "worthy" of a good man.
2006-09-07 23:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by jimjones3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'm not drawn to a**holes but I'm also not attracted to a guy that has no confidence--a lot of the nice guys don't (I found one). So any nice guys looking for a girlfriend: my advice is to try to project confidence (that doesn't mean being a jerk)
2006-09-07 23:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by 9manties 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have wondered the same thing. So many times I have seen the girl pass over the good guy for the good looking a...ole only to get dumped or worst divorced
2006-09-07 23:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by tman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the same way guys go for bad girls and not the good ones.
Many the naughty ones draw more attention and the good ones are difficult to remember.
2006-09-07 23:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Ttraveller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋