Did anyone have a fight with their spouse on the morning of their wedding day and have your marriage survive?

Question

My husband and I are both informal, and naively attempted to plan our own wedding, without hiring any planners or reading any of the magazines. Surprisingly, we did not get into any wedding planning fights or angst during the whole year of planning...until the morning of...and every potential penned up anxiety was blown up and shared. We both said a lot of things that morning we regret. Luckily, we shook it off, made adjustments, and enjoyed the evening ceremony. Now, we're almost at the end of two years of marriage, and it has been for the most part very typical (happiness with the occasional bumps). However, when the disagreements come out, or when I hear about happy wedding days, I still feel like the marriage is "doomed for a divorce" because of how it started. I know it's silly...but it's difficult.

Any insight???

Answer 1

On our wedding day, my husband locked his car keys inside the car which was inside the car wash! Interestingly, we have spent a lot of our married life looking for his keys. And our wedding day was not the last time we found the keys in the car. LOL

The day before our wedding, we nearly called the whole thing off. I am glad we didn't. We were both under stress. We were having the wedding of someone else's dreams and we just wanted to be married.
My husband and I have been married for 29 years. We agreed at the beginning to never go to bed angry. We've adjusted it a bit over the years to include things like don't discuss finances after 9pm, eat first, and try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. Understand that you will disagree, but it doesn't have to lead to divorce. (My parent's have been happily disagreeing with one another for nearly 50 years. They seem to enjoy it and consider themselves happily married...Go figure.)

For the most part our marriage has been good. But we are two selfish people who would really like to have it be all about "me". ; ) So, there have been lots of bumps in the road. The longer you are married the better you ought to know each other. You will learn when it is a good time to talk about a subject or to drop it. I've found that most arguments do not happen if you wait until you are rested, not hungry, or feeling less stressed to discuss them.

So...stop thinking about the wedding (that is over, you can't change it) and continue to build a strong marriage. ; )

Answer 2

The three days leading up to and lasting through the wedding was a disaster. My wedding was beautiful but everything seemed to go wrong from weather to hotel rooms, lost wedding bands and the WRONG CAKE! Ahhh!!! My husband and I were so stressed out and really took it out on eachother for a couple days. But, everything was great after the actual wedding was over. Things are still great between him and I, the first years are pretty tough, I'll admit. We went to a marriage counselor on and off for about a year and realized we just really need to learn how to listen. Good luck on Marriage, It's difficult to make it work these days.

Answer 3

You may be thinking this way as you are scared that this thing might spoil your relationship. But 2 yrs has time tested your relationship and love between you both. Hence now nothing can happen. Pls remove this thought once and for all. Or best...fight it out with your hubby so that everything will be out and you will have no regrets. And you will feel in control and relaxed. But make sure it should only be a hot discussion and not a fight to spli you both

Answer 4

You have been married for two years right? And for the most part they have been happy right?

Forget about it! Be happy.

Answer 5

something that's helped us with the hiccups is marriage counseling --it might be helpful to try a few sessions just to ease your mind and clear the air and appologize and talk about your fears.

Answer 6

as you age, you will realize it's all small stuff.