I met a guy online and we had shared a lot at least I thought. I really felt like I was falling in love with him and I know that I was in love with who I knew him to be. Now over the past month he has told me that he thinks I have lied to him about stuff. I havent lied. I hate liers and I am not one! He got mad cuz I asked ?'s on here... big deal they are only questions...now he wont talk to me....and it hurts more than I thought it would...help me mend this pain....
2006-09-07 16:08:07 · 32 answers · asked by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should not be too concerned about that jerk. While he may have hurt your feelings, you were true to your heart and refused to lie, refused to give in to the the temptation to lash out and call him names. Pat yourself on the back, have a tall glass of self esteem, put on your longest eyelashes and go out with your friends so they can enjoy your company. Who knows...maybe you'll meet the true love of your life?
2006-09-07 16:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by fla_dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The internet dating can be a two edge sword one hand you can be open because your identity is shielded then you can on the same side walk away cuz there isn't any real commitment online. It takes a lot of time to find the right person. The pain you feel now will ease and don't give up the search just shield your heart a little more carefully next time. When you get to know the real person then share your heart with them.
2006-09-07 16:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by oktobejustme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meeting people online is fine. Falling for somebody on line can be complicated. First if you have never met him in person then all you know about him is what he has chosen to tell you. Who's to say what he has told you ins't a lie. If he lives half way across the country then what good is he to you anyway. Chalk it up as a lesson learned and let it go. As for the heart break it will just take time.
2006-09-07 16:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by noname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depend's on what kind's of questions you asked on here. Know this, I am not judging you or him. Maybe he thinks there is distrust because you are not asking him some of the question's what ever they may be, especially if it is in correlation with your online relationship with him. Or maybe he feels some insecurity about you getting mislead by inexperienced answers. If your question's have nothing to do with your relationship with him then disregard the above. A good practice, (and again I am not presuming this is the problem) is to keep your relationship reasonably private and if you have any questions concering it, consult someone you know and really trust or a specialist. To sum it all up ask him what's really on his mind and you tell him what's on your mind if theres a problem. Communication is a relationship saver most of the time and a good practice all of the time. Good luck.
2006-09-07 16:21:59 · answer #4 · answered by j56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Entering into serious relationship over an internet is like gambling- you might win, you might lose, no guarantee.
Just let go of the pain. Help yourself. You are the key to mending that pain and don't enter again into that path. No more!
2006-09-07 16:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by emator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot possibly be IN LOVE with anyone you meet on line, love takes personal contact, you may be infatuated with him for some reason. You say "I was in love with who I knew him to be", and this is my point, people on line can tell you anything. How do you know the picture he sends you or what he says is real? For what you know, this guy is some 50 year old pervert getting off on talking to you, or some 13 year old fat boy who's smart enough to charm you. Get over it and meet some real people so you know what you're dealing with.
2006-09-07 16:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could say something to cheer you up but as we all know love does hurt sometimes. Better to find out now how he acts then wait til later. I wonder if he has a guilty conscience or something to make him act like that.You can do so much better girl.Do you have myspace? its also a great place to meet folks but I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-09-07 16:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat19582002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did he live close to u and did u meet him in person or jus on line. some people just look for someone to talk to online and sometimes it gets too serious so they find a way to get out of it. i think he most likely dumped u and u probably will never hear from him again. it hurts i know it does but u will get over it i know u will. don't let it get u down. try not to get so attached to people because u don't want to get hurt again. don't give up though i met my fiancee on line so love will happen for u. if u ever need someone to talk to just message me. i'm up to talking to people. hope things work out for u.
2006-09-07 16:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by ryan s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of your computer and go volunteer your time doing something for someone else. Help at a food pantry, or soup kitchen. Give your time at the Humane society or at a nursing home. Get involved with Habitat for Humanity, or simply collect can's and give the recycling money to someone else.
Stop whining and grow up.
2006-09-07 16:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fact: you don't really need help to mend this pain. You are capable without outsiders butting their noses into your business. It is good to talk and share. It is good for others to listen. The rest is up to you. Give yourself time and have confidence in your ability to handle normal emotions.
2006-09-07 16:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋