Mw and my girlfriend were talking today and the mentoning of the security of our relationship came up. We talked about it for a bit and she told me that 7 years is a long time to be with someone and said she needs to "expirience" other people but then come back to me. I wondered why she would want to expirience other people to end up comming back to me.....it really makes no sense. Then she asked me if she broke up with me if I'd take her back....I told her that I didn't know. Would it be wise to take her back if she did this?
2006-09-07 16:12:59 · 15 answers · asked by yotazama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's just like a husband being asked by his wife if he will allow her to have sex with another man. No man in his right frame of mind will ever agree to that. One who does agree may have mental imbalance.
Your girlfriend may have a deeper reason for wanting to do that much to your disadvantage. She failed to understand your feelings when she told you about it. I'm sure that you didn't like that idea because if you did, you would not have your question right now.
A close analysis of your situation gives me the idea that your girlfriend has somebody in mind with whom she would like to have a romantic relationship now. Only, she doesn't want to lose you in the process, and wants to make sure that if ever her relationship with that someone does not work, you will still be there for her.
She should be sure about her feelings for you right now considering the fact that you've been into that relationship for seven long years. What else does she want to experience? It will be very unfair on your part if you will allow her to do that exploration with your consent just because you love her.
You know, I believe that she loves you but not enough to be contented with having you. May be, she is trying to find from somebody else what she likes in a man that she didn't see in you. But what she will do is an insult on your manliness as far as the other man is concerned.
Yap, you were right when you said that what she wants to do makes no sense at all. She's selfish in her own right wanting do something for herself at your expense.
I think it would be best if you tell her to do what she wants to do but to give her that statement that she may lose you along the way. There's no use for you to hold her back from doing that because once you get married in the future, that may be the time when she will explore her feelings. But when she does exactly that, you'd better search your heart and soul if you will continue loving someone who hasn't loved you enough all those years.
Then, do what your heart will dictate. Good luck.
2006-09-07 16:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If she wants to get out and see if she is missing out on anything.....then sure. But I dont think she will go anywhere if she did that. 7 years is a long time to be with someone, and I dont think she would throw that away. I would take her back though dude. Just make sure she doesnt cheat on you in the future from her experiances in that little exploration time.
2006-09-07 16:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by awall71688 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that perhaps, you need to answer this question for yourself; do you really want to sit around and be her safety net for when things "don't work out" with whoever else she is with? The two of you probably need to sit down and talk about this situation at length. Let her know that if she leaves, there is no gurarantee that the door will still be open for her. She needs to realize that the responsibility for leaving the relationship rests on her shoulders; be strong my friend, stick to your guns; don't let her play you; if things have gotten to that point, well, it is probably time to end it.
2006-09-07 16:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bascially it sounds like she is getting really bored w/ being in a relationship and is not ready to commit. she feels like she is missing something , which is probably wrong since ya'll have been together this long, but let her go and see. she will most likely come back after she realizes that she should be w/ u. i am not saying take her back but if u love her and want to be w/ her, u will know.
2006-09-07 16:18:53 · answer #4 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to go if she needs to but if you find someone else that there is no coming back.How old is she? could she be going thru a midlife crisis or has something happened recently to make her wonder about her life. It could be a lose of family or friend up to a year back.
2006-09-07 16:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat19582002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like shes basically asking your permission to go "sow her wild oats" and then come back to you. Is that really the kind of woman you want to continue having a relationship with?
2006-09-07 16:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not love, nor does she respect you as a person. She is a bad and mean girl because she use u to fill the spot, just in case. Which part didn't you see?
2006-09-07 16:16:22 · answer #7 · answered by nfr2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say by my standards no. But to each his own. To me it seems like she wants to "test the waters" and see if she cand find something better while keeping the security of knowing she has you "just in case". Move on. You deserve better.
2006-09-07 16:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,, she could come back 2 full of std's i think that's the stupidest thing i ever heard,, if she really loved u she wouldn't want to experience anyone else except you,, chances r she is cheating on you as we speak,, i think u deserve better then that,,, even though i don't know you,, nobody deserves to be treated like that
2006-09-07 16:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by mami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably already got someone in mind,she really has some nerve to ask if you would take her back,and you need to get some self respect,im sure you deserve better than that!!!!!!
she could also bring back some std
2006-09-07 16:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by boozer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋